Could you trust guy as friend if he cheats or sleeps woman in a relationship

[Rain]

1. If you have a male friend and he cheats on his girlfriend, and he said they are exclusive or whatever, so it's cheating. Would you out him or not say anything?

2. Could you trust him as a legit friend of yours? Whats to stop him sleeping with your partner?

3. By leaving this between him and her, what if your partner was cheating on you, and one of her female friends knew and instead of telling you she didn't "out" her friend, and then you might raise a kid thats not yours eg wrong paternity?

4. Is a friend a real friend if they sleep with a woman knowing she has a partner, eg again can you trust that person to not sleep with your own partner?

 

[Richard]

1) Wouldn't out him - not my business to get involved. If he's cheating then it's choice to deal with.

2) Not his choice to just "sleep with my partner." If my partner wants to cheat on me then I'm doing something wrong as a man. But, if my partner tells me that this friend is making advances then I'd have to handle it.

3) Again, if my partner is cheating on me then I very likely pushed her to do that. Women don't just decide to cheat UNLESS their partner fucks up in some way OR (and very rarely) the woman has a legit mental problem/issue, such is the case of nymphomania. Plus, I don't plan on having children so if she gets pregnant then we have a plan to take care of that.

4) Again, who cares? I've slept with women in relationships and still have a lot of friends who trust me around their girlfriends/wives. Plus, it's not just a single persons choice to just cheat or sleep with somebody, it's a two person operation so both people help make the decision. If my partner's decision is to cheat then I've fucked up somewhere and I'll learn my lesson from it. When you become a high value man then your woman will NOT risk losing you to something less valuable than you so your friends shouldn't have a shot with your girlfriend.

 

[Fuck This]

I have a situation where a friend of a friend is the "other woman". I haven't met the guy, but I hear stories quite often.

I've told my friend that I don't want to put myself in a situation where I develop a relationship with the guy. Mainly because WHEN, not if, the shit hits the fan, The FOTF is going to take it hard, and the Drama is gonna be all over hell. Now I don't know whether the wife in the situation knows what's going on or not and I don't really care. I just know my friend's friend is going to lean HARD on my friend if anything goes wrong in the tangled web that has been woven.

My Metaphor for this situation is that the guy's marriage is a tree whose roots grow wider every year. If the "wind" blows over that tree, the roots are gonna make a hell of a crater and I don't want to build my house there on top of those roots.

 

[trashKENNUT]

Rain,

1. If you have a male friend and he cheats on his girlfriend, and he said they are exclusive or whatever, so it's cheating. Would you out him or not say anything?

I have a friend. He's married. We used to work and hangout. His other girl contact is '<insert shop name> Boss'. He's a good dude. People who cheat are not evil. There's a level of paranoia (not about the women) and some flighty personality.

Quite interesting to see society wreck their minds when it's on them. p.s: Not about you though but it's weird seeing this dynamic.

2. Could you trust him as a legit friend of yours? Whats to stop him sleeping with your partner?

His other girl find me 'handsome'. How? Have done a lot of fire extinguishing, if that make sense.

3. By leaving this between him and her, what if your partner was cheating on you, and one of her female friends knew and instead of telling you she didn't "out" her friend, and then you might raise a kid thats not yours eg wrong paternity?

It's nothing personal right, ? That's what everyone operates from but lack self awareness of.

4. Is a friend a real friend if they sleep with a woman knowing she has a partner, eg again can you trust that person to not sleep with your own partner?

What is "real"? Are you even a "good" friend is one thing everyone should reflect themselves on. Not necessarily do the 'preacher's gig.

Zac