Can someone explain this? not sure if she's hinting at relationship

[Fluxcapacitor]

Dudes! I don’t quite understand this situation, I met this girl and we had to postpone an escalation attempt due to timing issues (that time of the month). She text me every day after and was investing more and more, I bumped into her again a week later and went back to hers. It was still that time of the month (they’re heavy, she wasn’t lying) but I managed to fully escalate and finish what I started (this is how I know she wasn't lying haha). To prevent buyer’s remorse and ASD I messaged the next day with an After Sex Text. She replied and again she’s continued to text me every day. She seems rather cool and I was wanting to retain her as an FB/FWB. (got to fuck her again)

We originally planned to meet up a couple days after (I managed to bring the lay forward) so while we were still messaging I asked if she still wanted to go out. She declined and then commented that she was stunned I asked her to go out she didn't think that's what I was after. I was thinking to myself I was giving us a reason to meet up (plausible deniability) without triggering ASD and she thinks I'm after dating her? When I thought about it I figured this was her way to frame a relationship and for me to validate her by justifying the proposal. So I ignored this part of her message and kept the pressure on the proposal by saying it's a shame we would have had fun.

She then came back asking curiously what I had in mind, linking back to a private joke I mentioned a bar we could go to or I could go round and she could show me her movie collection (another private joke with plausible deniability). She questioned the movie collection, I told her it would be fun and tried to over sell it and she then called me out asking if it was just an excuse to go round. I said that I was serious and if I wanted an excuse I would have said we can watch spongebob.

She's still messaging me, and she wouldn't be investing this much if she wasn't interested. We havent planned the next meet, not that I have asked again since she declined but will be asking again. Not sure if this is her attempt to get me into a relationship or not. She's said a few times that I play with my cards to my chest I don't let her know what ive got.

Any thoughts? thanks dudes!

 

[Fuck This]

I think you raised your own Bid...

She didn't balk at keeping it physical and you offered the relationshippy behavior.

Your best bet is to give her the best sex of her life then have an excuse to be scarce for a week or two. Make great sex the main attraction rather than the warm fuzzies you make her feel when you are holding hands on your long romantic walks. Blackdragon has the best adivceon maintaining FB relationships. But if you do the boyfriendy stuff you become the defacto boyfriend....

 

[Fluxcapacitor]

@Fuck This dude! Thanks dude! I didn't even think of that. In my experience have never been called out or questioned about this they accept the proposal we go out/meet up and then we sleep together. Rinse and repeat. This one tripped me messaging every day, as opposed to dropping her a couple of texts every night I thought it would be better to just go and sleep with her.

Following the typical advice to fuck them a few times quickly to prevent ASD/buyers remorse an follow up 2 - 4 days later. 2 days after fucking and she's still messaging it just made sense for me to arrange a meet up.

I think I gave her the best sex of her life, her eyes were rolling to the back of her head during the little bit of foreplay never mind the main course. Like you said she wasn't balking at keeping it physical but I can see my behaviour looking relationshippy. Not sure how to fix this? I didn't want to ignore her for a day or two while she was making conversation after sleeping with her in case it triggered asd, my only thoughts now is to not to propose or schedule a meet until next week at the earliest and if I bump into her again at the weekend make sure it ends with sex?

Thanks dude

 

[Fluxcapacitor]

UPDATE:

She has kept messaging me for 2 weeks since the "decline" every morning she drops another message. I'm trying not to get sucked into conversation and only send a couple of messages back and limit the time. A have felt incredibly shit this week and not left the house other than to work, she said how ill she was so I didn't bother trying to arrange a meet up this week. I think she's clearly interested to keep messaging so often but think not meeting up is gonna to fuck me over.

I know I need to arrange a meet up but not sure how to go about it? She clearly got the relationship vibe/behaviour from my original scheduler but didn't balk at keeping it physical. With only sleeping with this girl once before and her constant messaging I feel like I can't just directly message her for a hook up but maybe I can?

I was just thinking of sending a standard scheduler message but leading with a playful kinda "are we just gonna text for another week or are we actually gonna meet up this week?" assessing her reaction to this to see if I can go straight for it but don't know if this appears unconfident or needy?

Any thoughts? Thanks dudes!

 

[Fuck This]

Don't over think it. She is second string for you right now. Invite her to come hang out at your place. Cook, watch a movie, try a bottle of wine. Just low key. Don't go dating per se. You can say you are feeling run down and "need to rest up". Her reaction will tell you what you need to know...