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Hi Guys. 
So, recently, I've been going to college parties sober in an attempt to start talking to girls with some level of control over my actions. What I quickly noticed is that talking to girls at college parties seems to be very difficult.
First off, when I say college party, I'm referring to the ragers which are 100+ people in one house. Not the ones which are mainly invite only. Invite only parties are much easier to interact in. But they have the drawback that there's typically a very small number of girls present.
Here's the reasons why these parties seem to be a very difficult environment in which to pickup girls:
1. Everyone there is high energy/bubbly and drunk enough that after talking to her for like, 2 seconds, she just wanders off, or someone she knows shows up and she redirects her attention to him/her. One thing I can't really tell is whether or not this is happening because I'm being boring/low energy. Or if this is actually the nature of the beast.
2. Again, due to drunkness/high energy, deep diving and creating any type of emotional connection seems very difficult. Having a conversation about deep and real things typically brings down the energy level...not what the girl is usually looking to do. Especially since most the girls in that environment are in party mode.
3. Everyone there seems to be huddled up in their own little cliques/groups. Very difficult to obey the law of least effort/spezzatura while approaching groups like those.
Any tips on how to navigate college parties? Other than just trying to find a really really drunk girl and sneaking off with her before her friends see us (seems very unethical...plus, it doesn't really help me from a self-improvement standpoint). Preferably by someone who's had success in this arena.
So, recently, I've been going to college parties sober in an attempt to start talking to girls with some level of control over my actions. What I quickly noticed is that talking to girls at college parties seems to be very difficult.
First off, when I say college party, I'm referring to the ragers which are 100+ people in one house. Not the ones which are mainly invite only. Invite only parties are much easier to interact in. But they have the drawback that there's typically a very small number of girls present.
Here's the reasons why these parties seem to be a very difficult environment in which to pickup girls:
1. Everyone there is high energy/bubbly and drunk enough that after talking to her for like, 2 seconds, she just wanders off, or someone she knows shows up and she redirects her attention to him/her. One thing I can't really tell is whether or not this is happening because I'm being boring/low energy. Or if this is actually the nature of the beast.
2. Again, due to drunkness/high energy, deep diving and creating any type of emotional connection seems very difficult. Having a conversation about deep and real things typically brings down the energy level...not what the girl is usually looking to do. Especially since most the girls in that environment are in party mode.
3. Everyone there seems to be huddled up in their own little cliques/groups. Very difficult to obey the law of least effort/spezzatura while approaching groups like those.
Any tips on how to navigate college parties? Other than just trying to find a really really drunk girl and sneaking off with her before her friends see us (seems very unethical...plus, it doesn't really help me from a self-improvement standpoint). Preferably by someone who's had success in this arena.
