Hmm.. I see what you're saying. I'm probably falling to calibrateYou really have no idea how she is truly feeling. If you go in sending texts that are trying to anticipate how you think she might be feeling then you run the risk of putting up unnecessary road blocks. In this instance it seems like you thought maybe she wasn't comfortable yet and came in from an angle of trying to build comfort. For all you know she was ready to jump your bones ASAP. Your job with text is not to pre-empt her feelings. It is to keep momentum headed in the right direction. If she throws up things that our counter to that momentum you diagnose and adjust accordingly. Since you often don't have direct information about why she is putting up road blocks you have to diagnose base on what information is presented to you. While you can sometimes outright ask "Seems like you have become hesitant?" that is often not the best strategy so you have to read the situation more basically. She is giving only two word response, how do you move momentum beyond this? Sometimes it means giving a little less sometimes a little more. Yes be clear on the subtext you are sending but don't get hung up trying to anticipate what she is feeling. Think, how to I smoothly move this forward, which believe it or not sometimes means backing off a bit in a smart way to get her to buy in more.
Somehow, once I get onto texting I get this feeling of "I need to impress her". I don't know where this feeling comes from. I'm not projecting this when in-person but only with texting. I wrote somewhere above that there's something called texting anxiety and it affects dopamine somehow. I guess, it comes to that. It's seeking instant gratification like porn. So, I believe I tend to do everything to get instant results. Not sure, I need to sit with this thought to understand why I do this.Not if it is done well. She needs to be an active participant in the process. You can't carry things forward all your own. If you keep pushing it will just turn to chasing. A solid ball in court text is the perfect example of how to implement this. (Which by the way, I used chases model on ball in court texts today and it worked like a charm. Had her be like "You're right sorry, I do need to sort somethings out. I really do want to connect I'll reach out soon, promise"
Fuck!.. Ya, I've done this a few times in the past. I can see it from her point of view... Changing of date plans abruptly can make her alarms go off.The changing of the date last minute is also a hard left turn and could come off as "This guy is all over the place" or worst "something's not adding up here, I'm getting alarm bells maybe this guy is dangerous."
If she doesn't respond by tomorrow, let's say after 24h, do you think sending this will bring her back on track? : I sensed that you were not comfortable going to the Jazz bar. Did I misjudge?
TrueThis is what I meant in an earlier post when I said comfort is built through how you demonstrate your leadership. Just like you can't really know exactly what she is truly feeling, she can't know exactly where you are coming from. When there is a lack of clarity in where the momentum is headed it leaves her to interpret the situation in a myriad of ways. You have to be clear about where everything is headed. When she gets off track you find smooth ways to keep it moving in the right direction, or you risk the interaction losing clarity
It feels like long time ago before covid I had these kind of smooth interactionsI like to see seduction as collaborative. Yes you have to do the initial work of compelling her to be on your team but once you got her you can do wonders. That's why I personally would have called her here, gabbed a bit in a flirty way and then used that energy to Collab on a solid date idea in light of new developments. When a women wants to connect, you are taking a solid lead and managing whatever she throws at you, she will join in to make it all happen.