So about three years ago before I started studying Social Dynamics and before I found GC I had a big crush on a girl. She was dating someone so I never tried anything. Her boyfriend had cheated on her and I was trying to tell her that everything will be ok. I told her she was smart, funny and beautiful and that she would have no problems finding someone. I went on and on about how I had been cheated on before and how shitty it feels (I would never act like this now). Looking back I acted like such a pussy (no wonder she wasn't all over me). Anyway right after that weird interaction she stopped talking to me (I don’t blame her) and started dating someone else. I've completely moved on and have made drastic changes to how I interact with woman. I look back and feel embarrassed on how I acted but oh well, nothing I can do about it now. The only problem is I see her every now and again in social circles and Its awkward. Part of me wants to say something but then the other part of me wants to let it go. Basically what I'm trying to say is it drives me crazy that she still has this image of me as this pathetic loser and treats me kinda like a sad puppy dog when I'm nothing like that person she once knew. I see now how I messed up three years ago in how I interacted with her but how do I get rid of this awkwardness when I am around her now? I know I can't talk to her about it... "hey remember back when I creeped you out? I'm not like that anymore, I swear!" and if I don't say anything then she'll always see me as this pathetic loser and it'll always be awkward when I'm around her. Any advice from someone who has experience with this?
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Getting a girl to change her mind about you, getting her to banish pre-existing notions about who you are.
This one is a bit more tactical, but the fact that you see her in social circle makes things a little easier.
If you've changed with women, and changed how you act, then show the new you. Say things that make her question what happened to you. Chase's exact statement to me was this:
I've had to do this myself, and it's worked out immensely, actually ended up sleeping with an old friend (that I liked in high school) because of it.
This one is a bit more tactical, but the fact that you see her in social circle makes things a little easier.
If you've changed with women, and changed how you act, then show the new you. Say things that make her question what happened to you. Chase's exact statement to me was this:
I've had to do this myself, and it's worked out immensely, actually ended up sleeping with an old friend (that I liked in high school) because of it.
Z Vaunswa said:
Nice! That's kinda what I do. Good to know I'm heading down the right path. The only problem is I can't "game" her because she's with someone (someone in the social circle) and I'm really not trying to pick her up anymore I just want to, like you said change her pre-existing notions about who I am. All I can really do is show her how I act with other woman when she's around. Thanks for your help.