Does anyone else find themselves getting bored a little too quickly? I'm not a young dude anymore. I'm in my early forties. I've had a few long relationships. Last one we lived together for two years. I'm talking about getting bored in a relationship. The girl is great. The sex is great. She satisfies me intellectually. But then it's like the honeymoon is over and the thrill of the chase is gone. It's a slippery slope down hill from there. I've been back out there again, doin the meet and greet. Scored a few times. That's all good man. Always working on my game, you know. But boredom just comes sneaking in the backdoor what seems like too soon. Anyone else deal with this?
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Hi Saddle,
This is actually a good problem to have. It means that the women that you have relationships with are chasing and investing more in the relationship than you. The only problem is, like you said, boredom and the feeling that your partner is lower value than you. The problem is caused by too much security, which kills attraction between men and women.
Here's what I did to keep my attraction for women that chase really hard:
I'd ask her about how many guys approach her in a day. I'd also get her to tell me about their approaches. Knowing that my girl was being approached by so many guys and had so many options, but was crazy about ME, made me feel good and confirmed that she was indeed high value and that I'd have to be on my toes to keep her. That little bit of insecurity keeps attraction kicking.
If you find out your girl doesn't have too many options, then you have to accept the fact that she's not very desirable or find a new girl that is.
This is actually a good problem to have. It means that the women that you have relationships with are chasing and investing more in the relationship than you. The only problem is, like you said, boredom and the feeling that your partner is lower value than you. The problem is caused by too much security, which kills attraction between men and women.
Here's what I did to keep my attraction for women that chase really hard:
I'd ask her about how many guys approach her in a day. I'd also get her to tell me about their approaches. Knowing that my girl was being approached by so many guys and had so many options, but was crazy about ME, made me feel good and confirmed that she was indeed high value and that I'd have to be on my toes to keep her. That little bit of insecurity keeps attraction kicking.
If you find out your girl doesn't have too many options, then you have to accept the fact that she's not very desirable or find a new girl that is.
