"Cold" Texts Discussion

[Richard]

Howdy pimps, macks, and PUA

I'm introducing a topic that I think everyone can learn from regardless of skill level, and the topic: Cold Texts. What kinds of cold texts work for you, have worked for you, or are currently experimenting with. This is not a first time, icebreaker text, like you just pulled her number and are sending an initial text. This is more or less what you can use to get a conversation going after you know a person.

I'm curious to see what everyone posts with

-Richard

 

[Marty]

Re: Icebreaker Texts Discussion

Yes yes yes! I wanna subscribe.

None of mine work, LOL ;-) that's why I'm here to learn.

Actually my first lesson to learn is not to accept a number in the first place, and attempt to escalate on-the-spot. But I want to know what everyone has to say.

Thanks for starting this, Zphix!!

 

[Smurf]

Re: Icebreaker Texts Discussion

Sometimes I will "steal" something unimportant from the girl like a hair tie or something, then text something like, "I still have your XYZ ..."

I've grown to hate text conversations. I only use it to set up meets or chase frame.

What about you guys?

Jake.

 

[Richard]

Re: Icebreaker Texts Discussion

I only use it to set up meets or chase frame

Yup, exactly the same. Majority time I only text to set up meets, but ever so often your initial text (mine being "Hey XYZ, its Richard! Save my number.) may go unanswered and you'll need to text her again a few days later (as many students I'm mentoring so frequently ask about), so an icebreaker text may also be necessary.

I've used things like:
"Hey! I just got you to check your phone! Blah blah blah"
"Surprise!"
"Congratulaions!"
"What kind of trouble yo been causing today?" (Copyrighted by Tool Inc.)

 

[Smurf]

Re: Icebreaker Texts Discussion

Right sorry, I've been doing high school game which changes things up a lot.

 

[The Tool]

Re: Icebreaker Texts Discussion

Its all about leaving intrigue. (Richard you know about this. I got you with a text like this yesterday haha. BOOM!)

Chase has this outlined in his (how to flirt with girls through texts posts)

Example: "found money in the strangest place today. Hope your day is going as lucky as mine )

These texts though are generally not needed. Because eventually she will text you.

What kind of trouble yo been causing today?" (Copyrighted by Tool Inc.)

yep Patent finally went through

 

[Estate]

Re: Icebreaker Texts Discussion

I draw a line between text openers and the ridiculousness of "Hey, I could use a female opinion... who lies more... blah blah blah".
The point is... WHO CARES! I know once upon a time a magicman told us all this was the best opener in the world but honestly... do YOU care about the answer? If she's enjoying laughs with her girlfriends... what will her responce REALLY be? "Um... I don't know.... aaaaaaaaaanyway".

You just don't need it.

Another comparision... the "baiter" on Facebook....
"Gonna be a BIG day...."
"Just got the BEST news..."
etc...etc...etc...

When you see these messages are you REALLY compelled to comment back "What? What? Oh what is it... I NEED to know all about your life!! Which is what people expect when they post it.But in reality, what do people do when they see this in their newsfeed? They roll their eyes at the drama queen looking for attention.

So it's the same with text... If you REALLY have something awesome to say... cool! But if you don't even know her, does she really care? Not one bit... she knows what you are doing. Women are not stupid.

Drop the lame text openers completely...
"Hey Kelly, Good to meet you earlier.. Just thought I'd day Hi so you've got my number too. - Estate"
And guess what!?! She doesn't give a damn if this is funny, boring, intelligent, thought provoking, lame... or whatever!

If she likes you she will respond! If she doesn't... then... Meh!

Once she responds, 2nd text goes like "Oh yeah, great, balh blah blah... lets get those drinks after work on Friday... Let's check out <some place>"

Her 2nd responce? "YES!"

Then go meet her...

... stop making it so hard guys.

 

[Marty]

Re: Icebreaker Texts Discussion

"Hey Kelly, Good to meet you earlier.. Just thought I'd say Hi so you've got my number too. - Estate"

I like this, a lot. It's classy. That's why we get the discussion going! Nice one, Estate!

 

[The Tool]

Re: Icebreaker Texts Discussion

@Estate. Read zphix's statement from the begining.......

This is not a first time text, like you just pulled her number and are sending an initial text. This is more or less what you can use to get a conversation going after you know a person.

Cheers, The Tool

 

[NarrowJ]

Re: Icebreaker Texts Discussion

@Estate. Read zphix's statement from the begining.......

This is not a first time text, like you just pulled her number and are sending an initial text. This is more or less what you can use to get a conversation going after you know a person.

Cheers, The Tool

I was confused at first too. The "icebreaker" text is different than the "cold" text, which is what Z is actually referring to.

For the definition of "cold text", see here (under the heading "Warm and Cold Texting"): How To Text A Girl


Anyway, back on topic-

I have started to do what girls do to me, and just send them something like "hey there! " and then if she responds, I'll then try to hook an actual topic. '

If I have a reference point, though, like maybe we talked about a particular TV show last time we were together, I'll just start out with that like: "Guess what I'm doing? lol" and when she responds I'll say "Watchin [insert tv show]! " (just an example)




NJ

 

[ocantu1987]

Re: Icebreaker Texts Discussion

Yup, exactly the same. Majority time I only text to set up meets, but ever so often your initial text (mine being "Hey XYZ, its Richard! Save my number.) may go unanswered and you'll need to text her again a few days later (as many students I'm mentoring so frequently ask about), so an icebreaker text may also be necessary.

Yeah zphix. i used the line "Hey XYZ, its oscar! Save my number." on two girls and both haven't replied haha so that means i still got a chance
haha just playin

 

[Marty]

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I get girls occasionally giving me wrong numbers, which is pretty funny. I mean, how difficult is it to enter your own number correctly??

 

[Franco]

I was confused at first too. The "icebreaker" text is different than the "cold" text, which is what Z is actually referring to.

For the definition of "cold text", see here (under the heading "Warm and Cold Texting"): How To Text A Girl

Correct. I've changed the topic of this thread so that people aren't confused by it.

- Franco

 

[Estate]

Re: Icebreaker Texts Discussion

@Estate. Read zphix's statement from the begining.......

This is not a first time text, like you just pulled her number and are sending an initial text. This is more or less what you can use to get a conversation going after you know a person.

Cheers, The Tool

It's the same either way... what's wrong with starting with "Hi......"???
I mean, why must it be so hard, like it's some sort of sequential program to getting a girl to reply to a text?

If you already know her it's even easier. She's just EXPECTING a "Hi" and from there if you know her it gives you an excuse to say something about what has happened since you met or call back something you discussed. Why is that difficult?

My point being... the whole "YOU KNOW WHAT JUST HAPPENED ME... THE MOST AMAZING THING EVER... BUT I'M JUST BAITING YOU TO REPLY BY NOT TELLING YOU" is just the lamest thing ever.

If she wants to reply to you she will... the above will not make her... if she doesn't... the above will get a roll of the eyes and a delete.

 

[Smurf]

I HATE it when girls just text "Hey!", but it's happening to me a lot recently so I just roll with it. So I'm not gonna' just text "Hi" because I already hate people who do that. I'd suggest call-back humor from when you met her. It reminds her of the (hopefully) good emotions you evoked when you guys first met. It'll probably inspire her to text back. If it's social circle however, I've noticed if a girl is interested she might text you first, so that's work you don't have to do.

Jake.

 

[NarrowJ]

Jake,

I HATE it when girls just text "Hey!", but it's happening to me a lot recently so I just roll with it. So I'm not gonna' just text "Hi" because I already hate people who do that. I'd suggest call-back humor from when you met her. It reminds her of the (hopefully) good emotions you evoked when you guys first met. It'll probably inspire her to text back. If it's social circle however, I've noticed if a girl is interested she might text you first, so that's work you don't have to do.

Yeah man, girls do that ALL THE TIME to me. How I respond depends on the context, but really all you need to do is get her to tell you what she wants. If the girl is a friend (with or without benefits), then I don't mind it so much and I'll just send back a "What's up?" or something. If it's a girl that has been playing super hard-to-get and being overly aloof then you do have to handle it a bit differently. Personally, when this happens I will usually take a few hours (at least) to respond, and when I do respond I just send her a question mark lol. It basically matches her effort level, and also:

1- Tells her that the communication was unexpected.
2- Shows her you’re not ready to engage in conversation until you know the topic is something worthwhile.
3- Keeps you both on the track of her chasing you with the texts.
4- Prompts her to actually explain what it is she wants.

The thing about cold texts is that if you have your fundamentals down and run the interaction properly, you won't even need to use them, because she'll already be chasing you. It's always nice when you send a girl the icebreaker text and then she immediately initiates conversation with you. For example:

Guy: Hey, was nice chatting with you today. This is my # -NJ
Girl: Hey you! So did you end up doing [whatever you talked about]?
Guy: Haha nope, took a nap.
Girl: Ah, I see. Being lazy
Guy: Lol yup.. So what about that coffee? You free anytime the next few days?
Girl: Yeah, hmmm. How about Thursday afternoon?
Guy: Deal. Starbucks by Washington at 3:30?
Girl: Yep that works!
Guy: Great, see you then

When you see this, she'll usually keep texting you after that also (which I usually put the kabosh on). Too bad they all don't do that; it sure makes things a lot easier!


NJ

 

[Estate]

The thing about cold texts is that if you have your fundamentals down and run the interaction properly, you won't even need to use them, because she'll already be chasing you. It's always nice when you send a girl the icebreaker text and then she immediately initiates conversation with you.

NJ, I think you summed it up right there.
The texts really have nothing to do with the game here. You have to already have made enough of an impression on her that she WANTS to engage you when texting, if you haven't then trying to "game" her when all you get is a one-word or one-liner seems pointless.

If I get that sort of message from a girl I usually write her off right away, maybe if I REALLY want to get with her, I'll give it a shot at what you said above (since trying to be cocky, funny, entertaining, whatever is pointless if she is not interested) but I don't really hold out for something happening there.

The main point is that I've learned texting has really very little to do with the game. Guys will just do enough to get her number and then figure they can "game" her y text... NO NO NO! If you put in minimal effort then she'll give you the number, she prob thought you're an ok guy but it's an easy way out of the interaction... whereas the guy thinks he's "won" already and now will just text her all the funny shit he read online. It just doesn't work...
You need to get her invested IN PERSON, then just use text to set up the meeting. You have to leave her WAITING for the text.

Think of how many texts you got today... Did you get one from a hot girl? Smile across your face the second you saw her name right?
But how many did you get from co-workers or some friend moaning they didn't have his favorite bagel this morning? What do you do? Drop your phone and say "Eh, I'll reply later..." then get on with what you were doing.

You have to leave her WANTING that text from you. If she is not, you're just fighting and battling to be entertaining enough by text to win it back, which just seems pointless to me.

A long time ago, I used to be all about texting. I had refined my online game a few years back that I'd get a few numbers a day and then just practiced... I knew exactly how to steer the conversation to sexting and have them send me ridiculous things sometimes... but as good as all that was... it wasn't real. The in person interaction was what counted.

 

[NarrowJ]

Estate:

No kidding on the texting! Solid points throughout your post.

Texting won't get you the girl, in fact, it can actually lose you a few. I think when guys think about "getting good at texting", they think they're going to use it as some sort of tool to increase attraction or something. When actually, the whole point of getting good at texting is just to keep you from screwing things up before you can actually meet up with her again.


NJ