Can you ever totally shutdown emotionally? If yes, isn't that life dull?

[sneaky_charm]

I'm really sorry to sound like a Beta, but I'm a really emotional person. Even just by listening romantic sad songs I feel as if the music pierces through my heart, making me restless.

When you become advanced, and you can control your emotions, does that feel any good? Do you even feel anything at all? I know that emotional control is the way to getting things in life, but is that really worth it all the time, even at the cost of not feeling?

- Kevin

 

[Franco]

sneaky,

Good question, and it's one we get occasionally on the boards here but not too often.

When you're not in control of your own emotions, it feels like you're living your life on a roller coaster. You'll have moments where you have extreme highs and you feel like you're on top of the world... but then as easily as a few moments later, you can come crashing down. While the highs can be amazing, the lows can be absolutely devastating. Usually the highs are only brief, but the lows often last for long periods of time (months/years). Some guys never even really recover from the lows (unless they work on self-improvement) and end up living life in an emotional depression.

When you become advanced at seduction, there is some loss to the highs. You'll probably never really "peak" emotionally the way you did when you were at your highest point (probably with a girl you "fell in love" with). However, you almost NEVER experience the lows anymore. Your lows are extremely minimal, but you can still experience the majority of the highs. So you ultimately sacrifice the highest level of "good" emotion for a steady, high level of "good" emotion without any really bad, low emotions. If you're good with mathematics and understands waves, imagine that your "amplitude" becomes much smaller because your emotions don't vary so much. You'll ultimately be more happy, so there are plenty of "crests" in your wave, but they won't go as high as they might have before. However, your "troughs" are much less frequent and don't drop NEARLY as low.

The problem with emotional lows is that they usually affect all aspects of your life (including your friends, family, and career), so they can be extremely damaging. I've found that removing myself from being able to sink low emotionally (by understanding and becoming good with women and relationships) that I never have to worry about my life being turned completely upside down. That's not to say that I won't have moments where I'm slightly upset or disturbed by something caused by my significant other or women I happen to be spending time with, but I usually know how to resolve things in a way that keeps my mind at ease. And in the meantime, I'm able to enjoy all of the highs that are provided to me when I know how to handle women correctly.

Anyway, that was a bit of an in-depth explanation, but hopefully it provided some clarity. =)

- Franco

 

[Tim Iron]

Sneaky, If you don't understand franco's mathematics then let me liken it to finances/money - when you are not emotionally controlled, it is like you make a lot of money and then later you get broke and start begging - the reality is in this scenario you would be begging for money more than you would be making a lot of money. While when you are emotionally controlled, you would be making decent money all the time and you would never ever go completely broke that you would have to beg.

Now when you look at it over a period of time, you would see that you actually made more money when you were making decent money (and never going broke) than when you make a lot of money but would later go broke and start begging again.

Being emotionally controlled does not mean lack of emotions, it means being able to control the bad emotions completely so it never affects you (never going broke).

 

[sneaky_charm]

While the highs can be amazing, the lows can be absolutely devastating.

I'm not sure if it's abnormal, but even though I'm mostly happy and content, there are times when I experience sudden emotional rush. After every few weeks or so, I become super sad for some reason, and after my eyes tear up and I let it out, I feel fresh again. It's strange.

You'll ultimately be more happy, so there are plenty of "crests" in your wave, but they won't go as high as they might have before. However, your "troughs" are much less frequent and don't drop NEARLY as low.

Nice to know that I'll still have the highs. The sole reason I asked the question is because I was afraid if the highs won't feel like highs anymore after reaching emotional mastery.

when you are not emotionally controlled, it is like you make a lot of money and then later you get broke and start begging - the reality is in this scenario you would be begging for money more than you would be making a lot of money. While when you are emotionally controlled, you would be making decent money all the time and you would never ever go completely broke that you would have to beg.

I do have a little bit of idea about amplitude, but forgot much of what I studied. Although I quite understand crests and troughs. Having said that, I must say that your explanation is a nice simple one. If I'll be making 'decent' money all the time, then I guess that's good.

- Kevin