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I'm the kinda guy who needs more than just words on a website to really get something. (Not that this site isn't great, it has helped me a lot! Love the work Chase and he's team has done here. And I would go as far and say it's the best site on PU that I've been on.) So I've been both reading and watching good information on psychology and pickup. I must say, before I go on, that the things I've learned the most of.. Is being with people who are powerful. Great leaders, good teachers, popular people, guys who are great with girls, etc. People who has the personality or ability to change emotions, or talk to people in a powerful way. And of course doing it myself. If it was to hold a speech, talk to girls or whatever. I had to put myself out there, and try. But you all know that. You can't become great at something without doing it, not even good. Sometimes I've failed, and sometimes I've done a great job.
Anyhow, back to the thing I wanted to show you. I've watched some good TEDx videos on youtube on body language, voice and good questions to ask people.
I won't say that everything is great for pickup, but some of it is. There's a lot of good information on this site, I've read everything that suited my interest. So you should know what information in these videos are relevant for pickup, if you've read it. Also, if you're like me, you don't want to just be good at pickup, you want to be good with people in general. If someone want to point out what not to use on a date in these videos, and what to use. Feel free, but at least say why, and that you've tested it out.
And as you watch these videos, look at the person talking, and think of how their gestures, voices, how fast they talk, and everything makes YOU feel.
An example: In the video "Body language, the power is in the palm of your hands", if you want to tell a woman where to sit. Use the right hand gesture shown in the video! She'll comply more often if you use the right hand gesture.
Another example: Listen to how fast the guy in "The importance of being inauthentic" is talking. It's not that sexy? Is it? But what he says and shows about opening up your body language is true. I have a really open body language by default. So both girls and guys open me up.
So here's the list:
Body language:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ks-_Mh1QhMc - Your Body Language Shapes Who You Are
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZZZ7k8cMA-4 - Body language, the power is in the palm of your hands
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1zpf8H_Dd40 - The Importance Of Being Inauthentic
Voice:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=02EJ1IdC6tE - Want to sound like a leader? Start by saying your name right
Conversation:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4F-S6rgf1-E - How to engage in better small talk
-The questions this guy ask people, is good. But choose the questions that will get positive stories, you want to create positive emotions when you're on a date.
If someone want to add some videos, feel free. I'm going to sleep now, so I just added some videos that came up in I my mind. I might add more if someone ask. I also recommend watching strong people in movies, if you don't have strong people to be around in your life. Pay attention to the feelings these people/actors make you feel, and pinpoint what it is about them that crates these emotions. But as I said earlier; real life is the best way to get better. Put yourself out there, be around strong people. This shouldn't be new information for you.
Hope this helps some of you!
-TC
Anyhow, back to the thing I wanted to show you. I've watched some good TEDx videos on youtube on body language, voice and good questions to ask people.
I won't say that everything is great for pickup, but some of it is. There's a lot of good information on this site, I've read everything that suited my interest. So you should know what information in these videos are relevant for pickup, if you've read it. Also, if you're like me, you don't want to just be good at pickup, you want to be good with people in general. If someone want to point out what not to use on a date in these videos, and what to use. Feel free, but at least say why, and that you've tested it out.
And as you watch these videos, look at the person talking, and think of how their gestures, voices, how fast they talk, and everything makes YOU feel.
An example: In the video "Body language, the power is in the palm of your hands", if you want to tell a woman where to sit. Use the right hand gesture shown in the video! She'll comply more often if you use the right hand gesture.
Another example: Listen to how fast the guy in "The importance of being inauthentic" is talking. It's not that sexy? Is it? But what he says and shows about opening up your body language is true. I have a really open body language by default. So both girls and guys open me up.
So here's the list:
Body language:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ks-_Mh1QhMc - Your Body Language Shapes Who You Are
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZZZ7k8cMA-4 - Body language, the power is in the palm of your hands
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1zpf8H_Dd40 - The Importance Of Being Inauthentic
Voice:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=02EJ1IdC6tE - Want to sound like a leader? Start by saying your name right
Conversation:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4F-S6rgf1-E - How to engage in better small talk
-The questions this guy ask people, is good. But choose the questions that will get positive stories, you want to create positive emotions when you're on a date.
If someone want to add some videos, feel free. I'm going to sleep now, so I just added some videos that came up in I my mind. I might add more if someone ask. I also recommend watching strong people in movies, if you don't have strong people to be around in your life. Pay attention to the feelings these people/actors make you feel, and pinpoint what it is about them that crates these emotions. But as I said earlier; real life is the best way to get better. Put yourself out there, be around strong people. This shouldn't be new information for you.
Hope this helps some of you!
-TC
