Cancelled date

[ray_zorse]

Like BDSC I disagree with your analysis, you don't need to change your whole approach or vibe or give her better sex or anything, you need to respond to tests better. This is in my view the point where you fucked up [note these topics have been discussed in other threads recently and some other advanced seducers have disagreed with me and said that her behaviour wasn't a test and indicated relationship issues that needed to be addressed, but I'm assuming it's a test here]:

Then suddenly she just stopped kissing and froze with a puzzled look, her face still close to me, and said "I really need to get up early tomorrow, I was planning on going to bed early." And then she just kind of moved away.

Here you could have basically grabbed her and thrown her on the bed and started kissing her, or possibly tickling her would be a good approach. The point is to do it with a cheeky smile showing that you aren't taking things too seriously, but try to get in close physical proximity and after wrestling with her for a bit, start nibbling on her ear and breathing a bit of hot breath in there or kissing her neck or whatever... and then work on getting those pants off, if she really starts to push you off you can say something like "ohh naughty girl, in that case I will have to give you a spanking" and then set about doing that (this will involve more wrestling)... point is basically break the circuit, keep doing things that engage her and eventually she will forget what she was saying in the first place. If she REALLY refuses to melt after lots of kissing her neck and so on then it may indicate deeper problems, but I think what she really wanted was for you to IGNORE the fact she has to get up early and just TAKE her, since you said "I WANT YOU" and she expected you to follow through despite her coquettishness. Another approach would be the takeaway: You tried to initiate sex, she said "I really need to get up early tomorrow" so you reply "okay, you may as well leave now then". And then pick up your laptop and start doing some work, or something like that. She'll likely be very shocked and try to say "what's wrong" etc and you just dismiss her politely "oh nothing, I'm busy now" and stick to it... let her leave and when she comes back her behaviour should be much better. Just some tips.
Ray

 

[jez]

Just got a message from her: "Hey! Sorry about this late text. I don't know the best way to say this but I noticed that after the autumn holiday I wasn't feeling the same as I was before regarding this thing we had going on...I mean that's why I was being so evasive because I started to think I didn't have the same desire to be there then. I'm sorry it went like this."

My reply was: "Ok! If you ever start to feel better about it again, just send me a text! "

No surprises there.

 

[ray_zorse]

Sure, but bear in mind to never believe anything she says, the GC model of seduction (value / attainability / compliance, escalation windows, etc) is far more accurate and gives satisfactory explanations for women's behaviour that they can't themselves explain because they don't understand how female attraction works (they tend to search around for an explanation that sounds plausible and then it "becomes the truth" to them).
Ray

 

[jez]

Sure, but bear in mind to never believe anything she says, the GC model of seduction (value / attainability / compliance, escalation windows, etc) is far more accurate and gives satisfactory explanations for women's behaviour that they can't themselves explain because they don't understand how female attraction works (they tend to search around for an explanation that sounds plausible and then it "becomes the truth" to them).
Ray

Right. I don't care much about that text, it sounds like just another way of saying "it's not you, it's me" which I tend to laugh at. The important thing is that I learned how to improve some key elements again in my interaction.