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On the first day of one of my classes I got there early with a friend, a bunch of guys piled into the room and my friend and I joked the class would be one big sausage fest then three girls finally came in, one of which my friend pointed out to me and jokingly told me that she's mine. I decided why the hell not try?
After the second class before she grabbed her stuff and left the room, I suggested we go outside the room and I'll show her some gesture sketches I did of the teacher (the teacher looked like a bowling ball with legs) I showed her the sketches, she liked them and told me that she draws sometimes just for fun and I chatted with her for about 2 or 3 minutes on her drawing skill and her thoughts on the class, just trying to not be a stranger with her and have fun. I then suggested we do something outside of class later on in the week (this was a Thursday) she agreed, I gave her my number and told her to text me hers when she gets a chance then I walked her to the cafeteria building and said bye.
She was in no hurry to give me her number for some reason, I'm used to girls saying yes to dates with me then flaking or not giving me a good number or whatever they have to do to not go out with me so I really didn't care when I didn't get a text for the next few days and was very surprised when I got a message from her that Saturday:
I agreed that Tuesday afternoon we'd do something. After a polite ribbing from my friends that I got a date and that I should take her here or just invite her back to your room or something, I decided that Starbucks wouldn't be a bad idea.
On Tuesday after class we walked and chatted over to my car about her music career in audio engineering and about just anything we could think about on the drive over to keep from there being dead silence on the way over. I always thought that girls were just girls and kind of were all the same beyond there being girls that were nice and would like me, and girls that were mean and didn't like me upon approach. But talking with her for a good 45 minutes made me see that some girls are pretty shy and quiet people, this was my third date from GirlsChase so I wasn't horrible, I ordered some hot chocolate and she ordered water (I insisted I'd get her something but she declined) and we sat and chatted.
I had to carry the weight of the conversation at times as she just isn't a very vocal person, I found myself having to share something on the topic of conversation and frequently asking if she could relate to the topic ( all topics I was confident she knew something about). I saw that she was from a normal family and just grew up distanced from people and very reserved. Overall, I didn't enjoy the date all that much but I liked all the conversational experience and practice that I got and the fact that I actually "went out" with a girl (I usually don't make it this far).
To end the date I dropped her off at her housing on campus, hopped out the car and gave her a hug and could feel her moving away from me to avoid any chance of an after date kiss, I get the feeling she doesn't touch people all that often either.
After this a good week passed and I tried texting her to which I got infrequent replies with very little emotion and just today after class I pulled her out of there and walked into a quiet area of the cafeteria with no one around and tried to actually treat her like a girl and flirt a little. I first chatted about what went on in the class and joked on that, then pointed out that she could probably do something really cute with her hair as it was all over the place with split ends and all that, I asked if I could touch her hair, she said no and of course I just reached over and felt it. Then asked if she'd do anything with her nails (all the while holding eye contact and smiling warmly) she said she never does anything with her nails, maybe paint them black and I just held her hands, then kept holding them and looked at her and kept smiling and before I could say anything she asked why I was holding her hand and I told her that she was a cute girl, why not hold it. She then told me that she had a couple of guys trying to get with her right now and wasn't trying to lead anyone on to her. So I just kept my cool, smiled and told her I felt the same as her, wasn't looking for anything serious just wanted to spend time with her as I liked who she was. I let her hand go and she told me she really didn't know about things right now and was wiping tears off her eyes at this point and couldn't hold eye contact with me. So I asked if she still wanted to see me, she said she didn't know, and said we should just be friends, I told her I have lots of friends and that wouldn't work, let's just spend time together and not take tings seriously. She just nodded her head, I just felt like she is a waste of my time and said with a smile "alright, fill yourself up with food then, bye for now" she laughed and agreed (that was a dumb thing to say on my part but I already gave up at that point)
I don't even know where I went wrong here. Maybe led her to think I want a girlfriend, I'm not even sure. The good here is I'm making progress and getting dates with girls (I went out with a different girl that same week I went out with her) but am really treading uncharted waters. I think more experience is in order here on my part, I'm just a newb with a lot to learn I guess.
After the second class before she grabbed her stuff and left the room, I suggested we go outside the room and I'll show her some gesture sketches I did of the teacher (the teacher looked like a bowling ball with legs) I showed her the sketches, she liked them and told me that she draws sometimes just for fun and I chatted with her for about 2 or 3 minutes on her drawing skill and her thoughts on the class, just trying to not be a stranger with her and have fun. I then suggested we do something outside of class later on in the week (this was a Thursday) she agreed, I gave her my number and told her to text me hers when she gets a chance then I walked her to the cafeteria building and said bye.
She was in no hurry to give me her number for some reason, I'm used to girls saying yes to dates with me then flaking or not giving me a good number or whatever they have to do to not go out with me so I really didn't care when I didn't get a text for the next few days and was very surprised when I got a message from her that Saturday:
I agreed that Tuesday afternoon we'd do something. After a polite ribbing from my friends that I got a date and that I should take her here or just invite her back to your room or something, I decided that Starbucks wouldn't be a bad idea.
On Tuesday after class we walked and chatted over to my car about her music career in audio engineering and about just anything we could think about on the drive over to keep from there being dead silence on the way over. I always thought that girls were just girls and kind of were all the same beyond there being girls that were nice and would like me, and girls that were mean and didn't like me upon approach. But talking with her for a good 45 minutes made me see that some girls are pretty shy and quiet people, this was my third date from GirlsChase so I wasn't horrible, I ordered some hot chocolate and she ordered water (I insisted I'd get her something but she declined) and we sat and chatted.
I had to carry the weight of the conversation at times as she just isn't a very vocal person, I found myself having to share something on the topic of conversation and frequently asking if she could relate to the topic ( all topics I was confident she knew something about). I saw that she was from a normal family and just grew up distanced from people and very reserved. Overall, I didn't enjoy the date all that much but I liked all the conversational experience and practice that I got and the fact that I actually "went out" with a girl (I usually don't make it this far).
To end the date I dropped her off at her housing on campus, hopped out the car and gave her a hug and could feel her moving away from me to avoid any chance of an after date kiss, I get the feeling she doesn't touch people all that often either.
After this a good week passed and I tried texting her to which I got infrequent replies with very little emotion and just today after class I pulled her out of there and walked into a quiet area of the cafeteria with no one around and tried to actually treat her like a girl and flirt a little. I first chatted about what went on in the class and joked on that, then pointed out that she could probably do something really cute with her hair as it was all over the place with split ends and all that, I asked if I could touch her hair, she said no and of course I just reached over and felt it. Then asked if she'd do anything with her nails (all the while holding eye contact and smiling warmly) she said she never does anything with her nails, maybe paint them black and I just held her hands, then kept holding them and looked at her and kept smiling and before I could say anything she asked why I was holding her hand and I told her that she was a cute girl, why not hold it. She then told me that she had a couple of guys trying to get with her right now and wasn't trying to lead anyone on to her. So I just kept my cool, smiled and told her I felt the same as her, wasn't looking for anything serious just wanted to spend time with her as I liked who she was. I let her hand go and she told me she really didn't know about things right now and was wiping tears off her eyes at this point and couldn't hold eye contact with me. So I asked if she still wanted to see me, she said she didn't know, and said we should just be friends, I told her I have lots of friends and that wouldn't work, let's just spend time together and not take tings seriously. She just nodded her head, I just felt like she is a waste of my time and said with a smile "alright, fill yourself up with food then, bye for now" she laughed and agreed (that was a dumb thing to say on my part but I already gave up at that point)
I don't even know where I went wrong here. Maybe led her to think I want a girlfriend, I'm not even sure. The good here is I'm making progress and getting dates with girls (I went out with a different girl that same week I went out with her) but am really treading uncharted waters. I think more experience is in order here on my part, I'm just a newb with a lot to learn I guess.
