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My latest from last Friday. Wish I had gained more from the interactions, but still fun & insightful for me. Enjoy.
Field Hockey Team
I get invited to a party by the girl's field hockey team for my school. They have tons of hot chicks and I've been to their parties before and almost hooked up with an HB8 before getting cockblocked by the mother hen. My two friends, Tuna & Clam are dating girls who are either on or know the team, and I'm just the cool sexy friend who get's pulled along. I have fun talking with Clam's girl but Tuna's gf doesn't seem to like me, but eh her loss.
We roll up to the party (smallish) and it's medium energy, I come in low energy and kinda poke my head around to get a gyst of the vibe, then strike up conversation with some people playing games. I'm looking dope as fuck with a black denim jacket, grey shorts, watch & necklace - also my new haircut is blossoming. They seem pretty focused on the game so I let them be and return to my group where we take shots. Then a new girl comes in and I introduce myself, and we establish an us against the world frame because we're both not on a sports team but at this party - minorities in the group.
The conversation stops when I ask for her name again, Lea, and she assumes I was trying to end it by doing so / she wanted it to end. I talk to some other dude that just rolled up and he's younger and it's very apparent. I ask him what all he does and he just keeps repeating shit like "living life, taking names, building fire, etc." without saying anything. In a friendly and amused manner I ask him what he means and he gets visibly nervous lol. I end up talking with him about relationships and say, "ah naw dude I'm single now too! It's fun!" and we were being quite loud by the conclusion of the convo.
I talk with the girl who's on music and put a dope new song on, and by the end of the convo she's giving me IOI's, but she's only an HB6 so I'm not down (yet lol). Another girl floats near us and I start talking to her too, and my mood and vibe is barreling forward with momentum. I jump over to a couch area with some newer people and make quick friends with the guys and girls there, so I'm basically in social butterfly mode.
Soccer Team Party
We go over to another house party (the guys soccer team) and I was "leading the charge" with myself, Clam, and Clam's girlfriend so the guy at the door gets rather close to me and gives me the "who do you know here?" and I am unfazed, and happily explain I'm with Clam's girlfriend. He's being super serious (doesn't seem like a cool guy) and eventually lets me in - I just laugh it off and say I get it, I was in a frat, you can't be letting rando's in all the time (college sports teams social scenes behave very similarly to greek life).
Then it get's really fun, and I spike my attraction with everyone at the party. This party is much more high energy and there's about 6 girls all dancing with one another pretty hard. I start busting out my moves and getting into the music, singing along and such, and this black chick starts dancing around me, so I spin around and basically doing a joking-grind on her, with my ass shaking in her direction. Now I'm locked into these 6 girls who I don't know dancing and we're all kinda bumping into eachother and being physical. I just let this build and keep dancing how I am, then when it feels right doing a joking-grind. Occasionally I would stop and talk with Clam's girlfriend and make fun of Clam for being such a buzzkill (he had stopped drinking and was sitting in the corner) and having a good time with her. At one point I asked the doorman to get me a beer and he did. I think it might have helped that the proximity was conducive to switching between mingling & dancing and allowed me to enter, leave, enter, leave.
This spikes when I decide, fuck it, I'm grinding with this black chick. I start grinding into her in a way more sexual way, and lock in my legs with hers, facing her, and we're basically just humping eachother. I end up grabbing her ass (a pretty nice thing) and boom - attraction spike. The spike only took about 15-20 seconds of me dancing, and peaked when I grabbed her ass. I danced around the girls a little bit more, some of whom start to flurry, then move towards Clam. Clam tells me, "dude, that guy looks so pissed at you", referring to the doorman. I laugh at that because I know all the guys probably hate the attractive dude that comes out of nowhere, drinking their beer and dancing with their women - and I low key got off on it. Then I turn back towards the girls and I'm getting IOI's like crazy, most of the girls who are dancing are looking at me out of the corner of their eyes, and I see Lea and her roommate staring smiling near the pong table. Some girls who weren't really paying attention to me before are also looking at me now. This is a product of us being social creatures and preselection as it's described - I got to see it again first hand. If I was dancing with one girl, that doesn't hurt, but because I was in the middle of the party dancing with all of them it sets me up as an attractive guy that has fun with girls.
I start talking with Lea again and things are going well (though I could have moved faster), she's asking me tons of questions. I stop inside and see mother hen talking with a bunch of girls, and no one inside is giving me any IOI's. On the contrary, they seem annoyed with me. This is the other effect of spiking attraction, which was made even worse because of my near hookup with the HB8 last year that mother hen shot down. I see the effect and go back outside, and now everyone's gonna leave to a bar. Fuuuck, I was just getting started motherfuckers. We go to the bar and mother hen pull Lea aside and they stick to each other like glue for the rest of the night. I also tried to talk with mother hen but she would give me nonreceptive body language and say a few words then look away. The bar they chose is very loud & clubby and I mostly used up all my motivation to dance and such at the party. Also I was no longer leading any group which fucked with my momentum somewhat.
Bittersweet Ending
Then I got too drunk, saw that I was getting cockblocked and left to other venues. My other approaches didn't work. It was odd because I felt aware of everything around me, but my body language and speech showed everyone that I was shit faced. Like I was operating a malfunctioning machine. I had one really sloppy number close to finish the night, the girl seemed pissed off when I handed her her phone back.
I get booty texted by Venezuela (old FWB) who wants to cheat on her boyfriend, go to her house and fuck her, which was fun. Saturday morning she bought me food and dropped me off at home, then we talked about relationships, sex, and life at my house. She asked about my lay count (deflected) and my ex gf. I decide to tell her the story and she sits there and listens. It was nice to talk with a girl about the matter, actually. I know that me and her won't ever go beyond FWB's, and I tried to make it implicitly clear there's other women in my life (despite my dry spell).
Very fun night though! The initial party at the field hockey team's house showed me some ways girls act in social circle, the mother hen being a roadblock was congruent with a lot of articles I've read on here, and then the soccer team's house was quite enjoyable for me despite scenes changing before I could really leverage my preselection / spiking.
Hue
Field Hockey Team
I get invited to a party by the girl's field hockey team for my school. They have tons of hot chicks and I've been to their parties before and almost hooked up with an HB8 before getting cockblocked by the mother hen. My two friends, Tuna & Clam are dating girls who are either on or know the team, and I'm just the cool sexy friend who get's pulled along. I have fun talking with Clam's girl but Tuna's gf doesn't seem to like me, but eh her loss.
We roll up to the party (smallish) and it's medium energy, I come in low energy and kinda poke my head around to get a gyst of the vibe, then strike up conversation with some people playing games. I'm looking dope as fuck with a black denim jacket, grey shorts, watch & necklace - also my new haircut is blossoming. They seem pretty focused on the game so I let them be and return to my group where we take shots. Then a new girl comes in and I introduce myself, and we establish an us against the world frame because we're both not on a sports team but at this party - minorities in the group.
The conversation stops when I ask for her name again, Lea, and she assumes I was trying to end it by doing so / she wanted it to end. I talk to some other dude that just rolled up and he's younger and it's very apparent. I ask him what all he does and he just keeps repeating shit like "living life, taking names, building fire, etc." without saying anything. In a friendly and amused manner I ask him what he means and he gets visibly nervous lol. I end up talking with him about relationships and say, "ah naw dude I'm single now too! It's fun!" and we were being quite loud by the conclusion of the convo.
I talk with the girl who's on music and put a dope new song on, and by the end of the convo she's giving me IOI's, but she's only an HB6 so I'm not down (yet lol). Another girl floats near us and I start talking to her too, and my mood and vibe is barreling forward with momentum. I jump over to a couch area with some newer people and make quick friends with the guys and girls there, so I'm basically in social butterfly mode.
Soccer Team Party
We go over to another house party (the guys soccer team) and I was "leading the charge" with myself, Clam, and Clam's girlfriend so the guy at the door gets rather close to me and gives me the "who do you know here?" and I am unfazed, and happily explain I'm with Clam's girlfriend. He's being super serious (doesn't seem like a cool guy) and eventually lets me in - I just laugh it off and say I get it, I was in a frat, you can't be letting rando's in all the time (college sports teams social scenes behave very similarly to greek life).
Then it get's really fun, and I spike my attraction with everyone at the party. This party is much more high energy and there's about 6 girls all dancing with one another pretty hard. I start busting out my moves and getting into the music, singing along and such, and this black chick starts dancing around me, so I spin around and basically doing a joking-grind on her, with my ass shaking in her direction. Now I'm locked into these 6 girls who I don't know dancing and we're all kinda bumping into eachother and being physical. I just let this build and keep dancing how I am, then when it feels right doing a joking-grind. Occasionally I would stop and talk with Clam's girlfriend and make fun of Clam for being such a buzzkill (he had stopped drinking and was sitting in the corner) and having a good time with her. At one point I asked the doorman to get me a beer and he did. I think it might have helped that the proximity was conducive to switching between mingling & dancing and allowed me to enter, leave, enter, leave.
This spikes when I decide, fuck it, I'm grinding with this black chick. I start grinding into her in a way more sexual way, and lock in my legs with hers, facing her, and we're basically just humping eachother. I end up grabbing her ass (a pretty nice thing) and boom - attraction spike. The spike only took about 15-20 seconds of me dancing, and peaked when I grabbed her ass. I danced around the girls a little bit more, some of whom start to flurry, then move towards Clam. Clam tells me, "dude, that guy looks so pissed at you", referring to the doorman. I laugh at that because I know all the guys probably hate the attractive dude that comes out of nowhere, drinking their beer and dancing with their women - and I low key got off on it. Then I turn back towards the girls and I'm getting IOI's like crazy, most of the girls who are dancing are looking at me out of the corner of their eyes, and I see Lea and her roommate staring smiling near the pong table. Some girls who weren't really paying attention to me before are also looking at me now. This is a product of us being social creatures and preselection as it's described - I got to see it again first hand. If I was dancing with one girl, that doesn't hurt, but because I was in the middle of the party dancing with all of them it sets me up as an attractive guy that has fun with girls.
I start talking with Lea again and things are going well (though I could have moved faster), she's asking me tons of questions. I stop inside and see mother hen talking with a bunch of girls, and no one inside is giving me any IOI's. On the contrary, they seem annoyed with me. This is the other effect of spiking attraction, which was made even worse because of my near hookup with the HB8 last year that mother hen shot down. I see the effect and go back outside, and now everyone's gonna leave to a bar. Fuuuck, I was just getting started motherfuckers. We go to the bar and mother hen pull Lea aside and they stick to each other like glue for the rest of the night. I also tried to talk with mother hen but she would give me nonreceptive body language and say a few words then look away. The bar they chose is very loud & clubby and I mostly used up all my motivation to dance and such at the party. Also I was no longer leading any group which fucked with my momentum somewhat.
Bittersweet Ending
Then I got too drunk, saw that I was getting cockblocked and left to other venues. My other approaches didn't work. It was odd because I felt aware of everything around me, but my body language and speech showed everyone that I was shit faced. Like I was operating a malfunctioning machine. I had one really sloppy number close to finish the night, the girl seemed pissed off when I handed her her phone back.
I get booty texted by Venezuela (old FWB) who wants to cheat on her boyfriend, go to her house and fuck her, which was fun. Saturday morning she bought me food and dropped me off at home, then we talked about relationships, sex, and life at my house. She asked about my lay count (deflected) and my ex gf. I decide to tell her the story and she sits there and listens. It was nice to talk with a girl about the matter, actually. I know that me and her won't ever go beyond FWB's, and I tried to make it implicitly clear there's other women in my life (despite my dry spell).
Very fun night though! The initial party at the field hockey team's house showed me some ways girls act in social circle, the mother hen being a roadblock was congruent with a lot of articles I've read on here, and then the soccer team's house was quite enjoyable for me despite scenes changing before I could really leverage my preselection / spiking.
Hue
