Confirming a girl is good looking before approach

[Virgin101]

Has anyone had this predicament? Where you see a girl walking about, but you try to confirm that you're attracted to her before you consider approaching. In other words if I don't really see her face, I try to get a look before I approach. It's a bit silly of me considering I'd be about 90% certain she would be attractive anyway. I suppose it shows my need to know as much about the situation I'm going to be dealing with before I dive in. As in what if I walked right up to her and when she turned around I realised she wasn't attractive.

I would often tap a girl on the shoulder to get her to turn around, and I would then say "I just wanted to see if you were as good looking up close". It never really worked but I thought it would be a good open.

 

[Starboy]

I can understand your perspective. You want to know that you genuinely like the girl before you approach her so that you have a real sincere interaction with her and you're not faking it. If you talk to a girl that you don't really like then it's gonna show and reflect in your mannerisms and facial expressions. I think the problem with this is that it's easy for be really picky and say oh that girl's not even that cute whats the point of approaching her? Girls are really good at reading guys emotions. Don't use not knowing if she's attractive or not as a good excuse to not talk to her. I don't think you should tap a girl from behind. It can be really startling to some girls to be touched by someone and they cant see them. Also saying "I wanted to see if you were good looking up close " is kind of an insult because if you dont think she looks good then she will be able to tell. It also sounds like a shallow thing to say. Cuz this random guy who I dont know is trying to assess my looks and I dont even like him. Just think how well your approach has worked for you so far. If it hasn't gotten you valid,credible results like phone numbers on consistent basis which then lead to dates then I think it's time to switch it up and change your approach. Hope this helps you

 

[ElderPrice]

Approaching doesn't mean you're definitively selecting the mother of your children. It basically means just saying hi. You can say hi to anyone. After saying hi, the conversation can go many different ways, including saying goodbye and moving on.

Go ahead and approach anyway, then if she doesn't tickle your fancy whether because of her looks or personality (or if HE doesn't tickle your fancy if you're approaching a guy to talk sports or something) then you're perfectly free to wish them a great rest of their day and move on.

Besides, if a hot girl sees you being friendly to everyone, and NOT just approaching and gaming the pretty girls, she'll be warmer and more trusting when you approach her!