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- Dec 16, 2015
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Do I need to pick a style and stay congruent with it? I'm not just talking about what I wear... or the way I talk, but even my seduction style.
Obviously I'm sure my fundamentals need work, my dress sense still basically consists of a black t-shirt (which does show off my biceps and tattoos, which are quite nice) and jeans, I throw on a nice sweater if it's cold outside and a jacket, but that's my bread and butter. I've got black earrings in and I always wear pretty nice dress shoes with my hair gelled spiky (I'm not sure what look I'm portraying but this is so I can easily switch from casual to work when needed).
My seduction style... I come off very beta over text (because that's just the way I've found is easy to get them out with me and not show I care very much), especially because I'm extremely polarizing in person, always disagreeing with people and confronting them on their bullshit (also reaaaally focused on ME ME ME). I use a lot of smiley faces and "
", but even with my polarizing attitude for the most part I think I get incongruent during dates (vs. my approaches sometimes), and just have trouble keeping the same frame. I understand calibration but isn't this incongruence unattractive?
Do I stay polarizing and aggressive? Unafraid and calling people out on their bullshit? Do I be nice and romantic on dates? Should I keep seeming beta over text? I'm so god damn confused right now haha, I've read so much theory I'm legit just lost right now. I think I'm doing pretty well for a beginner but I'm so unsure of where I need to go next.
Should I just pick a style and roll with is? Follow Hector's model of beast like aggression, or Chase's more relaxed and chill vibe (especially with his texts), or RSD Tyler's high energy shenanigans approach; I feel like I"m just this weird combination of everything right now lol, if I'm confused af won't the girls be too?
Obviously I'm sure my fundamentals need work, my dress sense still basically consists of a black t-shirt (which does show off my biceps and tattoos, which are quite nice) and jeans, I throw on a nice sweater if it's cold outside and a jacket, but that's my bread and butter. I've got black earrings in and I always wear pretty nice dress shoes with my hair gelled spiky (I'm not sure what look I'm portraying but this is so I can easily switch from casual to work when needed).
My seduction style... I come off very beta over text (because that's just the way I've found is easy to get them out with me and not show I care very much), especially because I'm extremely polarizing in person, always disagreeing with people and confronting them on their bullshit (also reaaaally focused on ME ME ME). I use a lot of smiley faces and "
", but even with my polarizing attitude for the most part I think I get incongruent during dates (vs. my approaches sometimes), and just have trouble keeping the same frame. I understand calibration but isn't this incongruence unattractive? Do I stay polarizing and aggressive? Unafraid and calling people out on their bullshit? Do I be nice and romantic on dates? Should I keep seeming beta over text? I'm so god damn confused right now haha, I've read so much theory I'm legit just lost right now. I think I'm doing pretty well for a beginner but I'm so unsure of where I need to go next.
Should I just pick a style and roll with is? Follow Hector's model of beast like aggression, or Chase's more relaxed and chill vibe (especially with his texts), or RSD Tyler's high energy shenanigans approach; I feel like I"m just this weird combination of everything right now lol, if I'm confused af won't the girls be too?
