poetic_goon said:
For the last 6-7 months, I had great success with girls! I approached tons and slept with 6-7 of em (really hot ones too), but lately I've been really depressed and it definitely showed through my body language (nervous,jerky,bad posture,talking fast,bad voice) and my social interactions. I don't bang right now because of this and I see a difference in how girls in class perceive me and it definitely doesn't help. However, now that weather's going great and my semester is almost up, I know that this winter depression is leaving. If I come back the next semester with a cleaned up (and sexy) act, will girls still remember the bad stage or just assume that I changed and, therefore, find me attractive like before?
It sounds like you are trying hard to change
External factors rather than
Internal factors. You're going to drive yourself nuts if you spend your time trying to come up with ways to change what people think of you rather than what
you think of yourself. Sure, you can change what people think of you, and you will, but not by trying to change things
Externally. It's like Money said:
Money said:
"Put some muscle on, get better fashion"... "and you're good bro."
Don't think about how you appear to other people (But definitely be aware of your social surroundings.), just focus on changing
Internal factors (as in, being less nervous around people, being more direct or more authoratative, dressing better, etc.). The other stuff, or the "Rewards" as I like to call it, will come to you afterwards.
(Also, believing in yourself goes along way. If you believe you are depressed, then you will act accordingly. But, if you TRULY believe that you are a super charismatic, delightful human being, then guess what you'll become.)