Um... I'm going to go against the conventional suggestions here and suggest that you instead take a break from game instead. Don't get me wrong, game is great and all but it sounds to me like you burnt out chasing after an outcome - a girlfriend as I understand it.
Please forgive the long post but here are the reasons why I think you should take a break:
1) The lack of success is making you bitter and depressed (which sends you into the terrible feedback loop of low confidence and low testosterone levels which in turn mess with your head and make you less attractive)
2) You focus on technique instead of a character driven approach. Essentially you believe that you're not worthy of love ("Women just don't like me, it's like I'm some alien or something. I just don't know what to do at this point."). This core belief shines through all the techniques you use and you essentially sabotage yourself. This leads me to believe that even if opportunities present themselves you neglect to follow through. This also results in low confidence which kills your game.
3) Your happiness is extremely outcome dependent. Heck, you're feeling unfulfilled, I get that - I've been there many times. Regardless, getting a girl won't change this feeling. Furthermore, this dependence probably poisons your interactions with girls and they probably sense that you need something from them (as opposed to thinking of the value you can give them). This may be harsh but I'm afraid you appear to be a bit of a value leach. It's ok though, **** happens. There's a way out.
Here's the thing though, gaming is great, and like all games, it's supposed to be fun. Sure you'll have moments where you wish to rip your hair out in sorrow just as there are nights where you feel you are the king. The problem is that you're stuck in a negative feedback loop which kills the fun in your game.
So what can you do about it?
Like I said, take a break. Give it a week, a month, heck even several months if you need it and instead focus your energies becoming more fulfilled as an individual. Do a competitive sport you really enjoy, improve your skills with a musical instrument, whatever, just take back your locus of control into your own hands. The goal here is for you to discover yourself and your self worth as cheesy as that sounds. Take a trip somewhere new. Explore new places, things, activities. Essentially you need to break out of your current behavioral patterns which would in turn help you break your thought patterns (both influence each-other actually except behaviors are easier to monitor and change than thoughts). Whatever you do DO NOT SIT ON YOUR ASS AND PLAY VIDOEGAMES, SMOKE, WATCH TV, ETC. You have to be moving forward, not stand still.
Beware the trap though! You will not magically wake up one day and feel like you've got this handled. It would become very easy to give up on game altogether while waiting for your perfect confidence. Here's the deal, no matter how much intrinsic confidence you will build, it will not magically transform into social confidence. Instead you have to earn the latter from experience where as the former helps you persevere through the low lows. So when and if you ever decide to take a break, GIVE YOURSELF A DEADLINE FOR COMING BACK TO GAME AND STICK TO IT. It doesn't matter if you're ready or not because nobody is ever completely ready for anything. If you do what I said you will be moving forward and that's what's most important.
You feel like you've been stuck in a rut for four years - give yourself a chance to break out of it.
Remember, don't let girls decide your self worth. You're a man, you're the leader, you decide. You are free to sculpt yourself into the person you desire to be. Remember, girls aren't the answer to your problems. The abundance of romance, sex, and women is a byproduct of a fantastic lifestyle - they're never the end goal. (Read this: https://www.girlschase.com/content/she-m ... ur-mission)
So instead, focus on you passions, your hobbies, and your dreams. Then you wouldn't need validation from girls to make you happy, instead you will have the capacity to share your happiness with then and that is when they will come running.
Please forgive the long post but here are the reasons why I think you should take a break:
1) The lack of success is making you bitter and depressed (which sends you into the terrible feedback loop of low confidence and low testosterone levels which in turn mess with your head and make you less attractive)
2) You focus on technique instead of a character driven approach. Essentially you believe that you're not worthy of love ("Women just don't like me, it's like I'm some alien or something. I just don't know what to do at this point."). This core belief shines through all the techniques you use and you essentially sabotage yourself. This leads me to believe that even if opportunities present themselves you neglect to follow through. This also results in low confidence which kills your game.
3) Your happiness is extremely outcome dependent. Heck, you're feeling unfulfilled, I get that - I've been there many times. Regardless, getting a girl won't change this feeling. Furthermore, this dependence probably poisons your interactions with girls and they probably sense that you need something from them (as opposed to thinking of the value you can give them). This may be harsh but I'm afraid you appear to be a bit of a value leach. It's ok though, **** happens. There's a way out.
Here's the thing though, gaming is great, and like all games, it's supposed to be fun. Sure you'll have moments where you wish to rip your hair out in sorrow just as there are nights where you feel you are the king. The problem is that you're stuck in a negative feedback loop which kills the fun in your game.
So what can you do about it?
Like I said, take a break. Give it a week, a month, heck even several months if you need it and instead focus your energies becoming more fulfilled as an individual. Do a competitive sport you really enjoy, improve your skills with a musical instrument, whatever, just take back your locus of control into your own hands. The goal here is for you to discover yourself and your self worth as cheesy as that sounds. Take a trip somewhere new. Explore new places, things, activities. Essentially you need to break out of your current behavioral patterns which would in turn help you break your thought patterns (both influence each-other actually except behaviors are easier to monitor and change than thoughts). Whatever you do DO NOT SIT ON YOUR ASS AND PLAY VIDOEGAMES, SMOKE, WATCH TV, ETC. You have to be moving forward, not stand still.
Beware the trap though! You will not magically wake up one day and feel like you've got this handled. It would become very easy to give up on game altogether while waiting for your perfect confidence. Here's the deal, no matter how much intrinsic confidence you will build, it will not magically transform into social confidence. Instead you have to earn the latter from experience where as the former helps you persevere through the low lows. So when and if you ever decide to take a break, GIVE YOURSELF A DEADLINE FOR COMING BACK TO GAME AND STICK TO IT. It doesn't matter if you're ready or not because nobody is ever completely ready for anything. If you do what I said you will be moving forward and that's what's most important.
You feel like you've been stuck in a rut for four years - give yourself a chance to break out of it.
Remember, don't let girls decide your self worth. You're a man, you're the leader, you decide. You are free to sculpt yourself into the person you desire to be. Remember, girls aren't the answer to your problems. The abundance of romance, sex, and women is a byproduct of a fantastic lifestyle - they're never the end goal. (Read this: https://www.girlschase.com/content/she-m ... ur-mission)
So instead, focus on you passions, your hobbies, and your dreams. Then you wouldn't need validation from girls to make you happy, instead you will have the capacity to share your happiness with then and that is when they will come running.
