Can't decide between two girls

[Lithuanian]

So to the point. I'm dating a girl. I went to 5 dates with her. I know that she likes me and I like her too. At least, I liked her. But now, I don't know. She is very intelligent, a lawyer, knows her value and won't look to any guy (she said she won't marry any guy for the sake of marriage and better stay alone). But she has one drawback - she doesn't have vibe. We planned to travel to other city, just like a tour to famous places. But she just declines for one or other reason. I know she doesn't lie, she is just undecisive a bit, she is not very adventurous.

Recently, I picked up another girl. I went to a couple of dates and she is totally different than the first one. She is also smart, but a bit younger, more compliant. But she has that spark, which drives me on. She uses push/pull technique (me too) and I know she likes me (started messaging me first, looked for my FB profile, but I declined to tell her, goes were I lead her etc.).

Now I'm at crossroad. For longer term relationship, I'd like the first girl. But we were on 5 dates already, and we're always just walking, going to cafes, nothing interesting, it's just interesting to talk to her. But recently I reduced my attention drastically. Last time we met, she offered this trip to another city next time we meet. And when I said, I like action, she instantly offered to go somehwere, like a trip with a boat (last time I wanted this trip, but she declined). But for me it's like my interest expired for her. On the other hand, I just want to ask her, why you're dating with me and just offer to start serious relationship.

And there's that second girl. She has that spark, but I don't know if I'd like her for longer relantionship. I've been to just 2 dates with her, but now I'm more thinking what to do with the first one. I'd like to meet her again, but should I just talk to her openly (that we should meet every week instead of every third week, take more activity and offer serious relationship) or just up my game significantly next time out and see what she does. I think first option would work better, but I don't know if I won't burn everything with it. What would you guys suggest?

 

[Frost]

It seems to me that the first one has a low sexual drive and the second has a high drive (I don't know if that's obvious, or if that's not even it).

If your interest expired for the first chick I would suggest you let her go, since it seems she isn't giving you what you want.

Concerning the second girl. Maybe the fact that you are seeing each other only every 3rd week is what's keeping it spicy. But I'm guessing that when you commit to her, it will be a little harder to keep her around since she has a high drive.

 

[Bboy100]

Unfortunetely, we can't really give you very good advice on which girl to choose based off a forum post. We don't know what they're like and we don't really know what you want.

Scroll to the middle of this article. https://www.girlschase.com/content/why-d ... en-step-up
There's a huge list of like 10 or 11 other articles which are all related to choosing and screening long-term mates. I suggest you look into those for guidance, then make a decision of your own.

 

[Lotus]

Lithuanian,

Couple things here.

I know she doesn't lie, she is just undecisive a bit, she is not very adventurous.

Be careful with this statement, girls will lie and justify it to themselves so they don't feel bad. She may just be unwilling to invest in you quite yet, because as you mentioned she has high standards.

On the other hand, I just want to ask her, why you're dating with me and just offer to start serious relationship.

Don't do this. Don't be the one initiating the relationship talk. It's her job to chase you for the relationship.

Have you slept with both of these girls? I may be wrong but it seems like you haven't. If that's so then you shouldn't even be thinking about this.

There is no reason to choose right now doing so would be shooting yourself in the foot. If you're going to enter into a committed relationship be sure you want it... hence the word commitment. Neither girl has won you over which is why you don't know what you want... let them.

-brum

 

[Lithuanian]

@Frost I fear this too, because it is quite obvious. They're totally different. Thanks to @Bboy100, I read Chase's article about types of women, and I can tell that first one is "inexperienced". She said to me, that she won't marry if she will not find her man, I think she is quite smitten with me, seems very loyal etc. Recently she seems quite submissive either.

Maybe I should start acting as her boyfriend. Because sometimes she seems to be prettending my girlfriend: she called me boyfriend in front of waitress ("my boyfriend hasn't decided yet), we went to grocery store that she would buy food to herself and her mother, she asked me what she should buy me for supper, she took to hold my bottle of water while I was paying for it etc. But I am not willing to let her go, because I see in her too many advantages that suit my character.