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lao che

Cro-Magnon Man
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saw a lovely little thing in the supermarket, but seemingly way too young for me. i stalked her for a while, playing a bit of front and follow while checking her in my peripherals, and trying to think of something to say. (incidentally i hardly ever cold approach, but when i do it's like kakow and i immediately know what to say and that it's gonna be well received.) i had no kakow moment with this girl so i decided i would have a think about it and come back to her.
i start talking to some middle aged woman for a minute and she's all smiles so with that slight bump i go look for the girl. i thought i'd missed her (there was a kakow girl two days ago but i lost her and i didn't want that to happen again). then i see her on the other side of the checkout. there's no line so i forget shopping, pay for my bottle of deodorant, and go back on the hunt.
i lurked for a minute and then fucking pussied out. she was doing something with her shopping and looked busy or confused and i weasled. then i gave myself a stern talking to and went back in. so i put my deodorant in my pocket and walked up to her and tried to be cool and sexy.
with i think good body language i said something like "hey let me ask you a question .... wait. how's your english?" and she responded so i said "ok .. in fact i just wanted to come say hi to a pretty girl ..." she was a bit flummoxed so i kept talking, mentioning her t-shirt which had the words come on written over a pair of lips.
i didn't think it was going great but we somehow just started slowly walking together. *fuck* i thought. that was easy. let's keep the ball rolling. so i keep talking,
the vibe is not so good. i asked her was she shopping for somebody else. her mom? she said no, for herself, she lives alone. i said "you don't look old enough to live alone" she told me she's 22. now i think game on though she doesn't seem keen at all but she's responding so i'm keeping hanging around but not really paying attention to her. turns out she's distracted because she wants to get a discount card, none of the staff seem to know and she asks me about it but i don't know. she asks about my shopping and i show her "i already got what i came for". i asked her to join me for a coffee but she didn't seem keen so i gave up and got on the escalator, she stood at the top and i said "alright i'm going this way bye then." it was kinda awkward but she just stayed there and i said "what? oh you're leaving too? come on then!" and she got on and joined me for a chat. usually i walk down but these things move slow and i wanted time to keep trying. a bit of chatting and again i invited her for a coffee and she declined. "what you don't like coffee? who doesn't like coffee" i asked nonchalantly. she said she doesn't so .. i still don't know, maybe she'll say yes to ice cream? still, i'm ready to bail at any minute.
outside i'm trying to say goodbye, she's a ditz this girl. she's looking around like a lost little lamb so i ask her and she's looking for a bus. i find out where she lives and tell her "my scooter's over there. you wanna ride? come on, i'll give you a ride" and started walking, she followed. at this point i don't care, i will gladly just give her a ride. i don't want anything. it's a nice day, i have nothing better to do and it will probably be fun. i have her put her things in the footwell and get on. she asks "is it free?" lol so i give her outrageous prices and tell her to get on again.

on the ride i found out she's been here 4 days! she's working in a restaurant. she asks what i'm doing today and i told her i have nothing to do now but i'm having dinner with a friend tonight.
my mouth is dry and i think my breath might stink so i stop at a convenience store, leaving her outside to mind the things. she says she doesn't want anything but i give her water anyway, and i get some coffee so we hang outside the store chatting while i drink it. now things are looking up, she's pretty laid back, considering the situation, not in any hurry and seems pretty happy. on the scooter she's comfortable with her arm around me and doesn't seems to mind if i put my hand on her leg, or hand or arm. i take her hand several times. one time i tell her i'm checking for a ring. she says she isn't looking for a husband. doesn't wanna get married. "me neither!" i tell her. apparently she can't cook so i nickname her "bad wife"
she forgets where she lives! she really is super green. she doesn't even live on the street she thinks she lives on. we find it in the end and i think it's game over. i'm quite happy to just drop her off... but i'm gonna get her number, it's the polite thing to do and i still think there's an outside chance. i wait for her neighbors to stop looking and then suggest we hang out some time. we exchange details and then she says "wait i'll go put my things inside" so there's some confusion about what each of us wants.
turns out she's game for an afternoon with me. i'm confused now but i'll roll with it. so we go walk around my favourite park. on the way i smell some fresh orange juice. we find where the smell is coming from and i go buy two. she says no but i know it's about money. on the way to the park she'd asked "is it free?" i brush aside her objections and we head into the park with our juice.
now i get her to put my deodorant in her bag. my wallet too. she's got a backpack and i got nuthin but pockets.
we wander round - there's been lots of kino so far. lots of arm touching etc. me leading her across the road by her wrist, preventing her moving forward with the back of my hand on her tummy, high fives and so on. but nothing overt. but the vibe is still not great. not sexy.
we were there for about an hour, i guess. she was super obedient. everything i instructed she did without hesitation. come here sit here give me your hand, or just following my lead, like, i would sit she would sit. i have no idea what's going on to be honest. in order to try and sex it up i ask her about boyfriends. she has a bf in her hometown so i ask his age

"21"

"oh you like younger boys?"

"no"

"so you like older men"

"no"

"well you might change your mind."

we went round in circles with me saying she might change her mind and her denying. but that's like a game to me, it's not combative. if you can imagine just smiling and making eye contact "well, you might though, you might, you don't know. you might"

at one point i ask about the small cold sore in the corner of her mouth. she says it's because of too much spicy food. she says they come and go in five days. i tell her what it really is. and i say "no kisses for you then"
as the hour progressed i'm starting to touch her more, touch her head, stroke her hair, i put my arm around her once or twice. she is perfectly fine with it. she hardly reacts at all, she doesn't flinch or get defensive, nor is she super into me and folding herself up in my arms. i wouldn't do that in the daytime anyway, i've gone as far as i'm willing to in broad daylight.

we leave the park and i'm not even committed at all. she says "go home" and i half-heartedly suggest going back to mine. nope. i motion with my hands *we*? "go back to yours?"

"yes"

i'm sure she just wants taking home. on the way i tell her she should come over and have dinner with me one night. but not tonight because i think she might try and kiss me, so she needs to wait five days.

"no"

"yes. no kisses for five days. but then we can hang out."

we go through another round of the might-change-your-mind game. and i accuse her of being too lazy to walk up the stairs to my apartment. bear in mind i'm leaning back into her as she rides pillion behind me. i'm not hunching forward to accommodate her. i'm taking as much room as i can while i rest one hand on her leg and occasionally take her hand and pull it further around my waist.

she gets lost on the way but i know exactly where she lives. we arrive and i 'm still confused but if i'm gonna do it might as well burn it down


"i think you're cute we're gonna hang out sometime soon. what are you gonna do now?"

"have a sleep."

" alright, don't dream about me. see you"

i had to call her back coz she had my things in her bag. said goodbye again and that was that. the whole thing felt super gamey but i was all pull and no push and my cards are completely on the table. i've no idea what's going on in this girl's head but i'm sure she's not going to jill-off to my memory during her nap.

whatever, i gets home and text her, just because it's the right thing to do. i expect no reply.

me: hello fish :) (uhmm she wants to be a fish. go figure) goddamm mosquitos! my feet are crazy itchy

me too!


then she starts sending me pics of her food. i'm astonished now. i say -


me: mmm dumplings.

her: no. wonton soup.

me: and you didn't cook some for me? i'm sad now :(

her: you want to eat?

me: next time. i'm having dinner with a friend.

her: ok have a good time.

me: sure. enjoy your wontons. say hi later

her: ok!

i'm scratching my head at this. i'm also hesitant to try and push it. this girl is so sweet and lovely and innocent. she was so compliant i almost believe if i'd just driven straight home and gone inside she would have followed me. if i do seduce her i will feel at once elated and loathsome. but on the other hand i start to think could she be a hooker? she told me she was here to work for 3 months and before that she was in another city, and the cold-sore and the weird non-reaction to kino ... shit i'm confused.
 

lao che

Cro-Magnon Man
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Re: confusing idate with lots of compliance but difficult to sex it up

she flaked on me........my response wasn't bad, but wasn't great. i feel like a fool now

there was 1 decent text convo, she invested a fair bit and sent me voice messages, which i always take as a good sign. after that, about a week of missing each other - she says hi at 1 am, i reply at 10am ... until this morning ... last night she tells me it's her day off tomorrow. when i didn't answer for several hours she sends me something like "heartbroken". this morning... :

me: good morning sunshine

her: morning.

me: oh there she is my elusive friend with the sexy skin

her: yes beautiful sexy skin

me: good then we agree on something

her: so, i am your friend

me: we'll see about that young lady. now what's this about a rest

her: yes, rest. sleeping

me: you're still in bed

her: yes

me: pics please

her: no pics

me: i know you will say no. so i will use my vivid imagination instead. here's what i imagine [send pic of chimpanzee in pajamas, sleeping in a proper bed]

her: it's not me. it's you

me: so you're saying i'm a monkey?

her: a lazy monkey

me: so why are you so attracted to monkeys ..

her: perhaps because monkeys are my ancestors

me: hmmmm. i'm gonna get up soon too. you want to see a pic of me in bed? (i'm gonna send a pic of a wolf in bed, like red riding hood. i always characterize myself as a wolf to girls)

her: you must know my answer.

me: no, then. ok

her: [no response for 10min] clever

me: so wait, you're off work today?

her: yes

me: i'm gonna cook brunch. join me

her: i can't cook.

me: bad wife. i'll be the cook. you're the assistant.

her: can i assist with dinner

me: dinner tonight?

her: afternoon. around 3pm

me: you mean it takes 3 hours for you to put on your make up? here's you before makeup: [pic of the ugliest woman in the world]

her: no, i don't make up.

me: ha sexy brown skin.

her: 3pm ok?

me: that's actually better for me. wear something pretty. i'll come get you at 3 (should have made her work for it a little)

her: ok :) i want to see a hudson boy (i don't know what this means, and i ignore it as don't wanna get railed into any more convo after setting the date)



i send message saying i;'ll meet on the corner in a few minutes. no reply. i wait. no one comes. 3.10 there's a SMS exchange (over the course of an hour or more) from an unknown number


her: i am sorry. i'm not at home now. will come back 1 hour later.

me: who's this?

her: sexy skin

me: [my address] let me know when you're near (so far so good. i'm not showing annoyance, i'm leaving a window open, and i'm not losing frame. she can come to me now, that's all)

her: before dinner

me: u said 1 hour. i didn't eat yet but you better hurry. (weak. should have ignored all further texts)

her: i come back, you can eat something. (i think this means she arrived at home. not sure, though, so ... i send one more)

me: what's your ETA


nothing for an hour. now she's asking "where are you it's raining?" and sent me a dropped pin showing her location, not very near where she should be, i.e in my bed.

i should have been less forgiving of the disrepect.
 
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