Ok, so you go out, you approach lots of women, you date some women, you like all the vibes you have with females - but you still can’t get laid.
Your energies (forgive me this expression, I don’t know how to call it differently) are imbalanced, adjustment is needed. There are two energies to look at:
1. Niceness-ness, feminine energy. There is actually nothing wrong with being “nice”, or if you want “Nice Guy”. You like a woman, you want to talk to her, be around her, take care of her, be intimate with her, maybe even marry her. If this is something you want to do, why not? It is your life, no one else’s, and you shouldn’t go by anyone else’s view on relationships. You shouldn’t listen to amazing assholes nor great seducers – you can learn from them but should simply make your own decision of what you want in your life. The problem with this Niceness-ness energy is, that it makes you weak. It is feminine energy, gentleness, great feelings, softness, talkativeness, great vibes, attachment and love. If you have excess of this energy you just want to be around that particular female, cuddle, talk and love, but you can’t really have sex because this energy suppresses your desire
2. Selfishness-ness, masculine energy. This one is quite an opposite. You are not “nice”, you become more selfish. You don’t care about her that much, you care more about yourself and your desire to get laid. You don’t want to take care of her, all you want is to have sex with her and then kick her out. This is classical masculine energy, you don’t really care much about feelings, all you want is to have sex with no strings attached. You just want to have sex, the physical act of itself, there is really no emotional attachment to the other person. This energy is actually very attractive to females, by being kind of selfish asshole you can get laid quite often and you don’t even have to know much seduction skills. The problem with this energy is that you can’t have long term relationships, you simply don’t care at all about the woman you sleep with
The imbalance is when you have too much of the feminine energy in you and not enough masculine energy. You are too nice and too soft, you are too careful to hurt her feelings, you are too careful to be selfish because you were thought that you should share with the person you love. You can’t really share and be selfish at the same time, it just doesn’t work.
So if you are a “Nice Guy” you probably have say 80-90% of that feminine energy in you, and only 10-20% of masculine. You can’t get her with being 80% feminine, because she is feminine herself, she’s got these 80-90% of feminine energy in her herself already, and because those energies are the same polarities they actually repel each other. She will reject you for being too nice, too carrying. Now, is that reasons why a lot of females today become more “feminist” with man-like behavior? Could be, they simply want to equalize those two energies. If men are more feminine today, women will automatically adjust themselves to become more masculine, which kinda makes sense.
So you need to reverse these energies. You need to become more masculine, more selfish, less attached to females, less affection seeking, less loving. The more masculinity you can show the more attractive you will become to most females, it is just natural outcome. You put 80% of masculine energy into interaction with females, and keep only 20% of feminine, and you are guaranteed to get laid, there is just no other way. Of course you don’t have to go 100% overboard to become total asshole, but you get the idea. No one is saying that you can’t switch back to feminine energy AFTER you get laid – but be careful if you want to keep the same women: What got you laid at first place will keep her around as well.
There is another good thing: Once you get more experience, once you become more masculine man, you don’t have to go either feminine or masculine – you can learn to utilize both. You can be 80% feminine and 80% masculine, you’ll just switch between these as you need, which will make you even more attractive. You talk to females as if you were female, you can vibe with them, you can have feelings for females as if you were the “Nicest Guy” – and then you go and do your manly things, like every man should do.
You fight, you overcome obstacles, you work hard, and you learn – but only for yourself, not for anyone else. You go out, you try your best, and you get rejected… Oh, how sad. But you never give up anyway. You go out again and ask for more rejections instead. You just know that it is never about those rejections – it is only about that great experience with females! You then go and lift weights, you sweat like a pig, your muscles hurt – but you come back again, and again because you know: No pain no gain!
If they tell you to do this and that, and they are so nice and sweet about it – say NO and do something else. If they tell you, with tears in their eyes to feel sorry and sad – just say: I’m never sorry and I will never apologize for that! If they tell you, oh, but this hurts so much and that hurt a lot too, you just say – yes it does, and that pain is great! And they tell you, take it easy and relax, take the easy way out – you only smile and only gently say: Well fuck you then, easy life is for pussies only, but not for real men!
Now why would reasonable and intelligent guy like you want to do all these difficult things, go through all the pain and suffering if he doesn't have to? Because this guy wants to be a fucking MAN!
Your energies (forgive me this expression, I don’t know how to call it differently) are imbalanced, adjustment is needed. There are two energies to look at:
1. Niceness-ness, feminine energy. There is actually nothing wrong with being “nice”, or if you want “Nice Guy”. You like a woman, you want to talk to her, be around her, take care of her, be intimate with her, maybe even marry her. If this is something you want to do, why not? It is your life, no one else’s, and you shouldn’t go by anyone else’s view on relationships. You shouldn’t listen to amazing assholes nor great seducers – you can learn from them but should simply make your own decision of what you want in your life. The problem with this Niceness-ness energy is, that it makes you weak. It is feminine energy, gentleness, great feelings, softness, talkativeness, great vibes, attachment and love. If you have excess of this energy you just want to be around that particular female, cuddle, talk and love, but you can’t really have sex because this energy suppresses your desire
2. Selfishness-ness, masculine energy. This one is quite an opposite. You are not “nice”, you become more selfish. You don’t care about her that much, you care more about yourself and your desire to get laid. You don’t want to take care of her, all you want is to have sex with her and then kick her out. This is classical masculine energy, you don’t really care much about feelings, all you want is to have sex with no strings attached. You just want to have sex, the physical act of itself, there is really no emotional attachment to the other person. This energy is actually very attractive to females, by being kind of selfish asshole you can get laid quite often and you don’t even have to know much seduction skills. The problem with this energy is that you can’t have long term relationships, you simply don’t care at all about the woman you sleep with
The imbalance is when you have too much of the feminine energy in you and not enough masculine energy. You are too nice and too soft, you are too careful to hurt her feelings, you are too careful to be selfish because you were thought that you should share with the person you love. You can’t really share and be selfish at the same time, it just doesn’t work.
So if you are a “Nice Guy” you probably have say 80-90% of that feminine energy in you, and only 10-20% of masculine. You can’t get her with being 80% feminine, because she is feminine herself, she’s got these 80-90% of feminine energy in her herself already, and because those energies are the same polarities they actually repel each other. She will reject you for being too nice, too carrying. Now, is that reasons why a lot of females today become more “feminist” with man-like behavior? Could be, they simply want to equalize those two energies. If men are more feminine today, women will automatically adjust themselves to become more masculine, which kinda makes sense.
So you need to reverse these energies. You need to become more masculine, more selfish, less attached to females, less affection seeking, less loving. The more masculinity you can show the more attractive you will become to most females, it is just natural outcome. You put 80% of masculine energy into interaction with females, and keep only 20% of feminine, and you are guaranteed to get laid, there is just no other way. Of course you don’t have to go 100% overboard to become total asshole, but you get the idea. No one is saying that you can’t switch back to feminine energy AFTER you get laid – but be careful if you want to keep the same women: What got you laid at first place will keep her around as well.
There is another good thing: Once you get more experience, once you become more masculine man, you don’t have to go either feminine or masculine – you can learn to utilize both. You can be 80% feminine and 80% masculine, you’ll just switch between these as you need, which will make you even more attractive. You talk to females as if you were female, you can vibe with them, you can have feelings for females as if you were the “Nicest Guy” – and then you go and do your manly things, like every man should do.
You fight, you overcome obstacles, you work hard, and you learn – but only for yourself, not for anyone else. You go out, you try your best, and you get rejected… Oh, how sad. But you never give up anyway. You go out again and ask for more rejections instead. You just know that it is never about those rejections – it is only about that great experience with females! You then go and lift weights, you sweat like a pig, your muscles hurt – but you come back again, and again because you know: No pain no gain!
If they tell you to do this and that, and they are so nice and sweet about it – say NO and do something else. If they tell you, with tears in their eyes to feel sorry and sad – just say: I’m never sorry and I will never apologize for that! If they tell you, oh, but this hurts so much and that hurt a lot too, you just say – yes it does, and that pain is great! And they tell you, take it easy and relax, take the easy way out – you only smile and only gently say: Well fuck you then, easy life is for pussies only, but not for real men!
Now why would reasonable and intelligent guy like you want to do all these difficult things, go through all the pain and suffering if he doesn't have to? Because this guy wants to be a fucking MAN!
