Busy Girls

[NewBeeWinner]

Hey all,

So maybe this is an insecurity I need pointed out, but here's the deal.

My first LR girl (you can read about it in the field reports). It's been one week since then and I haven't been able to get her out or see her because she has been really busy (as have I). I'm worried about attraction expiring, so that's where my insecurity is coming from.

I seen her today at her work (she works on campus in the bookstore) and was able to talk with her a few minutes. I've been texting to get her schedule, but she is really busy this week. She apologized for not responding, as she's been busy, and had asked when I am next free (so I don't think she is blowing me off - she's legitimately busy). Considering this, what do you think my best course of action is?

I don't want to keep saying "If not tonight, another night" because there is no guarantee there will be (there has to be a point we actually can plan to meet). I was thinking I might be able to visit her at her work after I get off work (I also work on campus in a different area). Maybe I could take a donut or chocolate or something - but then again, I'm not looking to boyfriend zone myself - I need to close the deal with her first (I got LMR, which I want to lay her next we get together).

We've only been on the one date and I've been approaching other girls (approached 6-7 today, got 3 numbers - 2 of which the girl is taken, 1 is a single girl I lowered my standards for a bit). I should probably chill out, but what do you guys think? My worry is that attraction will expire. How is your guy's experience with this?

Thanks for the thoughts! I just need a second opinion.

 

[Fuck This]

If you had another girl equally attractive available right now would you even be asking this question? No, because you would have your immediate need taken care of. Cultivate a stable of options.

 

[NewBeeWinner]

Yeah you're right - I need to work on that. For now, I've asked her when she's open and she hasn't responded, so I'll just let it go and not text her again until she can find the time and texts me to meet. In the mean time, I'll plan a few dates with some better looking girls I've met and go from there.

It's not an easy thing to work towards an abundance mindset, but I am definitely beginning to understand just how important it can be. Makes me wonder that if I was to look at this situation from that perspective, how would it change how I respond? I ask her schedule, get no response, and just next her until she re initiates some undefined time later while meeting and laying other women? In the case she doesn't, it doesn't matter because I have other options. if she does, great and it continues as planned. Am I thinking about that right?

Definitely sets the bar for me to improve my skills with women without putting any one single girl on a pedestal - which makes total sense, but is hard in practice. Then again, if it was easy, everyone would do it, right?

Thanks for the reassurance I needed!