So here's the deal as I said in my first post (I think it was the first) I used to be really fat, like 135kg, and I lost 56-57kg a year ago and since then I only eat food that I prepare myself.
That means no fast food, no junk food, no microwavable cr#p, no chips or snacks, etc.
And I've always had a passion and skill with cooking(no matter I'm soon to become only 21). Not to sound cocky but I'm the best cook I know(not counting professional chefs).
So I cook every meal I eat, which when you work out and to sports is like 3-4 meals a day.
Plus I cook all different kinds of cuisine. Recently I've been learning to cook Thai, Japanese and Korean.
Just for the example an hour ago I cooked myself dinner which was:
- iceberg salad with cherry-tomatoes, avocado, lime juice, and some mozzarella
- shrimp risotto with peas and parmesan
and for last
- crispy salmon on a bed of christian potatoes with green onions with some crab meat and some vinegret
and last night I made:
- french onion soup
- fettuccine, with milk and 4 types of cheese souse
and
- butter poached lobster for main
So as you can tell I'm pretty passionate about cooking. I believe it's something every man should be able to do.
As it makes you independent and not needing a woman to cook for you. And I eat great tasting food without going to restaurants or needing a girlfriend to cook for me.
Plus I'm kinda of a foodie on top of all other things (guess that was why I used to be so fat). I just love eating tasty food and experimenting with new tastes. Plus it's super fun.
It's like an art form. Like painting or composing music.
Why is this relevant, and what is my question?
Well here it is.
Recently I've been getting interested in no just sleeping with a girl and never seeing her again, but rather maybe try to get to know a girl and if I like her start some kind of relationship.
So when I invite her to come to my place (since I live in sth like a huge campus where 85% or students live in cramped dorms with roommates(and no stoves or ovens - there is literally only a microwave in a dorm room to only heat sandwiches and cheap take out/junk food) and I have an apartment all to myself, so it's super convenient to invite girls to my place), especially during winter when from November to March it's like -10, -15 C and it gets dark at 4-5 p.m.
So during that time most of the dates are going to be at my place since it's cozier than some cramped and loud cafe'.
And when I invite a girl home we will have to eat and since I don't like taking prepared food home, I'll just cook dinner for myself and the girl. And cook sth exotic and fancy.
Not trying to impress her, it's just the way I eat every day.
And I know that girls love a guy who can cook really well. They just love it when she cooks along with you, and learning things from. And I usually make dinner parties for my platonic girl friends and they just love it.
And I bet a girl you're sleeping with and dating would also really love that.
But what about a girl you haven't slept with?
A girl I've only been on 1-2 dates, that I invite home (as I prefer it to cafe' dates or taking a girl I haven't slept with to adventure dates)?
Would a girl I haven't slept with, take it as I'm trying to impress her?
Would she think it's cool in a bad way (bad way meaning she starts seeing me as bf-material)?
And what if I just frame it right? Meaning I tell her casually that I love to cook and cook every day and cook like that every day and not especially for her.
I guess there is no way to protect against her seeing it as sth cool and a source of value (unless she doesn't like eating food). But what I'm worried about is her seeing it as me investing in her a bit or taking it to romantically and making her want to take things slow.
Would that be a problem? And as I said I'm recently turning 21 and starting my 3rd year of University.
That means no fast food, no junk food, no microwavable cr#p, no chips or snacks, etc.
And I've always had a passion and skill with cooking(no matter I'm soon to become only 21). Not to sound cocky but I'm the best cook I know(not counting professional chefs).
So I cook every meal I eat, which when you work out and to sports is like 3-4 meals a day.
Plus I cook all different kinds of cuisine. Recently I've been learning to cook Thai, Japanese and Korean.
Just for the example an hour ago I cooked myself dinner which was:
- iceberg salad with cherry-tomatoes, avocado, lime juice, and some mozzarella
- shrimp risotto with peas and parmesan
and for last
- crispy salmon on a bed of christian potatoes with green onions with some crab meat and some vinegret
and last night I made:
- french onion soup
- fettuccine, with milk and 4 types of cheese souse
and
- butter poached lobster for main
So as you can tell I'm pretty passionate about cooking. I believe it's something every man should be able to do.
As it makes you independent and not needing a woman to cook for you. And I eat great tasting food without going to restaurants or needing a girlfriend to cook for me.
Plus I'm kinda of a foodie on top of all other things (guess that was why I used to be so fat). I just love eating tasty food and experimenting with new tastes. Plus it's super fun.
It's like an art form. Like painting or composing music.
Why is this relevant, and what is my question?
Well here it is.
Recently I've been getting interested in no just sleeping with a girl and never seeing her again, but rather maybe try to get to know a girl and if I like her start some kind of relationship.
So when I invite her to come to my place (since I live in sth like a huge campus where 85% or students live in cramped dorms with roommates(and no stoves or ovens - there is literally only a microwave in a dorm room to only heat sandwiches and cheap take out/junk food) and I have an apartment all to myself, so it's super convenient to invite girls to my place), especially during winter when from November to March it's like -10, -15 C and it gets dark at 4-5 p.m.
So during that time most of the dates are going to be at my place since it's cozier than some cramped and loud cafe'.
And when I invite a girl home we will have to eat and since I don't like taking prepared food home, I'll just cook dinner for myself and the girl. And cook sth exotic and fancy.
Not trying to impress her, it's just the way I eat every day.
And I know that girls love a guy who can cook really well. They just love it when she cooks along with you, and learning things from. And I usually make dinner parties for my platonic girl friends and they just love it.
And I bet a girl you're sleeping with and dating would also really love that.
But what about a girl you haven't slept with?
A girl I've only been on 1-2 dates, that I invite home (as I prefer it to cafe' dates or taking a girl I haven't slept with to adventure dates)?
Would a girl I haven't slept with, take it as I'm trying to impress her?
Would she think it's cool in a bad way (bad way meaning she starts seeing me as bf-material)?
And what if I just frame it right? Meaning I tell her casually that I love to cook and cook every day and cook like that every day and not especially for her.
I guess there is no way to protect against her seeing it as sth cool and a source of value (unless she doesn't like eating food). But what I'm worried about is her seeing it as me investing in her a bit or taking it to romantically and making her want to take things slow.
Would that be a problem? And as I said I'm recently turning 21 and starting my 3rd year of University.
. Or if she's not ready I give her the tour just so she can feel comfortable and for her to see sth interesting i my apartment so we'd have "an excuse" to go back there later, and we go to the cafe' and after that I try to bring her back for some escalating.