Butting heads on time and location

[14sherif]

So far ive been fortunate enough that girls have always agreed on my location and time - but now ive come across this feisty feministy girl with a boyfriend whose insistent on meeting during the day at a place of her choosing

I actually flirted with her a month ago and she was adamant that she wanted nothing to happen between us and i left things there but kept it cool as we still have to see each other because of uni.. anyways she drops by yesterday by my desk with a note with her name and no. on it

is she trying get some power back or something in anycase i dont see how a date during the day far away from my place can help me what would you do in my situatio.. i dont think chase has touched on this

thanks!


perhaps date compression is an idea but i still dont feel it right to be changing my plans.. and honestly i dont think thats possible as im leaving the country in about 10 days time

 

[NarrowJ]

Sherif,

Date compression probably isn't a good strategy if the girl is currently in a relationship. If a girl is going to cheat, she's going to do it (a) with a dominant guy who'll take her to bed very quickly and (b) as low-key as possible so nothing gets around to her social circle or anyone else who might spread info around.

So, even though date compression is technically still "moving fast" (because you're cramming 3-4 dates into a short time period), in this case it's actually not fast enough simply because of her situation.

I'd suggest the same option(s) as you did before, something of an evening that's near your place, but let HER tell YOU when she's free. If she keeps trying to pigeon-hole you into some daytime date with the logistics setup so that she knows it's not going to go anywhere sexual, then just put the ball in her court- but in a socially graceful way, perhaps like: "Well Sarah, tell you what... I'm usually busy during the day, so when you get a free evening to meet me for a drink at [place near your house], just let me know ok ", and then radio silence.

If she doesn't realize she's reached the breaking point of her resistance then she's probably not all that interested, but if she does agree to it- then just run the date like you normally would, but make sure your end goal is quick (same night) sex, because that's what a girl in a relationship wants. She doesn't want to be cajoled and courted. She has a boyfriend for that type of stuff.

Keep us updated, man! I'm interested in what this girl is up to here...
J.J.

 

[14sherif]

As per your advice I sent
Well X I like your ideas but im usually busy during the day. but id still like to see you when you have a free evening. Just let me know
and she got back to me with; thats ok drinks at x sounds good! see ya

So thanks for that! Ill let you know how things go

 

[NarrowJ]

As per your advice I sent
Well X I like your ideas but im usually busy during the day. but id still like to see you when you have a free evening. Just let me know
and she got back to me with; thats ok drinks at x sounds good! see ya

So thanks for that! Ill let you know how things go

Nice! I hope to read a LR soon


J.J.

 

[Franky]

Why not take her to a private place right after she dropped the note? Moving fast, right?

 

[14sherif]

We were in the library and actually her boyfriend was sitting a few tables ahead of me.. even i cant move that fast

In other News shes decided that the Location is now too sketchy and dodgy - I just sent back: why not were adventourous People to which she says : but im not that adventourous
What you think guys?

Im starting to think ahead of the objections ill get when i try to take things back to me place.. haha