Breaking circle..??

[Butch]

I was out last night and while talking to a girl, one of her male friends came and started talking to us, he didn't seem offensive or threading he was actually a cool cat. But my question is what do you do when you don't want to break circle?
-Do you just stare at the female you are talking to until that other person leaves? Or do you just ignore the other person and look around the room? I tried you staring at the female with a bored look, looked to sides, take a sip of beer, set it on the table and leaned back until she completely re engaged me. But I don't know I felt weird. What do y'all more experienced and social aware gents do?

 

[Richard]

If I'm not mistaken, there is a 3 minute rule with women, where within those three minutes, you don't want to have an interruption between you and her, that includes friends, strangers, AMOGS, cockblockers, whatever they might be. This isn't something I've had to deal with on an extraordinary basis so I don't have as much refined information as others, but generally, I treat even "cool cats" like him as AMOGs (Alpha Male Other Guy) so basically another guy trying to deter her attention away from me, and I follow techniques from more experienced men who suggest that YOU:
- Don't change your body language or attitude at all
- Maintain eye contact with the girl while talking to the other man
-Try to cut his conversations short with you or the other girl
-Don't try to defend or validate yourself should he insult you

If he is cool, he'll pick up on the vibe (you not changing your body language, or attitude, and not directly engaging him in conversation) and will leave the two of you be. However, though he seemed cool, I assume he had an alternative in interrupting your conversation (maybe a jealous friend) and though he was not directly insulting you, he may have been doing enough to slow the momentum the two of you had been creating ( sort of a if I can't have her nobody can attitude).

All in all, in my experience, even when someone genuinely has no bad intention in interrupting the conversation, that fact that the conversation is interrupted is never a good thing, which is why I now handle the situation in the way I described above.

-Good luck, and I hope this helped,
Richard

 

[Butch]

I see what you mean, thanks for the info.