Trial and error. The important thing is that you establish contact with her, even as a friend at first. If she is trully conservative (e.g. trully religious), chances are high that she will not sleep with you right away, so you'll have to be investing more effort. Most likely it is long(er) term battle as she is aiming for BF, but it may worth it (if that's what you are looking for)...
* Don't be needy, you'll need lots of patience and lots of time
* Take your time with responses (texting), sometimes respond righ away, other times wait 2 even 3 days
* Be persistant over longer period of time, even if she initially shows no signs of interest
* Obviously aim for a date, yet at the same time don't expect much to happen. Keep pushing forward, even small steps are good as long as there is a progress. Each date you want to do more than the previous date
* There is a chance that she'll go for a date but not much will happen; you'll have to take it slower. For example, after the date, maybe just text her that you had a great time, and then don't text for 2-3 days. If she is older, meaning 25+, add another day or two before you contact her again. It sounds silly but it is very important, I don't know what it is, but some girls are perhaps even counting the time that it takes for you to contact her. If it is too soon she will dump you. Weird, but it is what it is. Ideally she will contact you within this time, if not you will need more patience
* Assuming that you are looking for GF, make sure you establish good emotional connection first. You want to find out more about her without being too personal and without shooting questions. Find out more about her life, about her friends and family, how does she sees her life in the future - this should rather be a conversation with good vibes and not a job interview...
* Try to avoid being overly sexual at first. If she is trully conservative she may develop adverse reaction to your sexuality. It is much better to start as a neutral and as the time goes increase your sexual interest, rather then trow at her all the seductve gazes, looks and walks - and she falls into autorejection before you even realize...
* Don't get over-excited if she suddenly shows lots of interest. Remeber, if she is conservative chances are that she is inexperienced. Therefore, she may "open" one day but the day after she may feel lots of shame... So again, think lots of patience...
* Know, that if she is taking it slower but showing interest in you, she is also testing you at the same time. She is observing every of your reactins and responses, she is making a mental list about how you behave, what are you opinions about other people and so forth...
* Other than that, follow the general GC guideline, move forward wherever you can...
* Don't be needy, you'll need lots of patience and lots of time
* Take your time with responses (texting), sometimes respond righ away, other times wait 2 even 3 days
* Be persistant over longer period of time, even if she initially shows no signs of interest
* Obviously aim for a date, yet at the same time don't expect much to happen. Keep pushing forward, even small steps are good as long as there is a progress. Each date you want to do more than the previous date
* There is a chance that she'll go for a date but not much will happen; you'll have to take it slower. For example, after the date, maybe just text her that you had a great time, and then don't text for 2-3 days. If she is older, meaning 25+, add another day or two before you contact her again. It sounds silly but it is very important, I don't know what it is, but some girls are perhaps even counting the time that it takes for you to contact her. If it is too soon she will dump you. Weird, but it is what it is. Ideally she will contact you within this time, if not you will need more patience
* Assuming that you are looking for GF, make sure you establish good emotional connection first. You want to find out more about her without being too personal and without shooting questions. Find out more about her life, about her friends and family, how does she sees her life in the future - this should rather be a conversation with good vibes and not a job interview...
* Try to avoid being overly sexual at first. If she is trully conservative she may develop adverse reaction to your sexuality. It is much better to start as a neutral and as the time goes increase your sexual interest, rather then trow at her all the seductve gazes, looks and walks - and she falls into autorejection before you even realize...
* Don't get over-excited if she suddenly shows lots of interest. Remeber, if she is conservative chances are that she is inexperienced. Therefore, she may "open" one day but the day after she may feel lots of shame... So again, think lots of patience...
* Know, that if she is taking it slower but showing interest in you, she is also testing you at the same time. She is observing every of your reactins and responses, she is making a mental list about how you behave, what are you opinions about other people and so forth...
* Other than that, follow the general GC guideline, move forward wherever you can...
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lawliet,
Coming from a conservative background I can tell you there are truly conservative girls who are as Drck discusses. Then there are those who keep up conservative appearances in public but are sexually active. The first will maintain the conservative frame in public and private. The second will drop the frame when you isolate her from the public eye. Of course she has to be attracted to you which is your job. So to determine which you are dealing with isolation is necessary.
SGent
Coming from a conservative background I can tell you there are truly conservative girls who are as Drck discusses. Then there are those who keep up conservative appearances in public but are sexually active. The first will maintain the conservative frame in public and private. The second will drop the frame when you isolate her from the public eye. Of course she has to be attracted to you which is your job. So to determine which you are dealing with isolation is necessary.
SGent