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There's a lot of different tech for this, but I wanted to throw out a couple of easy ones. Quick note on the effect - creating anticipation heightens emotions like uncertainty, confusion, excitement, and interest, and puts a woman's mind on alert, making her pay more attention to you and regard you as a stronger / more commanding man. It does all kinds of good things for both building attraction, and stripping away resistance and objections... the more anticipation you can build, generally, the smoother your seductions will go.
To build anticipation, you want to imply that something is about to happen - you're going to give her a command, or you're going to tell her something fascinating, or you're going to do something exciting - but leave her hanging for a moment (or longer), the same as a cliffhanger at the end of an exciting episode of your favorite TV show or book series or movie. "What happens next? I have to know!" That's the feeling you want her having... and the more you can draw that feeling out, while creating a worthy impact when you finally get her her answer, the more powerful the effect.
Some quick and easy anticipation tech:
1. Leaning in and telling a girl "You know what?..." and then stopping, staring in her eyes, and smiling quizzically. She'll sit there and say, "What... What?" You can follow this up with a compliment on something you've just realized: "You're actually pretty smart, aren't you?" or a flirty tease: "You just like to bust people's stones, don't you?"
2. Commanding a girl with something like, "Sit down," the implication being that you're going to engage in some very important, meaningful conversation. Then, just take a long time to sit, get yourself adjusted, and start talking to her... 6 to 10 seconds of pause (assuming the two of you were standing next to the chairs or sofa or bench, and both sat immediately) is usually good here. You can begin with some substantial conversation here, referencing something interesting she mentioned to you earlier: "So tell me about this open relationship thing you've been doing with guys in..." "So tell me about this whole explore-all-of-Europe-before-I'm-25 goal you have going on..." "Tell me about this reasoning you have behind why you decided to do something with your life you don't enjoy instead of something you really want to do."
3. Telling a girl to stop when you notice something she's doing or something about her under the surface. This one's a bit more advanced - you've actually got to be realizing interesting things behind what a woman's telling you, or things she's doing. So, she might have been talking for a while, and you say, "Wait, stop... hold up, stop talking a second. I just realized something." Then let it hang; she may say "what," or she may just stare at you in anticipation. And you follow it up with something relevant and ideally revealing, such as, "You don't even realize you're contradicting your own reason for wanting that, do you?" or, "You can't seem to stop biting your lip as you're talking to me. Is there something you want to tell me that you're not?" You have to be mindful to do this warmly and not confrontational, though - it's not a challenge, it's a revelation... a realization. It should be eye-opening rather than something that puts her on the defensive.
Anyway, those are just a few to get you started. I'm sure you fellas have plenty of your own anticipation-builders you can contribute here too.
Chase
To build anticipation, you want to imply that something is about to happen - you're going to give her a command, or you're going to tell her something fascinating, or you're going to do something exciting - but leave her hanging for a moment (or longer), the same as a cliffhanger at the end of an exciting episode of your favorite TV show or book series or movie. "What happens next? I have to know!" That's the feeling you want her having... and the more you can draw that feeling out, while creating a worthy impact when you finally get her her answer, the more powerful the effect.
Some quick and easy anticipation tech:
1. Leaning in and telling a girl "You know what?..." and then stopping, staring in her eyes, and smiling quizzically. She'll sit there and say, "What... What?" You can follow this up with a compliment on something you've just realized: "You're actually pretty smart, aren't you?" or a flirty tease: "You just like to bust people's stones, don't you?"
2. Commanding a girl with something like, "Sit down," the implication being that you're going to engage in some very important, meaningful conversation. Then, just take a long time to sit, get yourself adjusted, and start talking to her... 6 to 10 seconds of pause (assuming the two of you were standing next to the chairs or sofa or bench, and both sat immediately) is usually good here. You can begin with some substantial conversation here, referencing something interesting she mentioned to you earlier: "So tell me about this open relationship thing you've been doing with guys in..." "So tell me about this whole explore-all-of-Europe-before-I'm-25 goal you have going on..." "Tell me about this reasoning you have behind why you decided to do something with your life you don't enjoy instead of something you really want to do."
3. Telling a girl to stop when you notice something she's doing or something about her under the surface. This one's a bit more advanced - you've actually got to be realizing interesting things behind what a woman's telling you, or things she's doing. So, she might have been talking for a while, and you say, "Wait, stop... hold up, stop talking a second. I just realized something." Then let it hang; she may say "what," or she may just stare at you in anticipation. And you follow it up with something relevant and ideally revealing, such as, "You don't even realize you're contradicting your own reason for wanting that, do you?" or, "You can't seem to stop biting your lip as you're talking to me. Is there something you want to tell me that you're not?" You have to be mindful to do this warmly and not confrontational, though - it's not a challenge, it's a revelation... a realization. It should be eye-opening rather than something that puts her on the defensive.
Anyway, those are just a few to get you started. I'm sure you fellas have plenty of your own anticipation-builders you can contribute here too.
Chase
