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Tramp

Space Monkey
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Need help with this older woman who invited me to her place last night.

Long story short, I met her on Tinder, she messaged me first, she asked me out to Starbucks but then remembered it was closed and invited me back to her place instead, she's in her 30s and I'm 18.


I arrived at her place around 10. She made it verbally obvious she was attracted to me, but her nonverbals weren't completely in my favor. To get her touching me, I made us dance to the lil Wayne tracks she had on, started grinding a bit and having fun.

Then she kind of clammed up. I think I saved it before I left, turns out she's a bit nervous about our ages, and I think I calmed her down, because after I did, she tried kissing me goodbye. I gave her my cheek instead, although she was aiming for my lips, since I know kissing on the first date = no 2nd date. I'd like to see her again.



Anyways I need to know what to do on these things:

- She texted me this morning saying:

"I had a great time with you last night. If I didn't have to get up early, I would've asked you to stay longer. I hope we can meet again someday.<3"

I'm leaving for Europe next week for study abroad. What do I text back? Is she still interested in me or did I blow it?

- How do I get a 2nd date with her?
 

Drck

Cro-Magnon Man
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IMO you are overthinking it. You are young and inexperienced, and she knows it. She likes young guys. She probably wants sex, at the same time she wants to give you space because you don't have experience.

Call her or text her again, tell her you had a great time and that it would be great to meet again. Then go see her again and forget all that you read online, just enjoy yourself. You are a man and she is woman, that is all you have to know. If you have to, tell her that you are shy and let her be more active. Don't pretend to have experience if you have none, she can read you very well.

Don't try any PUA tricks either, as far as relationships she is 10x smarter than you and most likely she has 10x more experience than you too. Said differently, she's got all the cards and if she likes you you have a free ride - Just don't stand in your own way...
 
a good date brings a smile to your lips... and hers

Tramp

Space Monkey
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Thanks man!


She set up the second date, and I had a great ride;)
 
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