Recently got into touch with a girl that have not talk to in a year, recently broke up with her boyfriend about a week ago, so decide to make my move, handle both our dates very well, we were flirting the whole time making the right moves, her legs were wrapped around mine and we made out a lot at the end, however I am very confused as her conversation with me the other day saying "I have no interest in you whatsoever and just want to be friends" We could talk for hours, and we laughed a lot, she says i'm very handsome and loves that muscular...I really do not get what I did wrong here? Am I missing something?
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Hey Shroud,
Sounds like you missed some escalation windows. Basically, those are windows of opportunity a woman gives you to lead towards sex. She expects a sexual man to take them, and if he doesn't she will write him off as not able to satisfy her needs.
If you were making out heavy with her she most likely wanted you to escalate further.
Move fast with women. The key is calibration, recognizing those escalation windows and taking them. Not too soon, not too late.
Don't worry about it. Live and learn!
PS
There are plenty of articles on the site about escalation. Might want to give some a read.
Sounds like you missed some escalation windows. Basically, those are windows of opportunity a woman gives you to lead towards sex. She expects a sexual man to take them, and if he doesn't she will write him off as not able to satisfy her needs.
If you were making out heavy with her she most likely wanted you to escalate further.
Move fast with women. The key is calibration, recognizing those escalation windows and taking them. Not too soon, not too late.
Don't worry about it. Live and learn!
PS
There are plenty of articles on the site about escalation. Might want to give some a read.
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The BEST thing you can do for a second chance, is to meet other women.
In her eyes, you aren't up to par as a lover. If she sees you with other women, that changes things.
While there is certainly a chance that she might change her mind, you best option is above. She already said she wants to just be friends. Move on, and meet other women. Thats what the man she wanted to make a move would do. And if you want to be that man, start BEING that man.
Easier said than done. But you can find a girl that makes you forget about this one. She may not be the same, but she can be different in very good ways, even better.
Move on and don't look back. Maybe she'll get your attention if she's interested and then you can try again. But you won't care either way since you're busy with other girls
In her eyes, you aren't up to par as a lover. If she sees you with other women, that changes things.
While there is certainly a chance that she might change her mind, you best option is above. She already said she wants to just be friends. Move on, and meet other women. Thats what the man she wanted to make a move would do. And if you want to be that man, start BEING that man.
Easier said than done. But you can find a girl that makes you forget about this one. She may not be the same, but she can be different in very good ways, even better.
Move on and don't look back. Maybe she'll get your attention if she's interested and then you can try again. But you won't care either way since you're busy with other girls