Controlling your escalation windows

[almosteasy21]

Looking back at past experiences and reading GC religiously I realized how important escalation windows are. My question to the more experienced fellas in this forum is this...if there is a way to control the timing of the window? Sometimes the logistics of the evening don't allow for you to escalate but you don't want to miss the opportunity and her go cold.

For example: You're at a work party and you bring a date but one of your coworkers brings her sexy sister. Or maybe you're in a bar with a date but the bartender is sexy. You can't quite avoid the bartender so what's the best play?

 

[trashKENNUT]

Hi Kinny21,

My question to the more experienced fellas in this forum is this...if there is a way to control the timing of the window? Sometimes the logistics of the evening don't allow for you to escalate but you don't want to miss the opportunity and her go cold.

The thing is, YOU CAN'T. The timing of the window varies, on her, and also on how you pick up on the conversation with her, your vibe. The best is to ask her schedule for a date, get her number and get out of there.

For example: You're at a work party and you bring a date but one of your coworkers brings her sexy sister. Or maybe you're in a bar with a date but the bartender is sexy. You can't quite avoid the bartender so what's the best play?

For this, let's hope the other guys have something in mind. I think it is possible, but unless she's not really into you, you can get into a messy situation if you not handling it well.

Zac

 

[Chase]

Kinny-

Looking back at past experiences and reading GC religiously I realized how important escalation windows are. My question to the more experienced fellas in this forum is this...if there is a way to control the timing of the window? Sometimes the logistics of the evening don't allow for you to escalate but you don't want to miss the opportunity and her go cold.

For example: You're at a work party and you bring a date but one of your coworkers brings her sexy sister. Or maybe you're in a bar with a date but the bartender is sexy. You can't quite avoid the bartender so what's the best play?

You can't control how long an escalation stays open for, but you can control, to a certain extent, when it opens.

Essentially, the moment you start "gaming" a girl - flirting with her, touching her, connecting with her, getting compliance out of her, moving things forward with her - it's on, and windows start opening. If you want to prevent this, do not engage until you're reading. It's similar to what's mentioned in the article on hooking up with friends; you must keep the girl on your periphery until you're ready to strike.

In the examples you gave, you simply wouldn't talk much, or at all, to the coworker's sister or the bartender. You'd ignore them as much as naturally possible. If you must engage, do it in a very neutral way and pretend you don't notice they're attractive. Don't actively avoid them - otherwise, they'll know you've "noticed" them - just seem to have totally missed that they're attractive at all.

It's okay if they think you're cute, so long as you don't flirt or engage. Just don't start things until you're in a position to finish them, and you'll normally be fine.

Chase

 

[trashKENNUT]

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