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I guess I am kinda, confused to put it the best way I can, but I think that so much of my views on hookups, dating, and sex have been impacted by media. When I say this, I don't actually mean the sex itself but rather the stuff that surrounds sex at various stages of your life.
Like in American culture and media, we make high school out to be the period of life when people are first having sex and losing their virginity, I graduated high school as a virgin.
College becomes the apex for it all, a place where hookup culture thrives and girls do it all as they are away from parents. I won't go into detail about this.
Then after college, you're supposed to settle down, grow up, mature, and have already done all that wild stuff with women.
I started to notice the power of mainstream media, movies, and even popular belief in society on my own views in regards to sex and hookups at every phase of life. It really made me insecure, angry, and in many ways just frustrated despite getting laid. I didn't realize it for a while but mainstream media and just mainstream American society was really fucking with my head for a while.
It poisons the minds of so many young men out there, in extreme cases making them go crazy.
Like the magic wasn't there, like if I am fucking a decent looking woman while being a young professional, it's not the same as fucking her if I was in a college fraternity. It's not even the sex, it was this need to get respect, validation, and admiration due to being the guy on campus who fucks a hot girl and has something to talk to his friends about. It was this feeling that me somehow getting a young professional woman in her 20s was a lesser experience than being a college guy getting college girls because you were supposed to fuck for fun in college while after it, you were not.
It would seem like so many guys on here, even Chase and Franco themselves, hit their stride after college and were doing way better with women. I had the same experience as them but I felt like it was atypical. Like I was getting the sex but something was missing.
It's a very tough thing to do since media just throws it in your face every time a movie comes out about how wild college is and how life after college is generally boring.
But moving forward, it would seem like a lot of the views men get of sex, hookups, and dating tend to come from movies who portray it at various phases of life. It's cool and fun in high school, crazy wild in college, and just boring cheesy stuff after college.
What if, just like it was with the presidential election, the mainstream media is wrong?
Like in American culture and media, we make high school out to be the period of life when people are first having sex and losing their virginity, I graduated high school as a virgin.
College becomes the apex for it all, a place where hookup culture thrives and girls do it all as they are away from parents. I won't go into detail about this.
Then after college, you're supposed to settle down, grow up, mature, and have already done all that wild stuff with women.
I started to notice the power of mainstream media, movies, and even popular belief in society on my own views in regards to sex and hookups at every phase of life. It really made me insecure, angry, and in many ways just frustrated despite getting laid. I didn't realize it for a while but mainstream media and just mainstream American society was really fucking with my head for a while.
It poisons the minds of so many young men out there, in extreme cases making them go crazy.
Like the magic wasn't there, like if I am fucking a decent looking woman while being a young professional, it's not the same as fucking her if I was in a college fraternity. It's not even the sex, it was this need to get respect, validation, and admiration due to being the guy on campus who fucks a hot girl and has something to talk to his friends about. It was this feeling that me somehow getting a young professional woman in her 20s was a lesser experience than being a college guy getting college girls because you were supposed to fuck for fun in college while after it, you were not.
It would seem like so many guys on here, even Chase and Franco themselves, hit their stride after college and were doing way better with women. I had the same experience as them but I felt like it was atypical. Like I was getting the sex but something was missing.
It's a very tough thing to do since media just throws it in your face every time a movie comes out about how wild college is and how life after college is generally boring.
But moving forward, it would seem like a lot of the views men get of sex, hookups, and dating tend to come from movies who portray it at various phases of life. It's cool and fun in high school, crazy wild in college, and just boring cheesy stuff after college.
What if, just like it was with the presidential election, the mainstream media is wrong?
