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Could use some advice on this:
Met a girl last year (right as I started reading this site), where I got a great vibe on the first meet, then struggled to move ahead. With too much work, got a date, grabbed a kiss (nothing more - never got her home), then she disappeared - she stopped replying to my texts. Now it's January this year, and I run into this girl twice on the street. I've reconnected and am trying to set up a date. We've had two scheduled that got canned - one because she never confirmed it over Facebook (so I cancelled it day of), the other because I got sick and cancelled on her last week. So here we are...
Here's my question: when I reschedule this week, should I have a short (1 hr) "rapport building" date (since we haven't talked in a year), where I deliberately keep it short to be a little cold/removed? Or do I plan to go for broke and try to bring her home? Given my read on her (kinda flighty, resistant to moving far), and logistical problems (it'll probably be a school night for me/work night for her), I'll encounter major resistance to taking her home on the first date. I'm not sure if the stronger move is to be a little cold at first (with a short date where I end it) or to go all-in (since she's already proven flaky, who knows if I'll get her out again).
Ideas? Or is one plan as good as the other?
Met a girl last year (right as I started reading this site), where I got a great vibe on the first meet, then struggled to move ahead. With too much work, got a date, grabbed a kiss (nothing more - never got her home), then she disappeared - she stopped replying to my texts. Now it's January this year, and I run into this girl twice on the street. I've reconnected and am trying to set up a date. We've had two scheduled that got canned - one because she never confirmed it over Facebook (so I cancelled it day of), the other because I got sick and cancelled on her last week. So here we are...
Here's my question: when I reschedule this week, should I have a short (1 hr) "rapport building" date (since we haven't talked in a year), where I deliberately keep it short to be a little cold/removed? Or do I plan to go for broke and try to bring her home? Given my read on her (kinda flighty, resistant to moving far), and logistical problems (it'll probably be a school night for me/work night for her), I'll encounter major resistance to taking her home on the first date. I'm not sure if the stronger move is to be a little cold at first (with a short date where I end it) or to go all-in (since she's already proven flaky, who knows if I'll get her out again).
Ideas? Or is one plan as good as the other?
