Can you have a future with a sorority girl?

[Sub-Zero]

I have a chick that is saying that she will join a sorority. When I think of that, I think parties and slutyness. I think they are basically the dreadful party girl. This is a nice, quite, homebody girl that I know will change.

Can you realistically date a sorority girl who will be loyal and not let it get in they way of your life together with her?

Or do you just cut her off?

 

[Eternity]

Probably not, thought it's not my niche and area of expertise. The few one's I met def got the sluttiness going for them now. Even though one of them was a top student in high school with honors and awards up the ass. Also was the shy quiet type. Now... lets just say she did a 180.

Paging Anatman on this subject...

 

[Sub-Zero]

Probably not, thought it's not my niche and area of expertise. The few one's I met def got the sluttiness going for them now. Even though one of them was a top student in high school with honors and awards up the ass. Also was the shy quiet type. Now... lets just say she did a 180.

Paging Anatman on this subject...

Yeah, she said that she is definitely going to do it and ha no choice because of her family are in them, and they are making her do it.

I told her to do what she wants, we will be done because the are sluts, and she said "just because you're in a sorority, doesn't mean you'll so that. I know girls that are still homebodies, yada, yada , yada.

I might be in love, but I am no fool.

I will cut it off if she does because I know they are the party girls.

But I am asking because I might make a mistake of I can make it work.

Thanks for paging Anatman.

 

[Eternity]

Go for fuck buddy status with her first. Feel her out, her friends out and look and hear what they do and who with. If it matters that much to you go for the experience, then you can face your fears and find the answer you seek.

Or wait for Anatman to chime in

 

[Sub-Zero]

Go for fuck buddy status with her first. Feel her out, her friends out and look and hear what they do and who with. If it matters that much to you go for the experience, then you can face your fears and find the answer you seek.

Or wait for Anatman to chime in

This girl and I have been dating for a while, her being how she is is why I am, but with that sorority shit, I want to cut her off if it does happen.
I wouldn't know what goes on there because I am not there and who knowns that's why I said I'd cut her off.

But yeah, we're kinda pass the fuck buddy stage

 

[Eternity]

Then yeah keep her on the back burner... Or bang all her hot friends.

 

[Sub-Zero]

Yeas you can! Wtf guys! There are plenty of sorority girls who are not party girls and plenty of sororitys that aren't party sororities. There will be party girls she'll be friends with but sorority girl does not equal party slut at all. We use sorority girl to describe girls here because it's a known stereotype but it's not the only way.

That being said, that yeah she will be putting herself in more dynamic and tempting social situations if she lives at the house, but many sisters do not live at their sorority house. You'll just have to see how your girl handles it and what she does. I would be supportive of her, but if you see her headed down the party girl route then you may want to reconsider.

Judge her by her actions as they come and do not give her ultimatums.

Dating a girl in a sorority could also be an eye opening experience for you to see how Greek life works and demystify the sorority girl thing in your mind. Also, as she'll be going through rapid social changes it will put stress on your relationship and it will be a great time to practice strong relationship management skills if you can deal with the fact that yes you may lose her.

Radeng

See the thing is Id rather not have to go through with the management to be honest. She won't be the person she once was, and to be honest I really don't want to deal with it.

I'm not like yall when it comes to dealing with stuff like that. It seems like you guys can manage your feelings better than I can, and date differently.

See I don't trust much, and if I'm like that now I know I'll even be worse. I'll see how I feel when the time comes, but I really don't like the idea at all, I don't.

How she is know is why I have feelings for her, if she changes at all, my feelings will probably go down because she'll be different, and like you say putting herself in more social situations.

I'm glad you said your part in how they aren't all slutty, so it gives me another perspective.

 

[Sub-Zero]

Then yeah keep her on the back burner... Or bang all her hot friends.

Haha how would I bang her friends?

 

[GeneralFap]

Haha, this reminds me of an article from ReturnofKings. 24 signs she's a slut. http://www.returnofkings.com/16837/24-signs-shes-a-slut

Look at number 12.

 

[Lotus]

I'm not like yall when it comes to dealing with stuff like that. It seems like you guys can manage your feelings better than I can, and date differently.

See I don't trust much, and if I'm like that now I know I'll even be worse. I'll see how I feel when the time comes, but I really don't like the idea at all, I don't.

How she is know is why I have feelings for her, if she changes at all, my feelings will probably go down because she'll be different, and like you say putting herself in more social situation

Part of being in healthy relationships is managing your feelings. When you say I don't trust much and don't want to manage my relationship with a girl that "I might be in love" with, it sounds to me like you don't want a healthy relationship.

She is going to change whether she joins a sorority or not. If you can't live with that and want to keep her "how she is now" forever, it's going to likely lead to her getting hurt.

Judge her by her actions as they come and do not give her ultimatums.

Good luck!

-Lotus

 

[ProblemSolving]

I'm in 100% agreement with Radeng. Yes, this sorority situation will create more insecurity for you - it already has. However, you can't say how things will change at this point. If I were in your situation, I'd play it by ear and see what happens before making a decision. If she makes a habit of partying without you and contacting you less than you're comfortable with, then I'd hit the eject button. Until then, work on your abundance and emotional control - this is mandatory if you want to lead successful relationships.

 

[uForia]

Find avenues to replace her, I'm sure there are other women around with the average male/female ratio in colleges (Hint: It's low). Her unwillingness to comply with you doesn't really make the case for her to compete so well against other women. She should feel lucky to have you in your dating economy, assuming your college is a pretty normal one.

 

[Lawliet]

Don't expect change for better.
Do you mean cut her off as in cutting contact with her?
There's no need for that

Lawliet

 

[uForia]

Don't expect change for better.
Do you mean cut her off as in cutting contact with her?
There's no need for that

Lawliet

She has some uses, such as access to more sorority girls for banging, but if OP doesn't find much value to extract from her, it's probably best to limit contact.