Boyfriends getting jealous...

[DarkKnight]

I keep encountering this thing where I encounter girls and am just sociable and cool, and I do draw the interest in of some taken girls. But in some social circle situations in order to not to rock the boat I keep polite and friendly. Sometimes I ignore the girls when their boyfriends are around.

Nonetheless boyfriends trip up around me, some clumsily trying to amog , others trying to do public display of affection to their girl others just glare angrily at me. This also happened with girls who telegraphed interest in the past but gave mixed messages where I lost focus on them and suddenly months later I see some guy trying to stare me down.

The thing is, how do these boyfriends know that there is tension? I am talking about occasions where I behave myself. Is it safe to assume that those girls show indirect interest and this is why those boyfriends sense there is blood on the water?

I have had happen this before but its getting more common as my showing becomes increasingly more on point. A guy even asked me if I am in a relationship, or have children in order to asses if I am a threat

So what is happening around me without me noticing?

 

[Chase]

@DarkKnight,

First guess is that all these guys are just noticing your MASSIVE cock outlined against your pants and are so intimidated they feel the need to distract their women so they aren't all staring at it, or else confront you before their women start wondering about all that heat you're packing.



But yeah, dudes will do this sort of thing if you are a cool-looking dude who seems socially at ease, EVEN IF you are minding your own business.

Actually, IME, they seem to do it MORE when you are "minding your own business" because so far as I can tell the logic must go something like "Oh good, that guy hasn't noticed my girl yet. Time to make it clear in his mind that she is a taken woman / not to mess with this girl, before he has the chance to get any ideas."

I just take it as a sign a dude isn't actually all that cool or secure with his woman and file it away.

Ironically it is a sign a relationship is LESS secure.

If the dude is cool with me and doesn't feel the need to mate guard that typically means his relationship is locked down and his chick is content.

If he's preemptively mate-guarding, that tells you your very presence threatens him even without you making any moves to go for his girl.

So, if you want her... it might not be so hard.

(I will add here that the ones that really get me are the dudes who do this when their chick is just ugly or a beast. You find yourself going, "Come on, man. You think I'm going for that chick? Really? How insulting..." But I guess, hey, he is fucking her, so some part of his mind must think she has value to other dudes... who knows why he would think she'd have value to YOU though! People get so caught up in their own worlds...)

Chase

 

[DarkKnight]

First guess is that all these guys are just noticing your MASSIVE cock outlined against your pants and are so intimidated they feel the need to distract their women so they aren't all staring at it, or else confront you before their women start wondering about all that heat you're packing.

This was my first assumption as well.. but I didn't want to go for early conclusions

Time to make it clear in his mind that she is a taken woman / not to mess with this girl, before he has the chance to get any ideas."

Ah.. so it is preventative

Ironically it is a sign a relationship is LESS secure

Guessed this a bit but wasnt sure, because I didnt see the girls do anything too crazy except some occurences where the girls were a bit forward but that was when the guy was not around.

If the dude is cool with me and doesn't feel the need to mate guard that typically means his relationship is locked down and his chick is content.

Hmmm hmm this is good to know

If he's preemptively mate-guarding, that tells you your very presence threatens him even without you making any moves to go for his girl.

So, if you want her... it might not be so hard.

Okay so case being is there is blood in the water and heck yeah in some cases these girls are interesting. I already had a bit of a hunch but wasnt too sure.

I will add here that the ones that really get me are the dudes who do this when their chick is just ugly or a beast. You find yourself going, "Come on, man. You think I'm going for that chick? Really? How insulting..." But I guess, hey, he is fucking her, so some part of his mind must think she has value to other dudes... who knows why he would think she'd have value to YOU though! People get so caught up in their own worlds...)

Yeah you know I dont really want to diss these people some are just in heavy scarcity and I guess I had phases of scarcity as well, so I get it. The mind boggling part was rather when I am trying to control myself and these guys add tension to the environment ironically provoking me by apparently showing there is blood in the water

 

[Train]

If he's preemptively mate-guarding, that tells you your very presence threatens him even without you making any moves to go for his girl.

So, if you want her... it might not be so hard.

Hi Chase, interesting insights here. In this case, is the guy mate guarding because the girl has a foot out the door and he senses it or does she have the foot out the door because he's too insecure and she resents the insecurity and control?

Is jealousy like that a bad omen usually for a relationship where the guy is mate guarding, controlling male friends, etc?

I've heard how controlling women this way will lead to them doing what they want anyway but now they have resentment baked in

 

[Skills]

It could be the women shit testing boyfriend i talked about this multiple times and You are Just a pond ...more open body language more, micro expressions...they know boyfriend will do this, is calculated and they get off on this attention whoring or raise her value/status with bf or friends.

It could be boyfriend reading your behavior wrong..

Or plain jealousy of they are not as cool as you and mate guarding and just bringing you down...i did a post on this...

Socializing - Why do seducers get picked on with amog, fights, disrespect....

So you are wondering why do people are picking on me with fights, sometimes rude comments, some times bad looks, some type people nitpicking on you.... Well is very simple (some times is strangers or even people in your circles women and men alike).... It is an inner frustration with the lack...

www.skilledseducer.com

 

[Chase]

@Train,

Hi Chase, interesting insights here. In this case, is the guy mate guarding because the girl has a foot out the door and he senses it or does she have the foot out the door because he's too insecure and she resents the insecurity and control?

Could be either. You don't know the situation of two other people's relationship.

Until you properly develop your sense of ESP, that is...!

It may also be a situation like @Skills notes, where the chick is not really trying to leave the relationship, but the guy is just a jealous, insecure guy... OR where the chick is deliberately trying to provoke insecurity in the guy because watching her man get all defensive over her makes her feel all warm, fuzzy, and valued.

Is jealousy like that a bad omen usually for a relationship where the guy is mate guarding, controlling male friends, etc?

I've heard how controlling women this way will lead to them doing what they want anyway but now they have resentment baked in

Jealous control typically leads to a psychological phenomenon known as reactance.

That is where, by analogy, if you have a bunch of liquid in a pot, and you slide a lid into the top of the pot and start pushing it down more and more, trying to cram the liquid into a tighter and tighter space, eventually the liquid will just start shooting out through the sides, past the lid.

Make a person feel too controlled, and she is bound to start looking for ways to express autonomy by "squeezing out through the sides", seeking freedom wherever she can find it, just to breathe a little more easily and get away from all that smothering control.

That may not always necessarily be by cheating. She might look to assert herself in other ways. She might turn passive-aggressive. She might start self-sabotaging or sabotaging the relationship. Etc. etc.

But yeah, control her too much, and you're going to start building up a lot of resentment.

The smooth playboy gets a woman doing what he wants her to do while letting her feel like the whole thing was HER idea

Chase

 

[Train]

@Train,



Could be either. You don't know the situation of two other people's relationship.

Until you properly develop your sense of ESP, that is...!

It may also be a situation like @Skills notes, where the chick is not really trying to leave the relationship, but the guy is just a jealous, insecure guy... OR where the chick is deliberately trying to provoke insecurity in the guy because watching her man get all defensive over her makes her feel all warm, fuzzy, and valued.



Jealous control typically leads to a psychological phenomenon known as reactance.

That is where, by analogy, if you have a bunch of liquid in a pot, and you slide a lid into the top of the pot and start pushing it down more and more, trying to cram the liquid into a tighter and tighter space, eventually the liquid will just start shooting out through the sides, past the lid.

Make a person feel too controlled, and she is bound to start looking for ways to express autonomy by "squeezing out through the sides", seeking freedom wherever she can find it, just to breathe a little more easily and get away from all that smothering control.

That may not always necessarily be by cheating. She might look to assert herself in other ways. She might turn passive-aggressive. She might start self-sabotaging or sabotaging the relationship. Etc. etc.

But yeah, control her too much, and you're going to start building up a lot of resentment.

The smooth playboy gets a woman doing what he wants her to do while letting her feel like the whole thing was HER idea

Chase

Thank you, Chase! I hadn't heard of reactance before, it's a very interesting concept. I've seen it in action where the girl had been doing what she wants unknown to the guy. Definitely seemed like there was some resentment there from the GF

 

[Red]

I keep encountering this thing where I encounter girls and am just sociable and cool, and I do draw the interest in of some taken girls. But in some social circle situations in order to not to rock the boat I keep polite and friendly. Sometimes I ignore the girls when their boyfriends are around.

Nonetheless boyfriends trip up around me, some clumsily trying to amog , others trying to do public display of affection to their girl others just glare angrily at me. This also happened with girls who telegraphed interest in the past but gave mixed messages where I lost focus on them and suddenly months later I see some guy trying to stare me down.

The thing is, how do these boyfriends know that there is tension? I am talking about occasions where I behave myself. Is it safe to assume that those girls show indirect interest and this is why those boyfriends sense there is blood on the water?

I have had happen this before but its getting more common as my showing becomes increasingly more on point. A guy even asked me if I am in a relationship, or have children in order to asses if I am a threat

So what is happening around me without me noticing?

Yeah. The guy staring at you, trying to block you from her view with his body, putting his hands all over her in a pathetic and force display. It's embarrassing. I usually wasn't even aware of the woman until the guys starts acting like a sad little clown.

Last time this happened the guy threatened to hit me so I started seducing the girl. It ended when I had my hand resting inside her thigh, and me whispering in her ear. He freaked out and hauled her out of there. I considered it his reward for threatening me. Dangerous and immature, I know, but I was drunk and he was being an ass.