Alright so since I started following GC I've seen a huge improvement, I got my fundamentals down almost perfectly, I'm handling conversations and openings and everything very well, I'm getting warm feelings from most women I talk to.
I've paid attention to every detail, and step by step process, from opening to flirting, to sexual and chase framing everything, and then my problem appears.
I can't force myself to go with a girl that I don't find very attractive to save my fucking life, it's pretty pathetic, like today I was at a social gathering with my friends and then we hit a club, I basically had 2 girls throw themselves at me, and I didn't do shit because I felt like they weren't attractive enough, I mean it wasn't just me, my friends told me afterwards like wtf are you doing are you blind, and I saw the signs too, from physical touch (as in a "stop it" motion when laughing) playing with their hair, to huge smiles and getting physically close to my face. And I didn't do anything, I feel like my time is being wasted or could be used for something better I don't know what the hell it is, I've read the article on how to lower my standards but it's not really helping me, do you guys have any suggestions?
I also have a second problem, I've always been honest with myself, up until a few years I considered myself a pretty average looking guy, I didn't have anything for granted and I started working towards getting things on my own which developed my personality pretty well. And now I'm hearing from girls and guys and friends around me, that I'm an attractive guy, I'm smart, I live an interesting life (which is true besides my girl hiccups I do all sorts of activities all the time), I'm hearing this quite often and my mind can't accept it, I'm living with the same self-image mindset as a few years back, not completely I know a lot of things have improved but my mind can't accept it (maybe it's for the better), and sometimes I get this feeling like I'm not up to a girl's standards or liking or not attractive enough or whatever even though I always assume they are attracted just because I don't like getting my mind clogged with negative thoughts over something I have little to no control at all. And I think it's messing with my attainability because whenever this feeling occurs a defense-mechanism triggers and I feel like I've got this shield up and my attainability is very low.
I've been working through these issues, I know quite a lot about psychology and it'll take me some time but I'll get over this on my own terms, I'm really thinking it all through, giving myself positive energy as well as reinforcement and proof that it's not true or true (different problems) and I know for a fact that I'll be over it in a few months but I just wanna hear an outside opinion.
I've paid attention to every detail, and step by step process, from opening to flirting, to sexual and chase framing everything, and then my problem appears.
I can't force myself to go with a girl that I don't find very attractive to save my fucking life, it's pretty pathetic, like today I was at a social gathering with my friends and then we hit a club, I basically had 2 girls throw themselves at me, and I didn't do shit because I felt like they weren't attractive enough, I mean it wasn't just me, my friends told me afterwards like wtf are you doing are you blind, and I saw the signs too, from physical touch (as in a "stop it" motion when laughing) playing with their hair, to huge smiles and getting physically close to my face. And I didn't do anything, I feel like my time is being wasted or could be used for something better I don't know what the hell it is, I've read the article on how to lower my standards but it's not really helping me, do you guys have any suggestions?
I also have a second problem, I've always been honest with myself, up until a few years I considered myself a pretty average looking guy, I didn't have anything for granted and I started working towards getting things on my own which developed my personality pretty well. And now I'm hearing from girls and guys and friends around me, that I'm an attractive guy, I'm smart, I live an interesting life (which is true besides my girl hiccups I do all sorts of activities all the time), I'm hearing this quite often and my mind can't accept it, I'm living with the same self-image mindset as a few years back, not completely I know a lot of things have improved but my mind can't accept it (maybe it's for the better), and sometimes I get this feeling like I'm not up to a girl's standards or liking or not attractive enough or whatever even though I always assume they are attracted just because I don't like getting my mind clogged with negative thoughts over something I have little to no control at all. And I think it's messing with my attainability because whenever this feeling occurs a defense-mechanism triggers and I feel like I've got this shield up and my attainability is very low.
I've been working through these issues, I know quite a lot about psychology and it'll take me some time but I'll get over this on my own terms, I'm really thinking it all through, giving myself positive energy as well as reinforcement and proof that it's not true or true (different problems) and I know for a fact that I'll be over it in a few months but I just wanna hear an outside opinion.
