compliance

[john]

Hey guys,

What is the best way to react when a girl stops paying me attention unless I comply with her? For example when she tells me to move away from her a little and then stops talking to me and uses her phone when I won't.

Also when I ask her to do something and she won't do it, I keep persisting and it becomes a playful game where I persist and she declines or tells my to do it myself. For example I ask her to move closer and she says she feels comfortable at her current place, then I keep persisting and it usually goes nowhere. How to keep face in this situation?

 

[Franco]

john,

If this is occurring at the beginning of an interaction when you first meet a girl, then it sounds like she's communicating that she isn't interested. This may have to do with your fundamentals, or it may have to do with the fact that she's simply just not interested in moving things forward with you.

The best way to act here is just to smile with a grin that says, "okay, your loss!" and then move on to the next girl! Once you have a successful interaction with another female, the ones who turned you down may start to notice your success (and it will give you pre-selection). From there, look for the signs that show that she wants you to open her again, and then open her again as if nothing bad had happened.

Ultimately, never let your face or your body language show that you were stressed out that she wouldn't comply with you -- your face should show that the whole thing to you is "fun" and that SHE is the one who's missing out!

- Franco

 

[john]

Hey Franco, I appreciate your reply.

It happened when I tried to escalate with the girl at her place. I tried to make her sit closer to me and it ended with us playing that game. Then at some point I came closer and hugged her, but she stopped paying attention to me until I backed off a little. So I wonder how to react in this situations.

 

[Franco]

john,

It sounds to me like you either took too long to escalate, or you didn't escalate aggressively enough. You want to escalate relatively soon after you two sit down together, and you'll want to either pull her in for a kiss or begin to kiss her neck to get her excited.

- Franco

 

[john]

Yeah, I sure took my time.
I'm going back to this girl's place in a few days, what would you say is a good way to act after a failed escalation? Is it a bad idea to go for a kiss as soon as we step into her room?