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Azari

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17 . 05. 21
Sup gents,

I've been reflecting alot recently and I realized I wasn't taking seduction as seriously as I shud.I want to get good at this...really good..Its gonna take a lot of work I guess..but the gains are definitely worth it.

I had a journal here before but didn't like the way it turned out..not enough approaching n I wasn't consistently updating it and it had a bit of a negative feel to it...So this is a new journal n a new chapter in my life with no more procrastination n mental masturbation , one full adventures n hot babes haha.

I'll be writing about my adventures with women here...hopefully only the good ones.

Number of approaches : 1

I was heading to hang with some friends today when I saw her...a sexy hourglass figure with a huge ass in a black mini skirt.She was a couple meters ahead of me. I didn't see her face yet but I thought to myself...I must talk to this girl.

I increased my pace a bit to catch up with her...she glanced back...then slowed down her pace...a possible A.I

Walked next to her n opened over my shoulder

Me: Hey u kinda look like ur looking for someone
Her:Yeah I'm meeting someone over there ( she gestured at some building up ahead)
Me: I thought so cuz it seems like ur first time here
Her: haha no I used to live here before
Me: For real?...I've lived here since 2016 n I've never seen u around
Her : I actually moved to a different country n came back here in 2019
Me : Made some joke about our countries n she laughed
Me: What's ur name btw
Her:her name...n urs
Me : gave her my alias
Her : repeats it with a smile
...we cross the road n she reaches her destination..I realise we have to part ways so I stop n face her
Me : Hey I've got to meet my friends can I get ur fb ( it's kinda normal here...would hav tried to number close but my phone wasn't with me)
Her: sure...
She gives me her fb username
Me : Cool
And I walk away.

It wasn't the smoothest exit...not even a smooth approach...

I wasn't even planning to cold approach today but I saw her n couldn't miss the opportunity.

Added her on fb...not expecting much tho

focus for next time

-Speak slowly n deeply
- Slow movements
- Work on opening..
-Show intent
 

Starboy

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Hey man that's awesome that you decided to take the initiative to change your habits,try to approach and make a new journal to show you mean business. I was the exact same way years ago. I made a bullshit journal entry where I left my house that day with the intent to approach,but never did. Then I left that journal alone for years,never took seduction seriously,didn't attempt to approach for years and wasted so much time doing nothing of significance, all because I was too insecure,scared and refused to invest and believe in myself until recently where I took steps to force myself to change.

I started by signing up for online coaching to learn about developing inner game by reading self books about fear and the ego,mediation and incorporating positive mindsets. Then I signed up for a bootcamp in Vegas where I had a coach demonstrate to me how to warm up socially so that approaching is easier and put less pressure on myself and then I was able to do a lot of approaches and now I practice back home. Takes time,but once you start seeing small wins it will help keep you hungry and motivated to keep improving.
 

Azari

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I started by signing up for online coaching to learn about developing inner game by reading self books about fear and the ego,mediation and incorporating positive mindsets.
What kind of books would u recommend?

Gone thru ur journal btw....keep grinding bruh
 

Skjöldr

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Idk what setting you approached her in, but say you're in the city on the streets or something, it's a bit weird to say you havent seen her around before (you can use the line playfully/ironically though, like if you both lived in new york "omg i never saw you there how come"), because the city is so big and have so many people yknow.
 

Starboy

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What kind of books would u recommend?

Gone thru ur journal btw....keep grinding bruh
Thanks man i'm trying. Although I could do better than I am.

Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill
No more Mr Nice Guy by Robert Glover
The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle
A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle
Fear by Osho

I think these are a good start. Learn about successful mindsets,attitudes,the ego,how to manage fear and anxiety.
 

Azari

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Idk what setting you approached her in, but say you're in the city on the streets or something, it's a bit weird to say you havent seen her around before (you can use the line playfully/ironically though, like if you both lived in new york "omg i never saw you there how come"), because the city is so big and have so many people yknow.
It was in my neighborhood n turns out she actually doesn't live that far from my house.
 

Azari

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Monday 10th , January 2022

Fuccc....It's been a while
Time flies and a lot has happened between my last entry and today.
Did I get laid?....unfortunately no!

My life has been upside down for a while.
Took time off approaching tho I've really never been consistent at approaching tbh. I thought to myself I had good reasons not to approach but in reality they were just excuses. I had/have dreams of being a badass seducer and to make them a reality I need to be constantly taking action.

Thus the revival of this Journal.

Seduction Goals
  • Reach intermediate level
Tbh I'm not sure if I can go from super beginner to intermediate level in a year haha. But might as well aim for the stars.

To reach that level I'm going to :
-Approach at least 3 girls per day...I live in a low volume town and until I move to a bigger city that's the daily quota .

-Be consistent on the boards...there's a lot of good journals and field reports here that I hope will speed up my learning curve.

-Work on fundamentals....My fundamentals are shit right now and I imagine they'll be the biggest obstacle. This month I'll be working on movement speed and speaking with a low natural deeper voice.

Perceived Obstacles
wtf ...' perceived obstacles ' sounds funny lol
I have perceived that these will be obstacles in my journey as an aspiring fucboii haha

logistics :
I live with my highly conservative family so that sucks...the only option I have is to bring girls to my friends place.That means I hav to consult him every time I wanna bring a girl over...so I guess no same day lays.
Approach Anxiety : my nemesis lol
AA is still a biaatchh
Fundamentals:
Like I said my fundamentals are shit....even tho I'm working on them atm..I think it's going to be a while until I reach the level that I really want.
Myself :
Yeah I'm my biggest enemy.
I need to overcome the mental resistance n the bullshit I sell myself.

January Objectives :
1.Go an a date...that's all for January for now I guess....super modest but for me it's huge haha.
2.Be consistent in approaching and on the boards.
3.Move slowly n talk deeply....it takes about a month to develop a habit I guess so if I get these two down I can work on other fundamentals.
4.Have fun approaching!


Since I've got AA...I've decided to give the newbie assignment a go. I think that's the right place for me to start. After I'll implement my 3 girls per day rule.I can't do both at once.

That's all I can think of for now.


Let the games begin lol
 

Azari

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10 . O1 . 2022

Newbie Assignment
Day 1:Observation,


Today's objective was to find four places with a lot of women and also convenient enough to avoid mental resistance.

I went to the library first...and it was empty.
Quiet and very empty. It had only a few guys and no female at all.

It seemed like a nice place for a cheap n low pressure date....for the bookish girls tho haha.Overall it's a pretty terrible location.
I think I'll check it out occasionally , I might run into the girl of my dreams there lol.

Main street
Idk how to put it but there's a street here that leads to a cluster of shops and grocery stores.It has aloooot of foot traffic.
Girls,women, chicks ,ladies, there all there haha. I gotta admit tho, the thought of approaching women here is daunting.

Semi secluded Park
It's not exactly the park...but the path that cuts diagonally across the park. It has a fair amount of women moving to and fro especially in the evening. And it's also not as crowded as the main street ( above) so I'm kinda comfortable there.

The park itself is mostly filled with pairs and groups of people.

City Center :
It's full of women alright but had to take a 30 min bus ride so there's that.

Clubbing area/district;
Some area with clubs and all that...didn't visit it today tbh.
But last time I was there it was full of babes.
Frankly of all the places I've listed this has the highest concentration of girls my age.
Downside is I can't go there frequently cuz I am broke haha.

I also know a couple streets that have high foot traffic n I'll b visiting them soon too.

So that's day One.

To day two we go.
 

Azari

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11. O1. 2022

Day Two : Posture


Went out to the main street today.
The objective was to work on posture. I've been working on my posture for a while now so it was more of an observation today.

A few girls looked at me...one stared me down as I walked by her haha. I didn't really pay attention to the guys. Tho I noticed one dude had a really slow walk.

I saw a really cute girl walking towards me n I tried thinking of a low effort way of stopping her...couldn't come up with anything. I was thinking fucckkk as she passed by. I didn't like the feelings that surfaced afterwards.

Also noticed women looked at my feet for some reason... I guess I have to invest in a good pair of shoes.

That's all for today...honestly I was tempted to do day three too but I guess it's one step at time.

Peace
 

Beck Bass

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Niiice, keep up the good work!

Also noticed women looked at my feet for some reason... I guess I have to invest in a good pair of shoes.
Funny, because I was watching some reality TV dating show yesterday and there was a chick that was a designer/fashionista/whatever, and she told the guy that "the shoes that give it away" (if someone really dresses well, when he asked her if she liked his outfit). Dunno if I agree, but whatever.


logistics :
I live with my highly conservative family so that sucks...the only option I have is to bring girls to my friends place.That means I hav to consult him every time I wanna bring a girl over...so I guess no same day lays.
Yep, I know how that sucks. I've been living alone for like a year and a half, and it's a whole new life, even if I liked my parents. What you can do is see if you can find any love hotels/motels near you that you can take girls to, or some other alternative location for sex/intimacy, though those can cost a fair bit too (still, taking a girl or two there a month is probably way cheaper than living by yourself, I think).
Anyway, don't let this get you down, try to get as sexual as you can with girls wherever you can, you would be surprised to know the types of places girls had sex before...

Good luck ;)
 

Azari

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12. 01. 2022

Day 3: Eyecontact

So today's goal was to make eyecontact with 10 people be it men, women or whatever.

1.Woman with baby...locked eyes with her for a second or so then she looked away and feigned saying sth to her baby

2.Saw a girl walking towards me...made eyecontact when she was about two meters away.She looked down n didn't look up until she passed me...she looked young probably younger than me.

3.On my way to the main street had a short interaction with some kids...some random dude initiated a staring contest haha. Didn't back down until he broke eye contact by looking down.

4. I was walking while typing sth on the notebook app on my phone.I noticed some movement in my peripherals. I looked up....another random dude...held eye contact for a while until he had this quizzical expression on his face. I looked away.

5. Girl walking...held eye contact with her. She got closer...I said Hi, how are u...She was Okay.

6.Chick carrying groceries...extremely cute.
Locked eyes for 3 to 4 secs...got a little uncomfortable. I looked away...can't seem to maintain ec for a longtime with really hot girls.

7.Two girls walking towards me...looked at the shorter cuter one.She looked down immediately. The taller one didn't even glance at me.

8.Locked eyes with an older woman...probably in her early 30s.She smiled.

9.A cutie was walking towards me....locked eyes with her for what felt like a long time..again got a little uncomfortable...looked away first.As she got closer...said hey and she fuccking ignored it.That sucked.

10.Group of girls...looked at one of them...she looked down.

It wasn't bad...seems like I'm gonna have to work on ec with the really really hot girls.

Going out for Day 4...saying Hi.

Time to start talking to these girls and grace them with my presence haha.

Cheers
 

Azari

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Day 4 : 'Hi'
saying Hi to 6 girls


I hit the streets in the evening despite feeling lazy and tired asf. Boii the streets are full of babes.I pulled out my phone n type..Feeling lazy rn...I probably look like shit too haha..doesn't matter..it's just saying hi...let's do this!.

I look behind and there's a girl coming. She's carrying books n wearing this kind of a uniform of some sch of nursing and midwifery.She reaches my side...and I go, ' Hi how are u '
'Fine'..was the reply
'Done with today's lessons huh?'..I asked
'Nah'
She didn't elaborate and I let her walk past me.
That's number one.

Decided to switch streets.I saw a cutie walking towards me.Her eyes were fixed on the road.As she got closer...she still didn't meet my gaze nonetheless I had no choice but to say sth.
Me: Hi
Her:........
Me :..........
Yikes...I hate it when that happens haha.

A little while later a saw a woman that I liked.And as we crossed paths I said.." hey "
and silence....Okaaay wtf!

Switched streets again. Immediately saw a cutie in a flowery dress walking quickly tho. I walked slowly n so she caught up to me in no time. I hesitated a bit..but said 'Hey ' as she was beside me . She replied with a 'Hi' n she continued her quick pace. At least she said sth, the last two interactions were almost giving me ptsd hahaha.

Again another girl with a speedy walk.What's with the rush?..people need to slow down sometimes.
She's already by my side and I say Hi. She didn't hear me so she turned towards me n goes..'Huh?'
'How are u doing?' I say
'Oh... am fine'..she said with a soft expression almost like she was about to smile. I didn't really feel like matching her pace so that was it.

I was typing sth on my phone when i looked up and saw a woman looking at me.She was a few meters ahead n was walking towards me.I held her gaze for a while then looked away.As she got closer I looked at her again n she was still looking...So I was like 'Hi'
She says, 'Hello'..without breaking eyecontact.
Since I noticed her looking at me she didn't stop until we passed each other.Either I'm the hottest guy she's ever laid eyes on or the total opposite haha...whichever it is...Idc I know I'm the shit.

Today's objective was a little challenging than I thought tbh. Saying Hi to just 6 girls seemed very easy but once the time to actually do it..it suddenly seems a little intimidating haha.

Also I've noticed that my mind uses the day's objective as a reason to not push things further.Like I've said Hi to a girl n she's walking beside me...I want make conversation but my mind is like " chill bro..what if she doesn't wanna talk..what will u say...u already did what u came to do...you'll do more next time "...and I let her walk away. It's like a manifestation of aa or sth.Like I don't want to move past my comfort zone.Idk.


There's still a lot to do.
 

Azari

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Mon 31 jan;

I don't have much to report really. It just started to feel like I had abandoned this Journal again. I just don't feel like posting if I haven't accomplished what i set out to do. I took a week and a half off to work on some personal project, that is slightly more important than seduction atm.

Attended a wedding last week and learnt alot. Found out I was comparing myself to other guys alot. I don't know why. Had a pleasant conversation with a nice girl.The vibe was great. Alas I couldn't bring myself to ask her out or ask for her number infront of my friends.Eventually she left.

In regards to the newbie assignment, I'm stuck at day 5 which is asking 6 girls "How's your day going?".

I've gone out 3 days now but can't seem to do it.
Am I the same guy I was last week?..( that wedding night was great haha...talked to a bunch of girls...didn't get laid but eh had fun ) idk.

Going out again later. ( went out in the morning cuz why not? and I failed haha didn't reach 6 )

Today is the day. If I don't fuckin do it.
I'm quitting seduction n focusing on making millions haha.

That's all.
 

Azari

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5 Jun 2022


An update is loooong overdue.


In my last journal entry I was still doing the newbie assignment. I contemplated restarting it a couple times, thought about skipping it altogether even, but completed it eventually. Not in a consistent way tho, like the whole of February I didn't do anything seduction related. I'd just continue things from where I left off. It's really embarrassing that something that's supposed to take two weeks...took me 3 months to complete. It really put things in perspective for me. Made me realise I wasn't the big shot player I was in my head lmao.

I've been daygaming or at least trying to,and it's hard not gonna lie. I've skipped weeks not going out, countless days walking around my city without doing any real solid approaches. I used to think I had good reasons, but its simply is a lack of guts. Tho I've also done approaches and had some good interactions with girls, it still feels like things haven't clicked yet. No big epiphany or anything.
Doesn't feel like my seduction journey has started.

The Positives so far are,

Fashion is getting good, was told that I'm well dressed,
Also heard that I walk like a boss lol, which is just me walking slowly with my back straight.
Eye contact is good,...it's nowhere near elite levels but way better than when I was doing the newbie assignment.
Posture is pretty good too.
I also quit porn completely.

Negatives;
AA still hits hard sometimes,
Vibe ; I don't have the sexy guy vibe yet...I think I come off as too friendly to other girls or sth.
Motivation, it falters from time to time...especially when my seduction goals seem unattainable.
Voice....long time problem, want to work on it consciously now.
Process?... I don't think I have one, I thought I'd develop a process once I start talking to girls, so far just have a bunch of openers lol.
And probably many other negatives that I can't think of right now.

Current seduction goals:
-Go daygaming 3 days in a row.That's it, I don't wanna set big goals like I usually do and end up disappointing myself.

I'll also make it a point to visit the boards at least once every two days. Reading Lay reports and field reports is motivating. Plus I need to be updating this Journal. To hold myself accountable.

So go out and daygame 3 days in a row.

Also, I've got a date next week. I also messaged a hot girl on fb, got her number and she's been alluding to us meeting up. I'm a bit apprehensive to ask her out, because she said she's really tall and also a little older haha but I've decided to do it anyway. So if all goes well I'll have a date the week after too.

Hopefully I won't fuck those dates up too.
 

Azari

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Mon 6th Jun 2022

I hit the streets in the early evening. Feeling anxious as I followed my route. My goal was to open my mouth and build some momentum after all I hadn't approached in almost two weeks. I said a couple Hi's and nodded to a bunch of guys. I missed a lot of opportunities to be honest. A reason not to approach always seemed to appear in my head.

I started to get frustrated really. I decided then and there that the next girl I see, no matter if she's cute and plain, I'm gonna open her.

Looked behind and noticed a girl a couple metres away from me, kinda plain. I was walking really slow and she caught up to me, opened very indirectly, Asked for time lol and proceeded to tell her she's cute. Asked a bit basic getting to know you questions but I could tell she wasn't interested. She kept looking away and wasn't really putting any effort into the conversation.Pre maturely asked her to give me her number anyways fully expecting a rejection and She said No.Told her I'm meeting a friend and have to take this corner(Bs).Wished her a nice evening, shook hands and I walked away.

Ran into an old friend and spent almost half an hour catching up, it started getting dark and we parted ways.

Passed through the park and there were no good opportunities.
I sat on a bench to rest and think for a minute. Some girl walks towards where I'm sitting, stops about two metres and just stares at me.
It's dark now and I can't see her face properly.She just stares for like 10 seconds or so. I really thought she was a mad woman or sth. I say Hi ...she replies. Takes a sec or two then tells me 'I'm sorry, i thought you were someone else.I'm supposed to him meet here, but he's nowhere to be seen ' . So we talk about her situation for a while. I wanted to tell her 'come sit here' but hesitated.

The dude she's meeting comes over mid conversation and she abruptly ends it.They walk off in the opposite direction.

I sit there for a while and eventually head home. Have mixed feelings about today.

Tuesday 7th Jun 2022

It rained the whole day till late evening.Bummer. Didn't accomplish much of anything really. Regards to seduction, I went out to the marketplace in the evening, after the rain subsided. And it was still active. Very crowded.A really high pressure situation for me. I've never even considered approaching there. Wanted to build confidence in such situations, so started by saying hi to a bunch of cuties. Didn't have anything I'd call a real interaction. But felt good otherwise . No one cared about what I was doing, no one called me out or anything. So yeah it wasn't bad.

Later I called some girl, that i've always wanted to call but been procrastinating. She was excited haha.I don't think I handled it well when she subtly tried to find out if i'm dating anyone. She mentioned something about being in a long distance relationship but finds it a lil weird so she considers herself single. It was a nice conversation tho, later at night, she texted me if we could continue talking, told I can't right now, but I'll make it up to you tomorrow.

Wednesday 8th June 2022

Another rainy day. Went out anyways with an umbrella. Unfortunately it was raining so hard and it got really windy, I had to wait it out under some shops. Didn't approach any girls. got in a bad mood.

So I did go out three days in a row, which was my goal really but didn't have any worthwhile interactions.

So my next goal is ; Go out three days in a row and approach 3 girls each day.


-To a successful day tomorrow
 

Beck Bass

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Attended a wedding last week and learnt alot. Found out I was comparing myself to other guys alot
It's normal behaviour for people, we wanna learn from others, even if only subconciously, we are always learning, you likely were picking up how other guys behaved and dressed and what not.

Had a pleasant conversation with a nice girl.The vibe was great. Alas I couldn't bring myself to ask her out or ask for her number infront of my friends.Eventually she left.
Normal anxiety, until it's second nature to you, you will feel a lot of it, you need to just push and do it, ideally on low pressure environs.


Fashion is getting good, was told that I'm well dressed,
Also heard that I walk like a boss lol, which is just me walking slowly with my back straight.
Eye contact is good,...it's nowhere near elite levels but way better than when I was doing the newbie assignment.
Posture is pretty good too.
I also quit porn completely.
Those are all great achievements, your fundamentals seem to be on a pretty decent level, now you just gotta use them to get some nice results


Vibe ; I don't have the sexy guy vibe yet...I think I come off as too friendly to other girls or sth.
Sometimes you have to go through a bit of an asshole phase to notice that most girls don't care about most things we think they care, a lot of our assuptions come from false premisses that came from bad experiences with girls. A book that helped me was that "I Hope They Serve Beer in Hell", a lot of people here must have read that because of @Hector Papi Castillo, but I think it's still is a good recomendation. Don't go full stupid jerk, but remember that women are sexual and they wanna have fun just like us, they make mistakes just like us, they are just very different because, well, they are women. You can be a bit of an ass and many girls will still enjoy you, maybe even more than if you was that super polite guy, because now you're being more real, so they can be more real with you as well. I think that's the goal.

Motivation, it falters from time to time...especially when my seduction goals seem unattainable.
You gotta think what would you rather do, give up completely, or die trying. To me, I would rather die trying, as bad as you are, you gonna at least get some results with women, even if it's just a good talk, a better understanding of them, sex with some average (or even ugly) girl. I think any of those is way better than just alone in your room, bitter because you can get with women, even though you're not even trying. There's also that thing that people overstimate what they can do in a day, but understimate what they can do in a year. Learning seduction takes time, sometimes it's tiring and you have to take some time off, but if you work on it consistently over a period of time, you will see improvements, and you will be a happier person (and a better man, hopefully), for it.

I sit there for a while and eventually head home. Have mixed feelings about today.
You did great man, a feel you still have a lot of anxiety, you just have to keep on approaching until it subsides a bit, so you can focus on improving you approaches, then you're golden.

Later I called some girl, that i've always wanted to call but been procrastinating. She was excited haha.I don't think I handled it well when she subtly tried to find out if i'm dating anyone. She mentioned something about being in a long distance relationship but finds it a lil weird so she considers herself single. It was a nice conversation tho, later at night, she texted me if we could continue talking, told I can't right now, but I'll make it up to you tomorrow.
I think she wants that D huh, for her to mention her "long distance" and then go to say she "considers herself single" it's pretty much she saying she's up for grabs (and hungry for a man lol). Hope this goes well for you.

I think you just have to keep on grinding man, you're doing some great improment and if you keep it up, soon you gonna have some results to back it up
 

Azari

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28th Jun 2022

Went to the library, I figured I'd get some work done then approach some cuties afterwards.

Library was empty. Empty = no cute girls. Random dudes were abundant tho. Must be nice for gays, dudes are everywhere haha. I pick a table and do my thing.

I'm so engrossed in what I'm doing that I don't notice it at first when some older lady...early to mid 30s probably,tries to get my attention.She's seated opposite where I'm seated,but across the room. I look up,

Her; Young man...(she legit said that)
Me; Yes?
Her;*raises water bottle*...want some water?

I'm confused, so I smile at her and kindly tell her No but thanks anyways. She smiled back and went back to doing what she was doing.

I didn't know what to make of that...didn't think she was interested.Maybe she's a kind-hearted woman? Or maybe I did infact look dehydrated and her maternal instincts kicked in idk hahaha...she did call me a 'young man' tho so could be possible lol.

I check her out, and decide nah, wouldn't smash as she had a bit if of a belly and kinda chubby.And in this country she's probably someone's wife.Nice of her to offer me some water tho.

Girl #1,
The only real interaction of the day. I finished what I was doing, packed up my things and prepared to approach. Did some deep breathing then n there haha.

I walked around, scanning the bookshelves,trying to look for some cuties discreetly. Spotted one, but she was in a group of 3.Real high pressure for me haha.Told myself to look around, if there's no other cutie,I'd come back for her.Occurred to me that every girl I'll see is likely gonna be seated and I'll have to walk straight up to her. Scary stuff.

I saw a girl in one corner, seated all alone and the two tables immediately next to her were empty. She wasn't extremely cute,still cute enough and I'd definitely smash, so I slowly perused the bookshelves making my way towards her. She heard my footsteps and looked up, I meet her gaze.

She knew I was coming, no turning back. Told myself to calm down...Yes Azari, You are walking up to her, She knows what's up...now be cool!
I don't break eyecontact and neither does she,

Me:Hey, saw you sitting here, thought u looked cute and had to meet you, mind if I join you? *gestured to the seat next to her*
Her: Thanx, sure
Me: So what's your name?
Her: J
Me: I'm Azari, where are you from?
Her: blahblah state.we're rare
Me: Oh really, one of my closest friends is from there.

Some basic small talk, mind went blank once I think, recovered well in my opinion,got to a point where conversation was flowing nicely,

Her: I've seen you here before, you come here alot right?
Me: I come from time to time, I love this place
Her: We were sitting across from each other that day.
Me: ( trying to remember that day, hoping I didn't do sth lame)well I don't remember...I've never seen you here before, you come here often too huh?
Her: Yeah I love books, like if I lived closer, I'd have read all the books in here!

We talked about books,did a small deep dive about the kind of books she likes, why likes them and so on...and I was thinking to myself, this girl is smart, don't fuck it up, don't fuck it up. Talked about families and shit, joked about how her parents spoil her at home and she laughs. Started asking me about myself. Told her how I'm an artist lol. She's like wow I love art, tho I've never been good at drawing. We talk for about half an hour or more, about school, romance, her hobbies, aspirations (wants to be a nurse)and some things I can't remember rn haha, but she laughed a couple times, library was almost closing. So I tell her,

Me: We should continue this conversation sometime, so how about you give me your number?
Her: why don't I get your number instead?
Me: ( Not wanting to fuck it up ) sure.

Librarian walks up to us and says it's closing time.I help her return some books to the shelf and I jokingly say, I know you wish to be locked in here haha .She says, You read my mind lol. As we sign out of the library, the librarian makes some conversation and seems like he thinks we've always known each other or sth. I think it's good. Doesn't seem like about 45 min ago we were total strangers.

While walking out,she asks which direction am I headed, I tell her, She tells me she's heading the opposite direction, to a certain bus stop. We stop, shake hands goodbye, I hold on a lil longer and tell her to text me.Did it playfully tho. She walks away giggling and then kinda shouts, Byeee without looking behind. I walk home, happy!

A nice approach or was it an insta date?...I don't know.I do know it was nice.

30th Jun 2022

No real interactions today.Did a shadow of an approach on the bus.I call it that because it's not a real interaction in my opinion.

Basically a girl was seated next to me on the bus. Hesitated alot because of all the people around, as the bus got closer to my stop I had to do something. So I nudged her with my elbow she looked over and I asked if she's on fb...wanted to add her real quick.
She misheard it, leans in cause I was speaking really softly and asks....you mean my name?

Me: Yeah.
Her; Some hard to pronounce name.
Me:*mind blank* you on fb?
Her: No

Excused myself as the bus reached my stop. I know what I did wrong there. Biggest sin is the hesitation. For how long will AA hold me back?

...........................................................................

The girl from the library didn't text me. It's painful. I don't get it. The first number I ever got from daygame, was a 3 min approach where while I had ejected, I stopped, turned around, called after her and asked, Do you have WhatsApp?...and then I walked over, put her number in my phone. Hella awkward. But she STILL replied to my icebreaker.And here I have an interaction that lasts more than half an hour,have her laughing, we share a few interests n boom silence....*Siiiiiigghhh* it sucks.

I have to do some thinking, or maybe I need to stop thinking and take more action. Action is clearly lacking. Have to make this work.
 
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Azari

Space Monkey
space monkey
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Sometimes you have to go through a bit of an asshole phase to notice that most girls don't care about most things we think they care, a lot of our assuptions come from false premisses that came from bad experiences with girls. A book that helped me was that "I Hope They Serve Beer in Hell", a lot of people here must have read that because of @Hector Papi Castillo, but I think it's still is a good recomendation. Don't go full stupid jerk, but remember that women are sexual and they wanna have fun just like us, they make mistakes just like us, they are just very different because, well, they are women. You can be a bit of an ass and many girls will still enjoy you, maybe even more than if you was that super polite guy, because now you're being more real, so they can be more real with you as well. I think that's the goal.
I don't think I'm a ' full blown' nice guy haha like I was pre girlschase. But I could be more of an asshole. I love a good book so I'll definitely check it out.
You gotta think what would you rather do, give up completely, or die trying. To me, I would rather die trying, as bad as you are, you gonna at least get some results with women, even if it's just a good talk, a better understanding of them, sex with some average (or even ugly) girl. I think any of those is way better than just alone in your room, bitter because you can get with women, even though you're not even trying. There's also that thing that people overstimate what they can do in a day, but understimate what they can do in a year. Learning seduction takes time, sometimes it's tiring and you have to take some time off, but if you work on it consistently over a period of time, you will see improvements, and you will be a happier person (and a better man, hopefully), for it.
You are right. It's way better to die trying to be great than to live in mediocrity. Consistency is my biggest problem. I know how to fix it. More or less. I'm not independent.I really want to be tho that's what I'm striving for at the moment.I want to be able to do as I please, whenever I please.For the time being tho, I'm going to have to make time for seduction at least 2 hours daily. I have to make it work.
I think she wants that D huh, for her to mention her "long distance" and then go to say she "considers herself single" it's pretty much she saying she's up for grabs (and hungry for a man lol). Hope this goes well for you.

I think you just have to keep on grinding man, you're doing some great improment and if you keep it up, soon you gonna have some results to back it up
Thanks man,
If I remember correctly, before you disappeared haha you were in a relationship or sth?
Hope that's working out well for you man!
 

Beck Bass

Cro-Magnon Man
Cro-Magnon Man
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Thanks man,
If I remember correctly, before you disappeared haha you were in a relationship or sth?
Hope that's working out well for you man!
I'm still in one hehe, things are going great with her, thanks for the kind words
 
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