Building sexual tension on short dates. Whats the right way?

[kristian]

So lately I've been practicing being more sexual and flirty in my interactions. I've got some good reactions from girls that I know start looking at me in a more sexual way and I reach the hook point a lot faster than before. Unlike before I can clearly see how most of the interactions between a man and a woman is are the vibes and the non-verbals. That's nice to know. IIt'sbeen an eye opener.

I had a date with a 40 yo woman yesterday. It was an informational date and she doesn't drink. We had around one and a half hour together before she had to leave for another appointment, not so much time to close things out at least not seducing.

My question is, given the limited time frame, how much should you build sexual tension?

I read somewhere here that in a short date, I shouldn't be to physical if we cannot have sex (like kissing). However, I did everything else. We held hands, my eyes were dreamy and I could see she was ready to be kissed. But I did not want to ruin the tension by kissing her with bad logistics. Thinking back I, might have an opportunity with her again, but I don't want her to believe she "got me" yet.

I would love to read some comments about sexual tension and building it without closing the deal. What's the best way of doing it?

 

[trashKENNUT]

kristian,

I had a date with a 40 yo woman yesterday. It was an informational date and she doesn't drink. We had around one and a half hour together before she had to leave for another appointment, not so much time to close things out at least not seducing.

My question is, given the limited time frame, how much should you build sexual tension?

I read somewhere here that in a short date, I shouldn't be to physical if we cannot have sex (like kissing). However, I did everything else. We held hands, my eyes were dreamy and I could see she was ready to be kissed. But I did not want to ruin the tension by kissing her with bad logistics. Thinking back I, might have an opportunity with her again, but I don't want her to believe she "got me" yet.

I would love to read some comments about sexual tension and building it without closing the deal. What's the best way of doing it?

Consider yourself lucky because sexual tension takes time to calibrate, and you never perfect it good enough. I consider you to be lucky because she will go on a date with you likely, because she's older.

BUT, sex is pretty much hard unless she's not looking for long term.

Zac

 

[lao che]

eye contact, sexy smiles, warm voice, light touches, deep diving, gentle chase framing, ambiguous double entendres. leave her guessing, "is he flirting with me? did he mean ...?" etc etc


that's how i'd do it

 

[Seppuku]

Hey Kristian,

I read somewhere here that in a short date, I shouldn't be to physical if we cannot have sex (like kissing). However, I did everything else. We held hands, my eyes were dreamy and I could see she was ready to be kissed. But I did not want to ruin the tension by kissing her with bad logistics. Thinking back I, might have an opportunity with her again, but I don't want her to believe she "got me" yet.

I would love to read some comments about sexual tension and building it without closing the deal. What's the best way of doing it?

Few pointers:

• * Make the date shorter than she was expecting.
  * Run kino, eye contact, voice.
  * Sex talk if you can.
  * And, like you said, no kissing, leaving her with the tension high.

Seems to me that you understand very well the challenges, and from what you describe, you did just right.

It's a matter of balance. You want to build enough tension so that she leaves you wanting for more, with a sense of "unfinished business", so that she will be longing for the close... But not horny enough as to be disappointed and mark the experience as a failed escalation. You seem so sure of yourself but at the same time don't attempt to kiss her: she will be wondering if she got you or not.

But you won't be able to keep her like this forever, so you *must* close her on the next date. Make sure you have your logistics ready to escalate her the next time you meet her.

Cheers,
Seppuku
PS. Keep us posted!