Can people fall in love HARD without (any) sex ?

[lux7]

Stuck at home with an annoying stomach flu, I watched the movie "brief encounters".

It's the story of the middle age people both married with someone else who meet over the span of several weeks. They go to movies, talk, eat together and walk.

No sex though.

And they both fall in love, very hard, with her fantasizing about him and having huge troubles with her current relationship.

I do remember "falling in love" as a kid in sexless fantasies of mine with classmates and the likes and it made me think:

Do you think it's possible to fall in love, hard, without sex?

What are the differences, if any?

 

[JimmyB]

I think sure they can, but only for a little while. There's different types of love, but romantic love involves sex. If you keep drawing it out, eventually one or both people would get fed up and figure sex is not going to happen. It could last a while, like a few dates but either they'd have sex or the flame would die out.

 

[Rage]

That makes it infatuation but not love or stronger feelings of bond connection oneness that can only be arrived to through consummation through real sex.

Some girls are less experienced or even have some experienced and are crazier and will be crazy into you but won't be saying they love you until you stick your dick in them and rail them 

I don't know the incredibly detailed reason for why of this but it would be something scientific; pleasure chemicals released together and something.

I listened to some fascinating bit from Tony Robbins today coincidentally where he talked about how when he counsels couples he won't even see them first, and will first tell them to have sex for an hour and a half at least and focus on just getting to the point wher ether breathing matches one another's pace and matches and mirrors. 

And it alleviates most of their problems and they don't call him back typically; questionable how valid his story is I suppose, but essentially what I conjecture happens is a kind f oneness an attachment a bonding and chemical coming together happens during sex that pieces together the in love feelings that a person feels for another.

Before that any feelings felt I'd say are feelings of infatuation more felt towards the feeling and concept of being in love but not towards the person themself. They are addicted tot he feelings they felt with them and when around them and by their side; but it doesn't get personal till the guy dicks the girl and shoots a milkshake inside her taco. Hahaha or something like that 

 

[Drck]

It is very real and it sucks. It's called platonic love

 

[JimmyB]

Drck, I'd say that platonic love is a great thing. It's only bad when you're more interested than she is. But I would argue that in pretty much all "platonic love" situations, one of the parties (usually the guy) is more interested than the other and really would be interested in sex.

 

[Drck]

"Drck, I'd say that platonic love is a great thing. It's only bad when you're more interested than she is"

True, but that's usually the case...

 

[Bboy100]

Yep. Love is about attraction+investment. Sex is not necessary for either of those things to exist.

 

[lux7]

Just for a bit more clarity that was missing above, the movie wasn't about "pleasurable fantasy", but a strong, gut wrenching love where they are considering to leave behind children and elope and which puts their lives upside down.

Drck, I'd say that platonic love is a great thing.

I totally agree man, even with currently multiple sexual partners I'm still periodically "somehow infatuated" with a few female colleagues, including some we routinely flirt with -I think daily exposure is key for platonic love-.

And while you can be fully aware it's more of a fantasy, who cares? It's enjoyable and it makes it so much more pleasurable going to work and it even helps to stay dressed stylishly (would you otherwise take as much care if you were spending most of your time just with men? ) .

 

[Drck]

"it's more of a fantasy, who cares"

.... Interesting

 

[trashKENNUT]

Everyone,

I think what you mean falling in love "HARD" means a mental process, whether infatuation/fetish/rape/etc..

It's already been done. I done it but i realize it is more of the human instinct drive and death drive that we have concurrently runs. How do people survive in the past? Religion. They were starving but they believe in "God". Believing in God is just a thought process running in your head. You are still hungry, and in this case, you still lack sex.

Can you fall in love "HARD"? Yes, which is actually just a mental process/mental masturbation/religion... for a short time or long time. IF it is a long time, you have sex with other girls and you just pretend they don't exist, much like what women do.

But yea eventually she will get weird and leave or she will have awkward sex with you because of causality. and i can explain more but it will go deep.

Zac