Cobalt's Journal

[Cobalt]

I purchased Chase's eBook over a year ago and set out to improve my fundamentals. Although I did improve my Body and fashion fundamentals greatly, however, my social and voice fundamentals are still lacking. I also got into a bad habit of not approaching due to some of the fundamentals being off and used that as an excuse to not approach for a long time. It's time to overcome this and take action.

I will only be doing this during the daytime for the time being, until September, when I move away to university.

The first outing
Goals
- Find 3 places to meet women
- Open 3 girls at each place

I managed to find 3 venues which were a local Starbucks, Shopping centre, and the local park. The town centre has a high traffic of people, also.

I walked through the park in the morning whilst on my way to the town centre and saw this really cute girl sitting on the grass. I went over to say hi but completely forgot to pre-open her and ended up scaring her half to death. After that I couldn't bring myself to approach for the rest of the day due to the fear of scaring people, which sounds like a pathetic excuse in hindsight.

On my way back home I had a girl ask me if I was gay, to which I replied no. Maybe I could've said something along the lines of: would you like to find out?

Goals completed: Find 3 places to meet women
Failed goals: Open 3 girls at each places.

What I need to work on: Pre-opening and opening from the side.

I also could do with starting the newbie assignment as this will help ease me into actually approaching. At the moment I keep overthinking everything and acting as if everything needs to be perfect so this should do me some good.

Goals for the next outing
-Start Day 4 of the newbie assignment as I have pretty much done day 1 today. Day 2 and 3 are things I have been doing for well over a year so I am pretty comfortable with those. I need to go and say Hi to six people

 

[Cobalt]

Goals to complete today
-Say Hi to six women.

The Second Outing
After yesterdays excuses, I figured today would be the day I definitely push my comfort zone. I went around saying Hi to everybody that I walked past.

The first, second and third approach were all fairly identical and I was easily able to say Hi to those three women. The first replied Hi and was obviously replying to be polite and the second and third just flat out ignored me.

The fourth approach
My approach to this one surprised me. I didn't expect that I would actually pull off a direct opener.
I saw her walking slowly and immediately started walking as fast as I could, within reason, to catch up to her. I then tap her arm with the back of my hand lightly.

Cobalt: Hi, I saw you walking by and I just had to come and tell you that you are incredibly cute. Have a nice day.
She then started smiling which I thought was a good sign.

I really didn't expect myself to do that but I guess this was social momentum at work.

The fifth and sixth approach were very similar to the fourth.

Overall I did manage to push my comfort zone and ended up using three direct openers. The positive feedback I got from doing this was amazing and really helped to me to feel at ease giving those compliments out.

Goals achieved
-Say Hi to six women.

Goals for the next outing
-Try out 2 indirect openers and 2 situational openers.
-Introduce myself and do some repartee to try and reach the hook point with four women.

Key points to take away from this
-Social momentum is key, always be socialising with the people around you.