Hey guys just needed some mindset advice. In Chase's article on game imbalance hypothesis, he posted this comment
Charlie-
So to sum up the comment, it's, "Black men face stiffer sexual selection pressures than white men," correct?
This comment seems to be agreement with the premise in the guise of some form of dissension.
It depends on what country we're talking about of course - last I heard, black men in Sweden were treated like KINGS by the women, while white men mostly stood around holding their dicks and feeling sorry for themselves. But I imagine you're talking the U.S.?
My black American friends who were good with girls have generally had the tightest, smoothest game of any of the guys I've known. I attribute that to - as you - a more competitive market with tougher selection pressures. It's harder for a black man to find a mate, and as such the market grooms him to be better than men from other races.
At the same time, I don't want us to get into a "who's the bigger victim" competition, because that doesn't do anyone any good (and I can easily go on and on about how I had to watch girls flirt with me only to go on to sleep with my black friends back in school - so we can do, "Sure, black guys have it hard - but not NEARLY as hard as pale white guys with red hair...!" or whatever... anyway, I already covered the who's the bigger victim competition in this article: “I Can’t Get Girls Because Girls Only Want [BLANK]”; the argument is a red herring from dealing with a man's real issues, which are always fundamentals- and game-related).
I agree with you that there is a stigma against dating black men. That frightens many women off of them; it intrigues many more. The primary thing I would keep in mind about this is that it is a male driven stigma, not a female one. If you get women talking candidly, even conservative ones, they will admit that they are very curious about sleeping with a black man. The people who are making the racist comments on YouTube are nearly all men, and they're doing it out of fear. Black men have reputations as strong, sexual, and sexually competitive; for the same reason that Asian men in Asia do not want to date Asian women who have been with white men (because they know they will forever be compared against said white man), white men generally do not want to date white women who have been with black men (because, again, they know they will forever be compared against said black man).
It's largely an attainability issue on men's parts. Every man wants to be the strongest, sexiest, most potent man his woman has ever been with.
In the past, this was achieved by men insisting on marrying only virgins.
Today, it's maintained by men looking for less experienced women, or abstracting away their women's partner counts in the event of themselves dating more experienced women, and frequently willfully deluding themselves (with the woman's help) into thinking that of course they are the most sexually powerful man she has ever dated. She'd never want anyone else.
When the man knows the woman has without a doubt been with a man who's likely more honed than he is, due to emanating from a more competitive sexual market, he is unable to delude himself, and enters auto-rejection.
This is where all the racial talk of "tainting" and the woman's "purity" and whatnot comes from - what these men fear is that once she's gone black, she never really comes back. And that means she never really becomes theirs... so they use disgust to protect themselves (disgust / revulsion is an auto-protect mechanism used to keep one away from things that are potentially harmful - e.g., vomit, feces, but also people who might suck you in and harm you in some key way if you don't auto-protect yourself out of their grasp - including women who will never truly be your women and as such may be a threat to the very survival of your genes).
I was wondering what can I do to deal with being compared to men of other races or penis sizes or whatever. What are good mindsets to have other than abundance because when I date a girl this insecurity comes sweeping I sometimes. Also what are some thoughts on the ego thing on being a girls best. Is that important or not important and why. How do you all avoid being fixated on being a girls best?
Charlie-
So to sum up the comment, it's, "Black men face stiffer sexual selection pressures than white men," correct?
This comment seems to be agreement with the premise in the guise of some form of dissension.
It depends on what country we're talking about of course - last I heard, black men in Sweden were treated like KINGS by the women, while white men mostly stood around holding their dicks and feeling sorry for themselves. But I imagine you're talking the U.S.?
My black American friends who were good with girls have generally had the tightest, smoothest game of any of the guys I've known. I attribute that to - as you - a more competitive market with tougher selection pressures. It's harder for a black man to find a mate, and as such the market grooms him to be better than men from other races.
At the same time, I don't want us to get into a "who's the bigger victim" competition, because that doesn't do anyone any good (and I can easily go on and on about how I had to watch girls flirt with me only to go on to sleep with my black friends back in school - so we can do, "Sure, black guys have it hard - but not NEARLY as hard as pale white guys with red hair...!" or whatever... anyway, I already covered the who's the bigger victim competition in this article: “I Can’t Get Girls Because Girls Only Want [BLANK]”; the argument is a red herring from dealing with a man's real issues, which are always fundamentals- and game-related).
I agree with you that there is a stigma against dating black men. That frightens many women off of them; it intrigues many more. The primary thing I would keep in mind about this is that it is a male driven stigma, not a female one. If you get women talking candidly, even conservative ones, they will admit that they are very curious about sleeping with a black man. The people who are making the racist comments on YouTube are nearly all men, and they're doing it out of fear. Black men have reputations as strong, sexual, and sexually competitive; for the same reason that Asian men in Asia do not want to date Asian women who have been with white men (because they know they will forever be compared against said white man), white men generally do not want to date white women who have been with black men (because, again, they know they will forever be compared against said black man).
It's largely an attainability issue on men's parts. Every man wants to be the strongest, sexiest, most potent man his woman has ever been with.
In the past, this was achieved by men insisting on marrying only virgins.
Today, it's maintained by men looking for less experienced women, or abstracting away their women's partner counts in the event of themselves dating more experienced women, and frequently willfully deluding themselves (with the woman's help) into thinking that of course they are the most sexually powerful man she has ever dated. She'd never want anyone else.
When the man knows the woman has without a doubt been with a man who's likely more honed than he is, due to emanating from a more competitive sexual market, he is unable to delude himself, and enters auto-rejection.
This is where all the racial talk of "tainting" and the woman's "purity" and whatnot comes from - what these men fear is that once she's gone black, she never really comes back. And that means she never really becomes theirs... so they use disgust to protect themselves (disgust / revulsion is an auto-protect mechanism used to keep one away from things that are potentially harmful - e.g., vomit, feces, but also people who might suck you in and harm you in some key way if you don't auto-protect yourself out of their grasp - including women who will never truly be your women and as such may be a threat to the very survival of your genes).
I was wondering what can I do to deal with being compared to men of other races or penis sizes or whatever. What are good mindsets to have other than abundance because when I date a girl this insecurity comes sweeping I sometimes. Also what are some thoughts on the ego thing on being a girls best. Is that important or not important and why. How do you all avoid being fixated on being a girls best?
