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Went out yesterday in a different area than usual. Honestly the sets were very lacking, and yet, I persevered. I did one approach which I fumbled hard, even though my vibe was solid and I think I could have turned it around. Note to self-when you have an approach that’s basically hooked, there’s no need to add a compliment, unless you’re pressed for time, and there’s no other option you can think of to set a clear man-to-woman frame. With the way I was feeling, there was no need for it.
I’m walking to start heading home, and as I turn a corner, I see a girl dressed in a unique, but stylish outfit. I just stop her from the front, and compliment her genuinely on the top. I’m very close to her in terms of distance, and the vibe is solid. She’s laughing at my words, she’s playing with her hair, all very good signs. Honestly, my main focus this past week, and what I foresee my focus going to the next few months is the meta frame. I want to be evaluating the girl, so I made sure to do that, and make it clear that I felt I was the prize.
Grabbed her number off of a natural point, and ask her what her schedule is like that week. She says she’s free the day after, so I keep that in mind.
Some basic (non @Skills) texting leads to the date. In this case, I opted not to make the texting super in depth because I viewed the date as largely set, and so wanted to confirm it mostly. Still did some basic banter though.
I meet her, and she’s dressed in a lovely green dress, that’s pretty short around the hips. I feel pretty solid just seeing her outfit that this will go well-though to be honest, I felt that way too before I left my apartment to meet her.
I lead her up to the rooftop, and as we go in the direction of the bouncer, I hold my arm for her to link, telling her we have to look good for the bouncer in order to be let in (saying this playfully to make it clear it’s a joke, but serious about the linking). Some small compliance here, and once we pass the bouncer, I let her arm go again.
We grab some drinks, and I try to find us a seat. There are no spots open, but I manage to talk to a guy in a big group, and ask him if he’ll let us borrow his seats. He’s kind enough to say yes, and presto, we have a great place to sit and vibe. That could have made things much trickier if we didn’t have a place to sit.
From here, things go pretty smoothly. She’s from a pretty conservative country, in town for a few weeks, and a bit older than me. She comments on the older part, and basically says she doesn’t care about it in this case. Because her culture is more conservative, but because she does not seem to be, I’m very slow to ramp up sex talk. I mostly keep it on sex talk lite, but occasionally go into stuff about female sexuality (referencing My Secret Garden, or a fake story @Teevster told me about gay friends that introduces heavy sexual frames in a way that is very unlikely to meet resistance). I don’t try to go into anything more heavy-hitting, since it just feels like it would be too much. She’s compliant to the sex talk I’m doing, but I can tell the stuff I’m talking about it approaching the line of what she’s comfortable with. I think I calibrated it quite nicely.
Throughout the interaction, I’m also setting a lot of chase frames, initiating some push-pull, and keeping things mixing between light, and medium. I don’t think I ever let things go super deep, as it doesn’t feel like it’s necessary.
I attempt to seed a pull early on, but she actually doesn’t like the alcohol I bought. Later on I resurface this, and tell her I’m going to bring her home to let her try it, so she can know if she doesn’t like it. I did this after building more compliance, to improve the chances of her accepting the pull.
She agrees to the idea of the pull. I don’t rush the extraction though. That’s one thing I’ve been doing well recently. I suggest the pull while the drinks are still there-and then once she agrees, it’s easy to keep things relaxed, and not rushed. I’m not sure if others would agree or have any thoughts on the mechanics around this. I usually suggest the pull on a positive point to, and then just keep the good feelings up after that. Once the drinks are done, it becomes super natural to just say “Let’s get out of here” and then you leave the bar-no complications about where you’re going or anything.
Once at home things are pretty smooth. I pour us drinks, have both of us use the bathroom. I kiss her at one point, and then stop, since I feel her not fully comfortable yet (she hasn’t said anything to resist, but I stopped it on my terms before she could verbalize any resistance). I fractionate out, show her some art, and talk a bit more, letting her get comfortable.
From there, I escalate again, adding a bit of passionate oomph. At that point it’s game over. No LMR, she asks me for a condom, and we have sex.
She was very expedient about it, in that once sex was finished, she left pretty quickly. I think the age thing made this an easy boyfriend disqualifier on my part.
I’m walking to start heading home, and as I turn a corner, I see a girl dressed in a unique, but stylish outfit. I just stop her from the front, and compliment her genuinely on the top. I’m very close to her in terms of distance, and the vibe is solid. She’s laughing at my words, she’s playing with her hair, all very good signs. Honestly, my main focus this past week, and what I foresee my focus going to the next few months is the meta frame. I want to be evaluating the girl, so I made sure to do that, and make it clear that I felt I was the prize.
Grabbed her number off of a natural point, and ask her what her schedule is like that week. She says she’s free the day after, so I keep that in mind.
Some basic (non @Skills) texting leads to the date. In this case, I opted not to make the texting super in depth because I viewed the date as largely set, and so wanted to confirm it mostly. Still did some basic banter though.
I meet her, and she’s dressed in a lovely green dress, that’s pretty short around the hips. I feel pretty solid just seeing her outfit that this will go well-though to be honest, I felt that way too before I left my apartment to meet her.
I lead her up to the rooftop, and as we go in the direction of the bouncer, I hold my arm for her to link, telling her we have to look good for the bouncer in order to be let in (saying this playfully to make it clear it’s a joke, but serious about the linking). Some small compliance here, and once we pass the bouncer, I let her arm go again.
We grab some drinks, and I try to find us a seat. There are no spots open, but I manage to talk to a guy in a big group, and ask him if he’ll let us borrow his seats. He’s kind enough to say yes, and presto, we have a great place to sit and vibe. That could have made things much trickier if we didn’t have a place to sit.
From here, things go pretty smoothly. She’s from a pretty conservative country, in town for a few weeks, and a bit older than me. She comments on the older part, and basically says she doesn’t care about it in this case. Because her culture is more conservative, but because she does not seem to be, I’m very slow to ramp up sex talk. I mostly keep it on sex talk lite, but occasionally go into stuff about female sexuality (referencing My Secret Garden, or a fake story @Teevster told me about gay friends that introduces heavy sexual frames in a way that is very unlikely to meet resistance). I don’t try to go into anything more heavy-hitting, since it just feels like it would be too much. She’s compliant to the sex talk I’m doing, but I can tell the stuff I’m talking about it approaching the line of what she’s comfortable with. I think I calibrated it quite nicely.
Throughout the interaction, I’m also setting a lot of chase frames, initiating some push-pull, and keeping things mixing between light, and medium. I don’t think I ever let things go super deep, as it doesn’t feel like it’s necessary.
I attempt to seed a pull early on, but she actually doesn’t like the alcohol I bought. Later on I resurface this, and tell her I’m going to bring her home to let her try it, so she can know if she doesn’t like it. I did this after building more compliance, to improve the chances of her accepting the pull.
She agrees to the idea of the pull. I don’t rush the extraction though. That’s one thing I’ve been doing well recently. I suggest the pull while the drinks are still there-and then once she agrees, it’s easy to keep things relaxed, and not rushed. I’m not sure if others would agree or have any thoughts on the mechanics around this. I usually suggest the pull on a positive point to, and then just keep the good feelings up after that. Once the drinks are done, it becomes super natural to just say “Let’s get out of here” and then you leave the bar-no complications about where you’re going or anything.
Once at home things are pretty smooth. I pour us drinks, have both of us use the bathroom. I kiss her at one point, and then stop, since I feel her not fully comfortable yet (she hasn’t said anything to resist, but I stopped it on my terms before she could verbalize any resistance). I fractionate out, show her some art, and talk a bit more, letting her get comfortable.
From there, I escalate again, adding a bit of passionate oomph. At that point it’s game over. No LMR, she asks me for a condom, and we have sex.
She was very expedient about it, in that once sex was finished, she left pretty quickly. I think the age thing made this an easy boyfriend disqualifier on my part.
