I work in marketing, so I'm thinking of things along those lines at the moment, where my fundamentals are a bit like my brand image and my unique selling points, and I have to give her some sort of value proposition to peak her interest.
So I have to demonstrate that I am of high value (obviously I have to actually be of high value, but I'm working on that) and then the question for her is "do I have enough to offer this guy in exchange for access to his high-value status?"
Not necessarily. That's one way to think about it and that's based on an older model of PUA stuff that you CAN work from but don't have to.
There are other models that you can work from as well... you could argue that they create different types of value, if you want to.
One model (and I think it's a better model) is to assume that you're high value and start from that position... that way you're not demonstrating value.
Because does a high value man have to demonstrate that he's valuable to people? No, only a low value man has to do that.
A high value man just assumes his value when he talks to you and never needs to show you how high value he is.
There's another model that's far more interested in triggering her primal desires... mode 1 is an example of that model... where you come in super hot, with a sexual opener.
There are other ones that are lighter too... some of the sexual framing models, where you focus on sexual connection in more of an indirect way.
If you get her primal desires pulled out and give her space to freely express them without judgment, she's far more likely to want to act on those desires and then it's just a matter of time from hanging out with you, leading her to the land of sex that it actually happens.
If you're just interested in sex, these models are probably a lot better than the value based models, especially the value based models that say you need to raise your value in a woman's eyes.
And if I give her loads of compliments, for instance, then I'm lowering my market value and becoming more attainable to a wider range of women, and somewhere there is a tipping point where I've lowered myself so much, and positioned myself as just the same as all the other guys who are vying for her attention, that she, as a high-value female, loses interest because being with me is no longer something that is unique and special.
No, that's not how compliments work. Giving a girl a compliment doesn't lower your value, even in the value based model.
But why are you giving her a compliment? What are you complimenting her on?
Saying that a compliment lowers your value is a broad generalization on a topic that has a lot of nuance.
So she wants a Gucci hangbag, and if I am just a high street store handbag, then she isn't interested. But If I am an exclusive high-end designer product that few people can afford, then everybody wants me, but only a select few can have me, and if she has me then everyone thinks she must be cool, because she can actually get this very expensive designer product. And if I do the same things as all the other guys then I'm not special, I'm just a high street store product, so she's not interested.
Does she want a gucci handbag? Or does she want to feel desired, romanced, like she's in a movie where a man cuts through all the bullshit, looks her straight in the eyes and drives her wild with sexual passion, free from inhibitions and all of the bullshit society tells her to think and feel and then fucked like she's being owned, cherished, and protected?
If you're trying to be the gucci handbag, you're probably like all the other dudes trying to prove to her that they're a gucci handbag.
But at the same time, I need to be something that she can afford, ie be attainable in some way, so If she can't afford Gucci, but she can afford a luxury high street brand, then I need to position myself like that, so I'm at the top of her price range and she can, just about, afford me.
I think this is way too heady and analytical for what's actually going on.
But I think this is a model that you can work through if you want to.
You're high value... you come to her and question her value... then you agree that she can play in the big leagues and that you're not really out of her league... then it's you two looking at the world from the lense of you both being high value.
That's a model that you can work with.