Sub-Zero said:
Im know this post is dumb old, but what advice would you give a Virgin or a relative inexperienced dude to get 20 lays a year? Going from a Virgin to having sex with 20 women within a year sounds cool. How can a person like that improve so quickly? What is your advice ?
Just a little food for thought, how I think it would be best done:
-Come up with an action plan...goal, sleep with 20 women in one years time. Also keep in mind that this is more likely a three year process, but depending on your starting skill set, looks, learning abilities, social understanding....etc could be done in the first year, but not likely.
-break that goal down into easily sizable chunks, lets say you want to be super aggressive and bed 20 women in your second year of seduction.(Much more realistic than bedding 20 women in year one)
-Go through ALL the skills you need and list them out. And focus on a few at a time. approach, number, deep dive, fundamentals, moving, kissing, pulling, social circle(optional)...etc and go ahead.
-Start going out a lot. 3-5 times a week would be good for a few hours at a time. Then start developing your process.
-Repeat this every until your getting laid pretty damn consistently.
References:the newbie assignment is a wonderful place to start. ALSO I think doing 30-90 day challenges is a GREAT way to acquire a social tool belt to draw from fast. Check out haraklus journal(90 days of game). The challenge is to go out and open a certain number of girls daily. It will get your momentum moving.
Theres tons more and other ways to achieve this but this is just a nuts and bolts guide, and I think you can do this the fastest with night game in MOST areas, unless you live in a metropolitan city in which you have enough day time options for this to be reasonable.
Also! for reference, heres my story. I hope this shed some light on what it takes for a guy who's been in the game a good while.
I have been doing game for multiple years, I was thinking yesterday, if I subtract my time in monogamous relationships, from the time I first got laid, I've been gaming for about 5 years. 3 of those years, my only "game" reference was david deangelos "double your dating" which is a good primer and I briefly trie the mystery method which I just looked like an idiot trying, for the first three years, nearly all my lays were social circle party lays. nearly 0 true cold approach. I didn't REALLY step it up in cold approach until I found GC and RSD about 2.5 years ago. I also SUCKED with women when I started and was super needy co-dependant unattractive and unconfident.
I, like Franco, have basically lost count, but my best estimates put me right around 60 women now. Out of the 5 years I have been gaming hard, my 2 highest partner years were one in college where I was throwing parties EVERY weekend, and I think my count was in the high teens in one year. I still kind of sucked with women then, but my logistics (my own party) were pretty much the best you can get and I had tons of social proof. Then my first year doing night game 3-5 nights a week, I did top 20 in a years time. HOWEVER, many of those lays were questionable quality I would basically pull home and fuck whoever I could. But, I don't regret it because it made me more skillful and it was fun and I knocked out a bunch of bucket list items like,....have sex with 3 different new girls in three consecutive days...have a threesome(or a few

)...fuck a "10" (whatever that means, Ive completely realized theres hardly any universal 10s).
This year, since april (my first lay of this year), I have slept with 11 women, 3 who were meh, but the rest all attractive. I have really put a focus on quality this year and am attracting the hottest girls of my life. I am on track to sleep with over 20 women by april 2016, altho thats not my goal at all and i may or may not hit that point.
Also, this year, I have hit a "pinnacle point" in my personal game. I, of my own volition, for the first time in my life, have took a girl who I met via cold approach who was incredibly attractive, incredibly smart, motivated, and of high character, bedded her, have been screening the shit out of her for desirable qualities, and am now in the process of beginning a relationship with her with a strong foundation.
Out of all that work and all that time invested this is all I have ever wanted. This is me teetering on the edge of "absolute abundance." This is me, going out, approaching girls who intimidate me, running my process, shattering my limiting beliefs, screening relentlessly for qualities that I want, and choosing who I end up with rather than ANY type of settling. I now know I have the ability to find an amazing girlfriend completely with my own skill set. Honestly, Idc if I only bed a couple of girls a year if I have that skill set, that is a way better feeling than knowing that I have fucked more girls than joe schmoe...
Ironically, all of my friends who bed girls consistently and have higher lay counts than me, are still not at a level where they could go out and find
the girl they want. I predict most of them will end up banging a girl and based on whatever time in their lives it is, they will lazily keep banging her until they fall out of abundance at which point, they will marry her. They may have banged 100+ girls, but they are still not skilled at dating.
One of my buddies, a good guy banged probably 10-15 girls in about 5 months at the beginning of this year. However, the first girl that REALLY like him, he settled down with. That was her choosing him still. Now, she cheats on him every couple of months because she's a total piece of shit and they fight all the time, but even tho he knows he can bang lots of girls, he won't leave her. This will be the fate of many of my natural friends who are skilled with women and have high lay counts unfortunately.
I may be sitting here with my meager 60, but I now know, that I have the ability to go out and meet an extremely high quality girl that passes an insane amount of checks in a relatively short period of time and make her my girlfriend. To me that is such a more worthwhile goal than banging lots of girls. This is coming from a guy who spent years trying to bang the most girls.
This is the man that GC taught me to be, and it is absolutely amazing beyond any thing I have personally experienced. (Thanks Chase and everyone else!)
So I think in the end it was necessary for me to hook up with a pretty high number of girls to reach where I am at today. However, I think I could have hit this point faster if this would have been my goal from the beginning rather than just banging out as many chicks as possible.
I also know that even though I have been doing this a long time, I have TONS of areas where I still need improvement and my journey is YEARS from being finished still. So do not treat seduction like its just a one year thing and if you work hard you can bang a girl by snapping your fingers type of thing.
So TL;DR
-Develop a plan
-Go out a lot like its your fucking job and study that shit 24/7
-Me bragging a lot

-Fuck lots of girls, but realize that that in itself is shitty goal
-Only fuck lots of girls so that you can eventually achieve absolute abundance with women and life
Sorry for rambling I got a little out of hand with this response lol.
Radeng