Hey guys!
I've been working on building a "harem" (I hate this word, I like to think of it more as a network of women who love to be around me whom I also love being around), and I want to write some reports to helpfully help someone in the process
First of all, here's the current relationship model me and KT have:
- We are 100% transparent with one another. She knows and is fine with me dating other people, and she doesn't date anyone else at this time. Our agreement (after the 8 or 9th time we were together probably) was that if she ever feels like dating someone she will tell me, and it's better if she doesn't know about my other girls. This is to keep the queen theory intact and to give me peace of mind. I honestly don't care if she wants to date ANOTHER guy, but I'd surely not keep her if she was sleeping around too much, for safety reasons. I once joked to her about some kinks and she said "I'm so glad you can look for that elsewhere because I'm not too much into that". The truth I've found (with my limited experience of course), is that " quality" girls (the ones that come from good families, who are mentally healthy, etc...) won't feel like dating other guys if you keep them fully satisfied. And by this I mean sexually and also emotionally. You don't have to be the guy she dumps her shit on (let her do that with her gay friend or orbitter), but when you are together with her, be 100% present! Give her ALL your attention. She will reward you in many many ways!
- She is de facto my girlfriend, even though we never put this label. We see each other once a week (she always sleeps over) and sometimes we have breakfast together, I already took her to a company party etc...
- I truly love KT. She's my dream girl, both psychologically and physically. Our sex is amazing and our time together even better. We have been together for maybe 6 or 7 months now and she has been extremely honest, chill, caring, loving, understanding, etc... She gives me gifts, sends me unrequited " intimate pictures", gives me full body massages and was extremely nice to all my friends - everyone loved her!
- I don't intend to raise any other girl to this status any time soon, but of course, if I run into someone VERY special and we develop a spiritual connection, and she's compatible with my network, I'm open that idea. I even asked KT if she would like to meet another girl, and she wasn't necessarily thrilled with the idea but she said that she had an open mind (a huge sign of trust).
Ok, so for the field report per se:
We first met on Tinder. I hate Tinder, the quality of girls there is insanely low, and the ones who are truly quality are bombarded with messages. I was about to delete my account when we matched. A sign from heaven? I noticed right away that her pictures were normal, that she wasn't a "Tinder girl". She came off as very genuine and " normal" (I've had my share of crazy girls, I'm done with them lol, I only the " creme de la creme" these days). I decided to bring out all my guns and be perfect in every interaction with her. I was going to make her my girl.
My first message was a long paragraph. This is the model that I found gives me the best results (I can bed the girls who respond well to this a 100% of the times):
My theory behind this model is that if a girl responds, it doesn't matter what, how long, or how short, she got intrigued by my story and will play along. Then it's up to me to avoid boring questions at all costs, and keep alternating between "deep" moments and silly stuff for laughter (80% deep/20% funny). I screen the girl subtly, asking her to qualify herself without being too obvious. Each time she responds to your message, even if she ignores what you said, she's accepting your frame. If you say covertly in your message that you are going to kiss her and talk about something else, and she replies about the something else and completely ignores your mention of a kiss, you can be 100% sure that she accepted your frame.
Ok, so how did I apply this to KT:
In one of her pictures, she looked like a woman in a painting I used to have at home as a kid. I tell her about how I was in love with that picture growing up and that she looked exactly like the girl in the painting (this was not made up, it's the truth. You have to be genuine, otherwise don't even waste yours or her time). In the end of the message I asked her about something in her profile, like " do you work with XXX?". She replied back and we exchanged a few messages back and forth. I then said that we should meet soon and switched numbers.
I wanted to meet her the next weekend, but she was going to be very busy that week with a looming deadline. I told her: Ok, so don't worry about this, take your time, I won't go anywhere. She later said that she was VERY appreciative of this. This shows extreme confidence and trust.
I then started to screen and qualify her in the meantime. Sometimes I would ask stuff like what's the meaning of life for her, etc... I NEVER, EVER, asked her anything like " hey how's your day?" If you keep doing this, you can be 100% sure the girl will stop responding, no one likes those messages. It's Ok to ask that as a "hello" if you haven't talked for a while, but more as a formality. Ex: Hey Maria, how's your day going? I was just doing some work here and I thought about something. What do you think about this?" <-- this kind of message is great to generate attraction, intrigue and compliance. If she asks you back reply something very short but powerful. Avoid long responses. Let her guess about you.
The Actual Date
With her, I first tested a very successful date model that gave me 100% results so far. I only use this model on girls who I'm COMPLETELY sure about. I wouldn't use it on a " low tier girl" (someone who I'm not THAT attracted too or that I'm not planning on seeing more than once). I only use this model on the special girls.
I made it clear to her that I really liked her and that I hate coffee/dinner dates, and that I'd rather take her on an adventure, and create something specifically for her because she is special (this has to come from the heart, don't be a dark seducer and misuse this please!)
She liked the idea and I told her that I'd come back a few days later with something. I took some time to come up with a plan and let her guess and built up some anticipation. In the mean time I kept the conversation alive by asking her about her life, her past, etc... I then finalized my plan and sent it to her. She agreed to it! We were in!
So the date went like this:
She first met me at my place at 4pm (I prefer to meet someone before it gets dark for obvious reasons, she will feel much more comfortable meeting a guy the first time during the day than at night), for a quick coffee and to know my cats. I'll never forget the moment I laid my eyes on her. Her smile. She was so happy to see me. I was so happy to see her. It was truly love at first sight, now I realize. She was sooo much prettier in real life! Naturally beautiful, beautiful wavy blonde hair, perfect body and skin, green eyes, a huge genuine smile. We hugged and hit off right away. Right in the same instant. It was a genuine connection. I get very comfortable and just relax. I trust that the night will end well
We go up, and I make her coffee while she plays with the cats. We sit and talk for 15, 20 minutes. No weirdness at all, I make her feel relaxed and comfortable. During this initial phase I avoid saying or acting in any way sexual. It feels like we are old friends reuniting after a looong time (this is always the vibe I like to be in when I first meet a girl).
As I told her, I tell her that it's time to go (I stick exactly to the plan that I proposed initially). We drive to the beach (a 20 minute drive) and it's night already. We walk around town a bit, holding hands and acting like boyfriend and girlfriend. We have lots of fun searching for a place to have dinner. We then decide to go to a BJ's for pizza. This place was perfect because it was not super fancy nor super loud. I sit next to her in a dark corner. This is when I start to turn up the heat a little. My gaze gets more intense, my voice lower. I ask her about previous dates (this is my favorite method to start talking about sex). She tells about some lame dudes she met before. I don't remember how exactly we got into this subject but I started to tell her about my views on female sexuality. That most men don't understand female sexuality, that women are lucky because their body was made for pleasure, how their clitoris have twice as many sensors as the tip of a cock, how a girl can have multiple orgasms and still keep going. I can see that her eyes are glimmering, she's so excited to be around someone who understand how she thinks and what she wants. I obviously keep it very lowkey and avoid being graphic or obscene. We are connecting hard, the tension is building and I want to kiss her so bad, but of course I wasn't going to kiss her inside a BJ's... when I was right in front of the ocean! I paid the full bill because honestly, she drove more than half an hour to meet me. I say "let's go for a walk on the beach, it's going to be awesome!".
It's when, walking holding hands at the beach the perfect moment for a first kiss came. It was very natural. It was one of the best kisses I have ever had in my life. My cock is extremely hard, I bite her neck and she starts moaning a bit, I grab her ass a little bit and STOP. I didn't want to escalate too far just yet, just to create some heat. When I stop so abruptly she's like, completely off balance, like "wow what the hell has just happened" . She looks even a little dizzy haha I then return to my " normal" mode and ask her about something mundane. I grab her hands and tell her that I was now going to take her to the... TOP OF THE WORLD!
I drive up a hill where we can see the entire city and the ocean, and we hug and look at the vista. The place is dark, but there are still some people around... they are distant and can't really make out any details on us. I then sit behind her and start to massage her shoulders, kiss her neck... I tell her that while people in those distant houses were at home watching Netflix, we were there, just the two of us and the universe, having an special moment. She starts to get really horny, and I tell her that I told her that I would take her to the top of the world... and that's what I meant! I wrap her in her jacket and put my hands inside her pants... I start masturbating her while I cover her mouth with other hand. I tell her to look at the city while I'm touching her and to feel how amazing it was. I keep doing this until she orgasms... hard! Wow, I will never forget this. We then lay down together watching the stars. This was a magical moment.
I then tell her that we should go home because it was getting late and cold and that I wanted to spend more time with her before she drove home.
On the way home we are basically giving information about each other. She tells me that she had something to say... I freeze. I hope she didn't have something insane. She tells me that she was a cancer survivor, and that she had a few scars in her body from the surgery. I'm relieved. But at the same time I was faced with the decision: I have come so far with her, should I keep going, and know that we are going to fall in love, and that she most likely would face this again, or should I abandon her to avoid suffering? I decide to go forward. I know she's special.
We arrive home and we have amazing sex. It's getting late and I invite her to sleep over and she does. We hug and cuddle and enjoy each other's bodies all night. I woke up in the middle of the night super horny and we have sex again. She rides me and cums twice. I can get her so loud, I love it! The next morning it was amazing to see her next to me. We get up, I make her coffee, and when she's about to go, I tell her that I have one last surprise. She's very petite, so I put her on my lap and start masturbating her again. I'm giving her directions in her ears, taking her to the orgasm. Telling her how much of a good girl she was, how amazing she was, to feel how good my hands felt on her, how grateful I was for the night we had just spent etc... I tell her to be louder and louder and at this time she's screaming at the top of her lungs... until she cums one last time........... VERY hard. She came 7 times in total, on our first date, by clitoris, vagina, everywhere. She told me that she hadn't had an orgasm in months and that she had never had anything like the sex that we we had just had.
From then on, it was a matter of taking it very slow at first. I avoid texting too much (I prefer to have a real relationship rather than a virtual one). On our second or third date, I tell her that it was very likely that we would see each other again... and that we should talk about expectations to avoid getting hurt. I tell her about my story. About how I was married before and about how I don't believe in monogamy. I make sure her that it doesn't mean that I'm promiscuous (I am not), it just means that I can love more than one person at a time, and when I'm stuck in a box I wither and die. She understands this completely and is very appreciative of my honesty
It's been about 6 or 7 months since we had our first date, and my love for her and admiration is only getting stronger and stronger. I can't believe I found such a girl on Tinder, it was pure luck, the chances were probably one in a million. She comes from a good background, good parents who are still together, she's independent, loving, gives me my space, understanding, fun to be around, gorgeous and our sex just gets better and better, even after all this time. We have explored so much together and honestly, sometimes it feels like I'm in another state of consciousness when I'm with her. I've tried many psychedelics (including ayahuasca) and those experiences pale in comparison with the intensity of some of our sessions. I constantly reiterate to her that I'll have to move away in 2 years time because my mission will take me to another country (this is 100% true, I know that at some point we are going to have to say goodbye and I constantly talk about this with her).
Anyways, that's my report! I know it's long but if you guys like it let me know and I'll write another one on how I got my second girl... by taking her to a japanese arcade on the first night!
I've been working on building a "harem" (I hate this word, I like to think of it more as a network of women who love to be around me whom I also love being around), and I want to write some reports to helpfully help someone in the process
First of all, here's the current relationship model me and KT have:
- We are 100% transparent with one another. She knows and is fine with me dating other people, and she doesn't date anyone else at this time. Our agreement (after the 8 or 9th time we were together probably) was that if she ever feels like dating someone she will tell me, and it's better if she doesn't know about my other girls. This is to keep the queen theory intact and to give me peace of mind. I honestly don't care if she wants to date ANOTHER guy, but I'd surely not keep her if she was sleeping around too much, for safety reasons. I once joked to her about some kinks and she said "I'm so glad you can look for that elsewhere because I'm not too much into that". The truth I've found (with my limited experience of course), is that " quality" girls (the ones that come from good families, who are mentally healthy, etc...) won't feel like dating other guys if you keep them fully satisfied. And by this I mean sexually and also emotionally. You don't have to be the guy she dumps her shit on (let her do that with her gay friend or orbitter), but when you are together with her, be 100% present! Give her ALL your attention. She will reward you in many many ways!
- She is de facto my girlfriend, even though we never put this label. We see each other once a week (she always sleeps over) and sometimes we have breakfast together, I already took her to a company party etc...
- I truly love KT. She's my dream girl, both psychologically and physically. Our sex is amazing and our time together even better. We have been together for maybe 6 or 7 months now and she has been extremely honest, chill, caring, loving, understanding, etc... She gives me gifts, sends me unrequited " intimate pictures", gives me full body massages and was extremely nice to all my friends - everyone loved her!
- I don't intend to raise any other girl to this status any time soon, but of course, if I run into someone VERY special and we develop a spiritual connection, and she's compatible with my network, I'm open that idea. I even asked KT if she would like to meet another girl, and she wasn't necessarily thrilled with the idea but she said that she had an open mind (a huge sign of trust).
Ok, so for the field report per se:
We first met on Tinder. I hate Tinder, the quality of girls there is insanely low, and the ones who are truly quality are bombarded with messages. I was about to delete my account when we matched. A sign from heaven? I noticed right away that her pictures were normal, that she wasn't a "Tinder girl". She came off as very genuine and " normal" (I've had my share of crazy girls, I'm done with them lol, I only the " creme de la creme" these days). I decided to bring out all my guns and be perfect in every interaction with her. I was going to make her my girl.
My first message was a long paragraph. This is the model that I found gives me the best results (I can bed the girls who respond well to this a 100% of the times):
My theory behind this model is that if a girl responds, it doesn't matter what, how long, or how short, she got intrigued by my story and will play along. Then it's up to me to avoid boring questions at all costs, and keep alternating between "deep" moments and silly stuff for laughter (80% deep/20% funny). I screen the girl subtly, asking her to qualify herself without being too obvious. Each time she responds to your message, even if she ignores what you said, she's accepting your frame. If you say covertly in your message that you are going to kiss her and talk about something else, and she replies about the something else and completely ignores your mention of a kiss, you can be 100% sure that she accepted your frame.
Ok, so how did I apply this to KT:
In one of her pictures, she looked like a woman in a painting I used to have at home as a kid. I tell her about how I was in love with that picture growing up and that she looked exactly like the girl in the painting (this was not made up, it's the truth. You have to be genuine, otherwise don't even waste yours or her time). In the end of the message I asked her about something in her profile, like " do you work with XXX?". She replied back and we exchanged a few messages back and forth. I then said that we should meet soon and switched numbers.
I wanted to meet her the next weekend, but she was going to be very busy that week with a looming deadline. I told her: Ok, so don't worry about this, take your time, I won't go anywhere. She later said that she was VERY appreciative of this. This shows extreme confidence and trust.
I then started to screen and qualify her in the meantime. Sometimes I would ask stuff like what's the meaning of life for her, etc... I NEVER, EVER, asked her anything like " hey how's your day?" If you keep doing this, you can be 100% sure the girl will stop responding, no one likes those messages. It's Ok to ask that as a "hello" if you haven't talked for a while, but more as a formality. Ex: Hey Maria, how's your day going? I was just doing some work here and I thought about something. What do you think about this?" <-- this kind of message is great to generate attraction, intrigue and compliance. If she asks you back reply something very short but powerful. Avoid long responses. Let her guess about you.
The Actual Date
With her, I first tested a very successful date model that gave me 100% results so far. I only use this model on girls who I'm COMPLETELY sure about. I wouldn't use it on a " low tier girl" (someone who I'm not THAT attracted too or that I'm not planning on seeing more than once). I only use this model on the special girls.
I made it clear to her that I really liked her and that I hate coffee/dinner dates, and that I'd rather take her on an adventure, and create something specifically for her because she is special (this has to come from the heart, don't be a dark seducer and misuse this please!)
She liked the idea and I told her that I'd come back a few days later with something. I took some time to come up with a plan and let her guess and built up some anticipation. In the mean time I kept the conversation alive by asking her about her life, her past, etc... I then finalized my plan and sent it to her. She agreed to it! We were in!
So the date went like this:
She first met me at my place at 4pm (I prefer to meet someone before it gets dark for obvious reasons, she will feel much more comfortable meeting a guy the first time during the day than at night), for a quick coffee and to know my cats. I'll never forget the moment I laid my eyes on her. Her smile. She was so happy to see me. I was so happy to see her. It was truly love at first sight, now I realize. She was sooo much prettier in real life! Naturally beautiful, beautiful wavy blonde hair, perfect body and skin, green eyes, a huge genuine smile. We hugged and hit off right away. Right in the same instant. It was a genuine connection. I get very comfortable and just relax. I trust that the night will end well
We go up, and I make her coffee while she plays with the cats. We sit and talk for 15, 20 minutes. No weirdness at all, I make her feel relaxed and comfortable. During this initial phase I avoid saying or acting in any way sexual. It feels like we are old friends reuniting after a looong time (this is always the vibe I like to be in when I first meet a girl).
As I told her, I tell her that it's time to go (I stick exactly to the plan that I proposed initially). We drive to the beach (a 20 minute drive) and it's night already. We walk around town a bit, holding hands and acting like boyfriend and girlfriend. We have lots of fun searching for a place to have dinner. We then decide to go to a BJ's for pizza. This place was perfect because it was not super fancy nor super loud. I sit next to her in a dark corner. This is when I start to turn up the heat a little. My gaze gets more intense, my voice lower. I ask her about previous dates (this is my favorite method to start talking about sex). She tells about some lame dudes she met before. I don't remember how exactly we got into this subject but I started to tell her about my views on female sexuality. That most men don't understand female sexuality, that women are lucky because their body was made for pleasure, how their clitoris have twice as many sensors as the tip of a cock, how a girl can have multiple orgasms and still keep going. I can see that her eyes are glimmering, she's so excited to be around someone who understand how she thinks and what she wants. I obviously keep it very lowkey and avoid being graphic or obscene. We are connecting hard, the tension is building and I want to kiss her so bad, but of course I wasn't going to kiss her inside a BJ's... when I was right in front of the ocean! I paid the full bill because honestly, she drove more than half an hour to meet me. I say "let's go for a walk on the beach, it's going to be awesome!".
It's when, walking holding hands at the beach the perfect moment for a first kiss came. It was very natural. It was one of the best kisses I have ever had in my life. My cock is extremely hard, I bite her neck and she starts moaning a bit, I grab her ass a little bit and STOP. I didn't want to escalate too far just yet, just to create some heat. When I stop so abruptly she's like, completely off balance, like "wow what the hell has just happened" . She looks even a little dizzy haha I then return to my " normal" mode and ask her about something mundane. I grab her hands and tell her that I was now going to take her to the... TOP OF THE WORLD!
I drive up a hill where we can see the entire city and the ocean, and we hug and look at the vista. The place is dark, but there are still some people around... they are distant and can't really make out any details on us. I then sit behind her and start to massage her shoulders, kiss her neck... I tell her that while people in those distant houses were at home watching Netflix, we were there, just the two of us and the universe, having an special moment. She starts to get really horny, and I tell her that I told her that I would take her to the top of the world... and that's what I meant! I wrap her in her jacket and put my hands inside her pants... I start masturbating her while I cover her mouth with other hand. I tell her to look at the city while I'm touching her and to feel how amazing it was. I keep doing this until she orgasms... hard! Wow, I will never forget this. We then lay down together watching the stars. This was a magical moment.
I then tell her that we should go home because it was getting late and cold and that I wanted to spend more time with her before she drove home.
On the way home we are basically giving information about each other. She tells me that she had something to say... I freeze. I hope she didn't have something insane. She tells me that she was a cancer survivor, and that she had a few scars in her body from the surgery. I'm relieved. But at the same time I was faced with the decision: I have come so far with her, should I keep going, and know that we are going to fall in love, and that she most likely would face this again, or should I abandon her to avoid suffering? I decide to go forward. I know she's special.
We arrive home and we have amazing sex. It's getting late and I invite her to sleep over and she does. We hug and cuddle and enjoy each other's bodies all night. I woke up in the middle of the night super horny and we have sex again. She rides me and cums twice. I can get her so loud, I love it! The next morning it was amazing to see her next to me. We get up, I make her coffee, and when she's about to go, I tell her that I have one last surprise. She's very petite, so I put her on my lap and start masturbating her again. I'm giving her directions in her ears, taking her to the orgasm. Telling her how much of a good girl she was, how amazing she was, to feel how good my hands felt on her, how grateful I was for the night we had just spent etc... I tell her to be louder and louder and at this time she's screaming at the top of her lungs... until she cums one last time........... VERY hard. She came 7 times in total, on our first date, by clitoris, vagina, everywhere. She told me that she hadn't had an orgasm in months and that she had never had anything like the sex that we we had just had.
From then on, it was a matter of taking it very slow at first. I avoid texting too much (I prefer to have a real relationship rather than a virtual one). On our second or third date, I tell her that it was very likely that we would see each other again... and that we should talk about expectations to avoid getting hurt. I tell her about my story. About how I was married before and about how I don't believe in monogamy. I make sure her that it doesn't mean that I'm promiscuous (I am not), it just means that I can love more than one person at a time, and when I'm stuck in a box I wither and die. She understands this completely and is very appreciative of my honesty
It's been about 6 or 7 months since we had our first date, and my love for her and admiration is only getting stronger and stronger. I can't believe I found such a girl on Tinder, it was pure luck, the chances were probably one in a million. She comes from a good background, good parents who are still together, she's independent, loving, gives me my space, understanding, fun to be around, gorgeous and our sex just gets better and better, even after all this time. We have explored so much together and honestly, sometimes it feels like I'm in another state of consciousness when I'm with her. I've tried many psychedelics (including ayahuasca) and those experiences pale in comparison with the intensity of some of our sessions. I constantly reiterate to her that I'll have to move away in 2 years time because my mission will take me to another country (this is 100% true, I know that at some point we are going to have to say goodbye and I constantly talk about this with her).
Anyways, that's my report! I know it's long but if you guys like it let me know and I'll write another one on how I got my second girl... by taking her to a japanese arcade on the first night!
