Consistently Piping Hot Then... Nothing

[Smiling_Stray]

I agree a-lot with what everyone’s saying in here, I really do, but I also kind of feel like it was luck of the draw.

I’ve had girls get really sexual over text and still meet, I’ve also had girls who get really sexual and don’t.

Getting sexual wasn’t a problem in my eyes, would she have met if you built a better connection? Maybe but not necessarily.

Truthfully when you’re texting girls it’s hard to interpret how she’s feeling, and what’s going on around her.

It could’ve easily been something you did or something entirely outside of your control.

Hard 2 say imo. Maybe try focusing on building comfort before you guys link up.

Isn't building comfort the same as building rapport?

 

[Smiling_Stray]

I have an update from the most recent, just in case anyone finds it relevant:

She got back to me about an hour ago, apologizing and saying she hasn't been feeling well all weekend and overslept. Not sure how much I believe that but I just said "No worries, I believe you" followed by me telling to just get some rest.
She said "Thank you We're gonna fuck soon I promise"
I said "Ofc With all this waiting tho ur really gonna get it " (I feel like that one was a bit of a mistake but oh well)
Then she got back to me a few minutes later "I wanna see you again baby" (her way of saying let's start sexting)
I rebuffed this though because why would I give you what you want when you're not giving me what I want as well? "Mmm would if I could, but I'm out with friends right now"
Followed by "Don't worry, you'll see me again soon get some rest, lady" (lady is something I say and text sometimes, idk why, it's kinda just part of the way I talk and shows my voice a bit I suppose)

 

[Smiling_Stray]

Sexting is an enormously high-risk high-reward strategy before you meet up and fuck.


If you meet up, then sex is basically guaranteed. But if you don't meet up quickly (like the next day) then she becomes extremely resistant to ever meeting up.


I've tried to experiment with swinging back around to connecting afterwards but I haven't quite got it down myself yet. Which is a shame because I've gotten weirdly good at getting chicks to send nudes lol. But a lot of them never wanted to meet up afterwards.

Lol I'm beginning to figure that out for myself! Unfortunately it does seem a lot like a "you can look but not touch" sort of deal. Which fuck fucking sucks! Lmao

Interesting with the swinging back around though, anywhere I keep up to date with your findings? Would love to try that myself a bit.

 

[moom]

Lol I'm beginning to figure that out for myself! Unfortunately it does seem a lot like a "you can look but not touch" sort of deal. Which fuck fucking sucks! Lmao

Interesting with the swinging back around though, anywhere I keep up to date with your findings? Would love to try that myself a bit.

Would love if you shared some of the ways you’re turning online game texts sexual or a primer on how your texting conversations go- I focus on logistics always and it would be nice to have an idea how I can pull off your style of game too lol

 

[Regal Tiger]

I think Regal Tiger has got the best strategy here. If you're gonna sext, try to swing that into a meet up ASAP. Higher chances that way

Honestly, I'd say don't sext in the first place because then she later starts getting into her head about how you're going to be expecting sex. And if she doesn't logically say to herself "yeah, I wanna fuck him" then she's just going to flake.

It happens, don't get me wrong, but you've gotta get around putting that kind of pressure on her. Which, sadly, is guaranteed to happen whether you want it to or not because the nudes are already out there.


And again, I've tried experimenting with this but I just can't find a way around it, personally :/

 

[Regal Tiger]

Lol I'm beginning to figure that out for myself! Unfortunately it does seem a lot like a "you can look but not touch" sort of deal. Which fuck fucking sucks! Lmao

Interesting with the swinging back around though, anywhere I keep up to date with your findings? Would love to try that myself a bit.

It's one of those things where I simply don't have the volume to experiment with at the moment. So I haven't even bothered picking it back up.

If I ever do get it figured out I'll post something on its own though

 

[Regal Tiger]

Would love if you shared some of the ways you’re turning online game texts sexual or a primer on how your texting conversations go- I focus on logistics always and it would be nice to have an idea how I can pull off your style of game too lol

My style is to start small. I'm a big fan of cuddling and then immediately transitioning into what I'd personally like to do in that moment. And explaining every tiny, sinful detail then asking a little question to get her as into is as I get into it. Usually like "can you picture it?" "where would you like to be touched if you were here with me right now?" "how much do you enjoy the thought of it?" stuff like that.


So then transition into how I'd want to kiss her followed by where my hands would be, what it would be like for my breath to be on her neck. The cooling sensation of my lips leaving her neck followed by the breath on her neck.

I'm talking DETAIL DETAIL DETAIL


I leave ZERO room for interpretation. I'm painting the scene with every word. Basically, if there's even the tiniest amount of confusion then I've fucked up.

With every little texting scene she should know roughly where my hands would be, what I would be doing to her and what she would be feeling. Then a question on the end just to make sure she's into it as well as get her as invested into it as possible.


I'll even go so far as to describe what it'll feel like as she gets close to orgasm and tell her to cum for me.


As for pictures, you just wait until you're both into it and then say how it's driving you crazy about how you want to see her. Some girls are resistant to sending nudes off the bat so you may just get a little bit, but either way, always give her feedback about how it turns you on. Once you continue on with the scene then most of the time she'll loosen up and you'll get the goods. But if you don't on the second try then it's usually an uphill battle to get anything explicit after that. Not impossible, but you're in it for the long haul at that point.

These little sext sessions for me can last for upwards to 2+ hours sometimes. Most of the time I'm looking at around 30 minutes or so though. Which can be fun if you're working on your computer but realize that you need to be responsive.


If she ever goes 20+ minutes without sending you a response then she's more than likely going to cool off. Not everyone does, but usually they will. You can try to reengage but it's a bit of a coin toss at that point (because we have no idea what's going on in her life)

 

[moom]

My style is to start small. I'm a big fan of cuddling and then immediately transitioning into what I'd personally like to do in that moment. And explaining every tiny, sinful detail then asking a little question to get her as into is as I get into it. Usually like "can you picture it?" "where would you like to be touched if you were here with me right now?" "how much do you enjoy the thought of it?" stuff like that.


So then transition into how I'd want to kiss her followed by where my hands would be, what it would be like for my breath to be on her neck. The cooling sensation of my lips leaving her neck followed by the breath on her neck.

I'm talking DETAIL DETAIL DETAIL


I leave ZERO room for interpretation. I'm painting the scene with every word. Basically, if there's even the tiniest amount of confusion then I've fucked up.

With every little texting scene she should know roughly where my hands would be, what I would be doing to her and what she would be feeling. Then a question on the end just to make sure she's into it as well as get her as invested into it as possible.


I'll even go so far as to describe what it'll feel like as she gets close to orgasm and tell her to cum for me.


As for pictures, you just wait until you're both into it and then say how it's driving you crazy about how you want to see her. Some girls are resistant to sending nudes off the bat so you may just get a little bit, but either way, always give her feedback about how it turns you on. Once you continue on with the scene then most of the time she'll loosen up and you'll get the goods. But if you don't on the second try then it's usually an uphill battle to get anything explicit after that. Not impossible, but you're in it for the long haul at that point.

These little sext sessions for me can last for upwards to 2+ hours sometimes. Most of the time I'm looking at around 30 minutes or so though.

This is nice, but I'm talking more about the transition into it. From opener on a dating app to transitioning into sex talk

 

[Skills]

There is a right balance to sext, it must be:

- indirect, subtle comment to judge reaction and gauge temperature.

- you can not plow on the sext and get exited which is the problems must guys have.

- you should drop and combine with other topics/subjects

- you can not project too much excitement

- it is more to do with sexual prizing and none judgemtal attitueds

- at all cost you can not trigger asd...

- flirty humor works a lot...


^ to get all that correct, most guys will get it wrong... Most guys are better of no sexting, till they get some volume were they can experiment and get it right...

This one is a good example

 

[Regal Tiger]

This is nice, but I'm talking more about the transition into it. From opener on a dating app to transitioning into sex talk

Ah, in that case you have to build some comfort/rapport for a while and then ease into it.


It's rare for me to get into sexting on the first day. It's usually something that happens after knowing her for a little bit. So just talk to her and wait for a natural opening to jump into. So yeah, sorry but I don't really have too much more advice than that. Because whenever I start sexting a girl it's been at least a few days since we've become aware of each others' existence.

One of the few exceptions that I can think of off the top of my head was a girl I met while dancing a few years ago. She got sexual first and I just kinda followed it up to tell ya the truth. Then we continued over text and met up the next day I believe. She was exception to a lotta rules though, talked to her after we hooked up and she talked about how she wanted to fuck me when she saw me dancing with some of the other women and how excited she was when I asked her to dance. So that's an impractical one to draw lessons from :/

 

[Rakehell]

Isn't building comfort the same as building rapport?

comfort would be like letting them hear ur voice before meeting them, telling them something silly that happened to you in the day

; anything disarming that’ll ease up on any nerves they may have about meeting someone online

social proof really

 

[foggy]

the general rule of thumb is, the more emotions and horniness you trigger in them, the more you must also maintain or increase levels of social frame.

otherwise, it causes an internal conflict for them where their primal side [i wanna jump his bones] starts wrestling with their analytical side [but wait...is he okay to fuck?]

they start feeling ASD and/or FSC....causing flakey behavior and ghosts. and ASD/FSC can continue to get in your way long after she crashes from you pumping her state.

you'll experience higher rates of the success you dream of by implementing the following recommendations:

1. set more social frames. ways to do this include showing social value in your bio, building investment with intrigue bait, building rapport through active listening etc. experiment with setting/building social frames before pumping her state, as well as when you first notice her getting excited.
2. draw out these spikes over longer periods of time