Conservative Girl, Attainability too low?

[Anonymous]

Hello...

I've been working on this conservative girl... she has never had a bf before.
After reading through this site, i've came down to conclusion that my attainability is too low for her(correct me if I'm wrong)
She tells me she thinks I'm a bad boy, that I get really flirty with girls at parties, and she can't imagine that I can give her the stability that she's looking for.
I was able to take her out to two dates, followed by failure to even make out on both cases(I may have made a mistake here by trying to go fast, again she is very conservative)
But I was able to give her a little kiss on the cheek on the second date
It did seem like a little bit of a progress, but she continues to be somewhat aloof.

I have another date with her tmrw night.
Any advice?

 

[Clout]

Hey yjs1210,

Ok so, if she is conservative it is important you show her that sex doesn't make her 'easy' and that you keep your business to yourself.

In regards to the attainability, you are showing advances so I think she knows. You can't really move too fast with a girl, so long as she feels like you actually care about her and not just after sex with anything with a pulse. So for this I suggest trying to get her one on one and give her your complete attention (no phone messing). If she called you a 'bad boy' she is basically saying you are not bf material, she has asked you for stability. So what do you want out of this?

If you want to remain in lover category and be "free" keep going, you are doing well. However I would re-frame from approaching girls heavily in front of her, she wants to think you have an abundance of women...not see it.

She is turning up on dates with you because you are exciting. As she seems inexperienced/closed to the idea, you need to put it in her head without saying it. I would suggest using light touch to start then let it linger (I like to sit close so our legs touching at the start, then work up to getting my hand on the inner thigh...move it a little and she will be getting excited). Do not escalate though without sex logistics or in public. Whatever your date is try and move her to yours or hers then go for the kissing their (suggest a movie at your place).

If she resists to you being completely alone, for me I would just stop entertaining her as this is going to be your third date. When you do this, if they come back its like they have already made their mind up so the whole thing is just so much easier. Good Luck!

 

[trashKENNUT]

yjs1210,

I've been working on this conservative girl... she has never had a bf before.
After reading through this site, i've came down to conclusion that my attainability is too low for her(correct me if I'm wrong)
She tells me she thinks I'm a bad boy, that I get really flirty with girls at parties, and she can't imagine that I can give her the stability that she's looking for.
I was able to take her out to two dates, followed by failure to even make out on both cases(I may have made a mistake here by trying to go fast, again she is very conservative)
But I was able to give her a little kiss on the cheek on the second date
It did seem like a little bit of a progress, but she continues to be somewhat aloof.

I have another date with her tmrw night.
Any advice?

Are you sure she's aloof or she feels you threatening?

I think she wants to take the next step.i feel she knows what she wants, and being aloof is different from a girl who feels threatened by your advances. Try being affectionate and tone down your bad boy image abit, when you with her.

Do understand that girls like her might take more than three dates. If so, just lower your investment by the time spend with her, and do things gradually.

Zac

 

[Anonymous]

my feeling is shes attracted but shes sort afraid to really open up to me, some sort of defense mechanism.
Also reputation is at stake too... I used to date her sorority sister, and girls are gossiping about us.
and damn never mind about the date she flaked on me saying shes sick this morning.
I basically told her its fine we will see some other time
Have very little time left with her(2wks before this semester ends, im in college)
Feeling a little rushed right here and girl obviously trying to take it slow
Not sure what my next move is