That's interesting they're asking to DTR. Its standard down there for the dude to ask the chick for a relationship, but some times the girls ask. You might want to verify that husband story, because the way you wrote it makes it seem you don't believe it.
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SJU airport approach
I was in PR visiting family this long weekend. Generally not a place for me to game.
However, at the airport as my flight back to FL was starting to board I spotted a personal 9. This girl was brunette, with brown leggings that really showed how great her ass was and how fit she was. I had to take the shot, and I knew I wouldn’t live with myself if I didn’t.
There was some hesitation/AA because she took a seat in one of those rows in which there was an older woman directly behind her, and another guy with goofy sunglasses on sitting across with full view of the approach. I always struggle with the spotlight effect when approaching at airports. I actually sat down nearby then got up and went to the bathroom, then came back out before finally going up to her and opening.
As she looked at me I saw how bright green and beautiful her eyes were. This is a top girl for me. Turns out she is from Uruguay and lives in my city. I go for the close pretty quickly (too quickly) and she hits me with the all too common boyfriend objection.
As I analyzed the approach afterwards, I realized that I should have thrown in some spikes/teases and not closed so fast. I could have teased her about being in PR just to meet Boricua guys or something. I had time. Maybe would have made a difference, maybe not. But at least I took the shot. That has to be the rule when I am highly attracted to a girl I see in the field, like her.
Instagram overhaul.
While Cold approaching is good to be doing, I recognize that in our modern sexual marketplace other tools are very important.
Instagram is one of these tools, which these days is essentially an advanced dating app. I am considering working with some experts to optimize my Instagram.
The truth is, I see a lot of the men in my family (cousins, brothers) settling with women that are well below them in SMV. I understand why men do this. It’s the hypergamy, the globalized sexual marketplace, the fact that women date up, the rise of pay-for-play with attractive women.
I really don’t see myself settling. Especially after my last relationship in which this was the case, I need a HOT girlfriend. And it’s difficult since most women are not up to par.
I am going to do everything I can to see if I can find her. That includes having the best possible Instagram and dating apps for today’s hyper-competitive market. I think at this point I would rather be single than with a woman I am not super attracted to.
I was in PR visiting family this long weekend. Generally not a place for me to game.
However, at the airport as my flight back to FL was starting to board I spotted a personal 9. This girl was brunette, with brown leggings that really showed how great her ass was and how fit she was. I had to take the shot, and I knew I wouldn’t live with myself if I didn’t.
There was some hesitation/AA because she took a seat in one of those rows in which there was an older woman directly behind her, and another guy with goofy sunglasses on sitting across with full view of the approach. I always struggle with the spotlight effect when approaching at airports. I actually sat down nearby then got up and went to the bathroom, then came back out before finally going up to her and opening.
As she looked at me I saw how bright green and beautiful her eyes were. This is a top girl for me. Turns out she is from Uruguay and lives in my city. I go for the close pretty quickly (too quickly) and she hits me with the all too common boyfriend objection.
As I analyzed the approach afterwards, I realized that I should have thrown in some spikes/teases and not closed so fast. I could have teased her about being in PR just to meet Boricua guys or something. I had time. Maybe would have made a difference, maybe not. But at least I took the shot. That has to be the rule when I am highly attracted to a girl I see in the field, like her.
Instagram overhaul.
While Cold approaching is good to be doing, I recognize that in our modern sexual marketplace other tools are very important.
Instagram is one of these tools, which these days is essentially an advanced dating app. I am considering working with some experts to optimize my Instagram.
The truth is, I see a lot of the men in my family (cousins, brothers) settling with women that are well below them in SMV. I understand why men do this. It’s the hypergamy, the globalized sexual marketplace, the fact that women date up, the rise of pay-for-play with attractive women.
I really don’t see myself settling. Especially after my last relationship in which this was the case, I need a HOT girlfriend. And it’s difficult since most women are not up to par.
I am going to do everything I can to see if I can find her. That includes having the best possible Instagram and dating apps for today’s hyper-competitive market. I think at this point I would rather be single than with a woman I am not super attracted to.
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I really got to stop talking myself out of approaching sometimes.
I have a phobia of negative feedback. The AA still hasn't gone away. Yes, I know I will look silly sometimes getting rejected on the street, or at an airport, or anywhere public. But I know it doesn't matter. It's happened before and it will continue to happen.
The logical brain knows how silly AA is. But there is another part of my primate brain that still hasn't learned.
I have a phobia of negative feedback. The AA still hasn't gone away. Yes, I know I will look silly sometimes getting rejected on the street, or at an airport, or anywhere public. But I know it doesn't matter. It's happened before and it will continue to happen.
The logical brain knows how silly AA is. But there is another part of my primate brain that still hasn't learned.
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Had a nice insta-date today. Opened a girl right underneath of the hot Florida midday sun. I was sweating my balls off during the entire approach.
She is a beautiful brunette. I was on my way to the grocery store. Spotted her and turned around immediately and opened. There was no hesitation. I liken it to the fact that there weren’t too many other people around besides me and her, thus no spotlight effect and minimal AA. Maybe she found that sexy. She was smiling a lot during the entire interaction.
Closed her WhatsApp then continued on my business. Got my groceries, then headed back in the opposite direction. During my walk I see her again, again coming in the opposite direction.
As we pass the second time I open her again. I go for the I-date. It was only natural, I had to. In her mind problably she was telling herself stories about fate and being destined to meet me again. She was smiling bright. I ask her to come get some coffee with me right then and she accepts.
I am getting rusty however. First of all, I fail to pick a place that has optimal seating, and end up sitting across from her. I need to prevent this mistake in the future. Also, my conversation game is getting weak. I need to refresh my date routines.
She was very compliant overall but I could see the gears grinding when I offered to take her back to my place. She hesitated before she said no.
Had I sat across from her, I could have touched her more. It would have made a world of difference.
I also perhaps should have continued the date after, maybe offered to walk her to her car and taken her on a walk around a nearby park. Maybe. I could have attempted another pull while touching her more. Instead I chose just to part ways after the venue and go about the rest of the business I had today.
She immediately texts me and says it was great to meet me. I will ping her tomorrow not to lose too much momentum, and try to get her out on another date soon.
She is a beautiful brunette. I was on my way to the grocery store. Spotted her and turned around immediately and opened. There was no hesitation. I liken it to the fact that there weren’t too many other people around besides me and her, thus no spotlight effect and minimal AA. Maybe she found that sexy. She was smiling a lot during the entire interaction.
Closed her WhatsApp then continued on my business. Got my groceries, then headed back in the opposite direction. During my walk I see her again, again coming in the opposite direction.
As we pass the second time I open her again. I go for the I-date. It was only natural, I had to. In her mind problably she was telling herself stories about fate and being destined to meet me again. She was smiling bright. I ask her to come get some coffee with me right then and she accepts.
I am getting rusty however. First of all, I fail to pick a place that has optimal seating, and end up sitting across from her. I need to prevent this mistake in the future. Also, my conversation game is getting weak. I need to refresh my date routines.
She was very compliant overall but I could see the gears grinding when I offered to take her back to my place. She hesitated before she said no.
Had I sat across from her, I could have touched her more. It would have made a world of difference.
I also perhaps should have continued the date after, maybe offered to walk her to her car and taken her on a walk around a nearby park. Maybe. I could have attempted another pull while touching her more. Instead I chose just to part ways after the venue and go about the rest of the business I had today.
She immediately texts me and says it was great to meet me. I will ping her tomorrow not to lose too much momentum, and try to get her out on another date soon.
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Last night I was reflecting more on this insta-date I had the other day.
I am fairly convinced that had I run everything properly I could have pulled her. In that moment, she was hyper-compliant and turned on by my masculine approach. I had to continue to turn up the temperature.
Unfortunately, my venue and seating selection was suboptimal. That was the main problem. Much more than my verbals, which could use improvement but I'm conviced weren't the main issue here.
In the modern age, we must strike while the iron is hot. Baddies like her get inundated with attention and have endless options, so it's easy for them to move on. While I will attempt to get her out again, I think chances are low I will see her again. I will try.
It is frustrating since I've made this mistake before - I remember a date with a hot Brazilian from cold approach all the way back in 2020 in which seating across killed the chemistry. Obviously I've had dates in between in which I did things right, but apparently some lessons haven't fully sunk in. So on one hand, it's nice to focus on what I did right in this situation, the fact that I opened fast and went for the insta date when it was obvious that she was available, but it's also frustrating that I need further tweaks to get to the desired result.
I still have some work to do to get to where I want to be as a seducer and capitalize best on these opportunities when they come, especially in this broken American dating market where opportunities like that one are fewer and further between.
Currently have dating apps on pause and just using free versions because I am tired of getting fleeced by them. I still dream of moving to LatAm, a place like Colombia, and being inundated with pussy from the vastly superior dating market. Currently planning on optimizing instagram and getting even better quality photos for both IG and dating apps. Changing location is the best possible move to increase my dating success with hot women, but it problably won't come for another 5-10 years. I must hone my skills and become the best possible version of myself until then.
I am fairly convinced that had I run everything properly I could have pulled her. In that moment, she was hyper-compliant and turned on by my masculine approach. I had to continue to turn up the temperature.
Unfortunately, my venue and seating selection was suboptimal. That was the main problem. Much more than my verbals, which could use improvement but I'm conviced weren't the main issue here.
In the modern age, we must strike while the iron is hot. Baddies like her get inundated with attention and have endless options, so it's easy for them to move on. While I will attempt to get her out again, I think chances are low I will see her again. I will try.
It is frustrating since I've made this mistake before - I remember a date with a hot Brazilian from cold approach all the way back in 2020 in which seating across killed the chemistry. Obviously I've had dates in between in which I did things right, but apparently some lessons haven't fully sunk in. So on one hand, it's nice to focus on what I did right in this situation, the fact that I opened fast and went for the insta date when it was obvious that she was available, but it's also frustrating that I need further tweaks to get to the desired result.
I still have some work to do to get to where I want to be as a seducer and capitalize best on these opportunities when they come, especially in this broken American dating market where opportunities like that one are fewer and further between.
Currently have dating apps on pause and just using free versions because I am tired of getting fleeced by them. I still dream of moving to LatAm, a place like Colombia, and being inundated with pussy from the vastly superior dating market. Currently planning on optimizing instagram and getting even better quality photos for both IG and dating apps. Changing location is the best possible move to increase my dating success with hot women, but it problably won't come for another 5-10 years. I must hone my skills and become the best possible version of myself until then.
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Lunch Date with Gorgeous Chilean
I stumbled upon this woman on a certain infamous dating site that I won't name. She is a beautiful latina - thick lips, bright green eyes, dirty blonde hair. Porn star face, and another one of my 'personal 9s'
I fucked up here. I should have never agreed to take her on a lunch date. I question the wisdom at this point of ever taking a girl on a date where I can't close her or reasonably bring her back to the sex location.
We were chatting for a few weeks before the date because she is fresh off the boat from Chile and working a restaurant job to make money. Her hours are long and heavy. We had some lunch at a quaint but delish vegan spot I know, and I drove her around, then dropped her off at her job right before her shift started.
Now, she isn't responding, meaning something I did (or didn't do) killed the attraction. My sense is it was the lack of escalation, but there may be more.
Regardless, it is precisely this type of date that I want to avoid in the future. I need to stop wasting time on first dates to nowhere like this.
Cold Approach and Insta Date Pull Home
Approached another woman in a public park close to my crib. She was immediately receptive.
Cute, and fit, but late 30's like me, and unfortunately her smoking habit is causing her to age faster. She wouldn't be a girl I would want to invest too much time in but good otherwise to practice a potentially fast pull.
After the open, took her to a nearby Kava bar and we got some cannabis seltzers, then back to my place for music. Unfortunately she wouldn't bang, but still, I am very pleased that I got that far with a woman on the same day. It was a great reference experience.
New Batch of Photos for Insta and Dating Apps in the works
Did a nice photoshoot with my buddy the other day and learning some amateur editing to really improve my photos, both from years past and from the recent shoot. Many are scoring high on photofeeler (8+). Will be using them immediately on dating apps and gradually rolling them out on IG to see how things improve.
I stumbled upon this woman on a certain infamous dating site that I won't name. She is a beautiful latina - thick lips, bright green eyes, dirty blonde hair. Porn star face, and another one of my 'personal 9s'
I fucked up here. I should have never agreed to take her on a lunch date. I question the wisdom at this point of ever taking a girl on a date where I can't close her or reasonably bring her back to the sex location.
We were chatting for a few weeks before the date because she is fresh off the boat from Chile and working a restaurant job to make money. Her hours are long and heavy. We had some lunch at a quaint but delish vegan spot I know, and I drove her around, then dropped her off at her job right before her shift started.
Now, she isn't responding, meaning something I did (or didn't do) killed the attraction. My sense is it was the lack of escalation, but there may be more.
Regardless, it is precisely this type of date that I want to avoid in the future. I need to stop wasting time on first dates to nowhere like this.
Cold Approach and Insta Date Pull Home
Approached another woman in a public park close to my crib. She was immediately receptive.
Cute, and fit, but late 30's like me, and unfortunately her smoking habit is causing her to age faster. She wouldn't be a girl I would want to invest too much time in but good otherwise to practice a potentially fast pull.
After the open, took her to a nearby Kava bar and we got some cannabis seltzers, then back to my place for music. Unfortunately she wouldn't bang, but still, I am very pleased that I got that far with a woman on the same day. It was a great reference experience.
New Batch of Photos for Insta and Dating Apps in the works
Did a nice photoshoot with my buddy the other day and learning some amateur editing to really improve my photos, both from years past and from the recent shoot. Many are scoring high on photofeeler (8+). Will be using them immediately on dating apps and gradually rolling them out on IG to see how things improve.
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I’ve had many airport experiences (and delays) lately.
This current one at Frankfurt airport is the latest. I see it as an opportunity to perfect the art of approaching at airports.
Girls that are moving blazingly fast through the terminal are generally not the best targets since it requires a direct front stop and stopping a lot of momentum. Generally the best targets are the ones moving slowly or stationary somewhere (waiting for a flight to board for example). I still struggle with AA when there are a lot of people around.
Cold approach I have recognized is a low ROI strategy by itself but still worth doing just to stay social and avoid stagnation and frankly boredom during these long airport delays I have been experiencing lately in my traveling lifestyle.
This current one at Frankfurt airport is the latest. I see it as an opportunity to perfect the art of approaching at airports.
Girls that are moving blazingly fast through the terminal are generally not the best targets since it requires a direct front stop and stopping a lot of momentum. Generally the best targets are the ones moving slowly or stationary somewhere (waiting for a flight to board for example). I still struggle with AA when there are a lot of people around.
Cold approach I have recognized is a low ROI strategy by itself but still worth doing just to stay social and avoid stagnation and frankly boredom during these long airport delays I have been experiencing lately in my traveling lifestyle.