Cold approached an older women

[Alanford8]

Hey everyone,
I was walking to my house today and I noticed a girl in her 20s (I first thought). She had brown hair and was wearing sunglasses, she had some thight black leggings on and a really good bubble butt. As I walked past her I made a comment how I liked her outfit. She said thanks sounding really weird. I said you speak differently where are you from, and she wasn’t foreign. I said that she sounds like she is, and she said I don’t know if thats a compliment or what. I said take it as you wish. Exchanged some more words and I asked her for her name and number and she said I feel really flattered but I’m quite a bit older than you and I have a kid who is three years old. I could still give you my number so we can be friends to which I replied I don’t wanna put you in any weird situations and that she responded no you can get my number and we will see where it goes, I mean we can be friends. That part see where it goes and then correcting herself made me think about it all, and I said okay give me your number. I wrote it in my phone and she said straight away text me so I know your number and who is it. Afterwards we said goodbye and she said that we will see each other. I sent her a text:
Me: My name and here is my number.
And she responded:
Her: Thank you dear (my name)! Bye, we’ll talk and see each other. Natalia

What I need advice on is what do you all think about the part where she said we will see where it goes, and then corrected herself. Also I think her level of interest is high considering the text after and when we parted ways what she said.
I’m ethically confused (so to say) by the whole situation as well.
What do I do? I want her but I don’t want to waste my time and I don’t want to be a marriage wrecker (she didn’t say she was married only mentioned a kid).

 

[gameboy]

Ask her if she's single. She seems to be very direct so it should be fine.
If she is single, meet up and see how far you can get with her. (She corrected herself so you don't see her as too easy)

Personally I wouldn't go after a woman with kids who is an a relationship either. In fact I recently turned down a very cute girl I met online who still lives with her ex and has two kids with him. I just dont want to be the guy who ruins it for the family (she says they broke up but the guy wanted to get back together, so who knows what will happen).

 

[Chase]

She sounds like she was just checking to make sure you were okay with the age difference.

When I was in my early 20s and I'd approach women in their late 20s or early 30s I'd get this too. There're two types:

1. "Don't you think I'm a little old for you?" Where she is actually telling you "You're too young for me, buddy!"
   
   
2. "I'm older than you. Are you sure that's okay?" Where she is actually checking YOUR comfort levels, because she just wants to avoid the awkwardness of the two of you going out, her getting her hopes up, only for you to realize only then that she's older and giving her a weird reaction.

This gal is clearly the latter one. She also mentioned the 3 y/o kid at the same time... so she's really trying to pace things.

"We'll see where it goes," is outright telling you she's open to something romantic or sexual.

She's probably not married... given how open she was about all the rest.

Could be in a marriage on the rocks, of course.

Only way to know for sure is to follow up with her and find out more about her (or, as she put it, "see where it goes").

Chase

 

[Alanford8]

Ask her if she's single. She seems to be very direct so it should be fine.
If she is single, meet up and see how far you can get with her. (She corrected herself so you don't see her as too easy)

Personally I wouldn't go after a woman with kids who is an a relationship either. In fact I recently turned down a very cute girl I met online who still lives with her ex and has two kids with him. I just dont want to be the guy who ruins it for the family (she says they broke up but the guy wanted to get back together, so who knows what will happen).

Thanks for your reply. I like a bit of challenge and I’m for sure not seeing her as easy. I think I’m gonna go out and see where it goes, won’t mention anything about age and relationship statuses. You’re not guilty if you don’t know something.

 

[Alanford8]

She sounds like she was just checking to make sure you were okay with the age difference.

When I was in my early 20s and I'd approach women in their late 20s or early 30s I'd get this too. There're two types:

1. "Don't you think I'm a little old for you?" Where she is actually telling you "You're too young for me, buddy!"
   
   
2. "I'm older than you. Are you sure that's okay?" Where she is actually checking YOUR comfort levels, because she just wants to avoid the awkwardness of the two of you going out, her getting her hopes up, only for you to realize only then that she's older and giving her a weird reaction.

This gal is clearly the latter one. She also mentioned the 3 y/o kid at the same time... so she's really trying to pace things.

"We'll see where it goes," is outright telling you she's open to something romantic or sexual.

She's probably not married... given how open she was about all the rest.

Could be in a marriage on the rocks, of course.

Only way to know for sure is to follow up with her and find out more about her (or, as she put it, "see where it goes").

Chase

Thank you for your reply! I feel if she had a husband or wanted me to know she has one she would’ve said it alongside mentioning her kid. Also I agree with what you said about the age difference, here being the latter option. Do you have any advice for on the date should I just do it normally like I do with girls my age (I’m 21 fyi). Flirting, sexual tension, sexual gambits, teasing, physical escalation, change of place, closing…etc Any techniques or stuff you recommend?

 

[Alanford8]

Hey everyone,
I was walking to my house today and I noticed a girl in her 20s (I first thought). She had brown hair and was wearing sunglasses, she had some thight black leggings on and a really good bubble butt. As I walked past her I made a comment how I liked her outfit. She said thanks sounding really weird. I said you speak differently where are you from, and she wasn’t foreign. I said that she sounds like she is, and she said I don’t know if thats a compliment or what. I said take it as you wish. Exchanged some more words and I asked her for her name and number and she said I feel really flattered but I’m quite a bit older than you and I have a kid who is three years old. I could still give you my number so we can be friends to which I replied I don’t wanna put you in any weird situations and that she responded no you can get my number and we will see where it goes, I mean we can be friends. That part see where it goes and then correcting herself made me think about it all, and I said okay give me your number. I wrote it in my phone and she said straight away text me so I know your number and who is it. Afterwards we said goodbye and she said that we will see each other. I sent her a text:
- My name and here is my number.
And she responded:
- Thank you dear (my name)! Bye, we’ll talk and see each other. Natalia
And then I asked what her schedule is like when she will be free.
What I need advice on is what do you all think about the part where she said we will see where it goes and then corrected herself. Also her the level of her interest in the text after and when we parted ways.
I’m ethically confused (so to say) by the whole situation as well.
What do I do? I want her but I don’t want to waste my time and I don’t want to be a marriage wrecker (she didn’t say she was married only mentioned a kid)

Follow up texts:

Me: How is your schedule for this week, when are you free?
Her: (My name), I just started working... I talk a lot with Brits and Japanese, maybe that gave off the vibe I’m foreign Maybe I can do something on Friday, December 8th... How are you doing with time?
Me: Yes, maybe that's why... I'm going on a trip over the weekend, starting on Friday. What about say Thursday, would that suit you?
Her: It's difficult on Thursday, but maybe we could come up with something for Tuesday, December 12, if that's okay with you
Me: I’ll text you when I get back from my trip. So I can see when I will be free, so we can figure something out.

 

[Bo Diddley]

OP you realize her name is a red flag right?

Natalia is commonly of southern european (i.e., Catholic) or Russian origin.

Lol with her attitude this ain't going anywhere and if it does it won't be worth it.

 

[topcat]

OP you realize her name is a red flag right?

Natalia is commonly of southern european (i.e., Catholic) or Russian origin.

Lol with her attitude this ain't going anywhere and if it does it won't be worth it.

@Alanford8 dont listen to this guy. He doesn’t know what he’s talking about.

You’ve done well so far, she’s definitely interested. If you’ll be away a while, check in with here lightly, see how she is and then when you get back set up the date and close her.