Calls & Texts Critique my instant messaging please

[Marty]

Okay, so unless you have never read any of my field reports, you will know that I conduct almost all my fieldwork in day game, with the occasional spot of night-street game thrown in. I love the in-person opening and don't believe that online interaction can in any way replace it.

However, there's no reason not to supplement active practical fieldwork with a little online exploration, and recently I started using the phone app HotOrNot, at the advice of another user, chiefly to get my appearance rated. As I'm sure many of you know, a side-effect of this is that if you "like" a girl who also "likes" you, a "mutual attraction" is established, your accounts are connected and you can instant-message each other.

I figured this would be reasonable practice for text messaging, though it has the huge disadvantage that the girl has never met you and cannot witness your confidence and assertiveness in the field.

Anyway, I had the following exchange with a very pretty 19-year-old brunette who had posted 7 photos that gave the wholesome impression of a tennis-playing, horse-riding, active All-American college girl. It is of purely academic interest as I am clearly not going to jet out to some flyover state to meet her However, I have no illusion about the fact that there is a lot I can learn from you fellas about texting, so I'm reproducing the exchange verbatim, redacting only names and locations.

All replies are separated by less than 5 minutes unless indicated otherwise.

• Marty: Hey {Girl}. Wonderful photos... Love your power-stance in #5!
  
  Girl: oh yeah?
  
  Marty: Yeah. Are the outdoor ones taken in {State}?
  
  Girl: yeah and why u like that 1 honest
  
  Marty: Because I find that show of feminine confidence sexy. I'd rather say that to your face, of course, but we're separated by hundreds of miles.
  
  Girl: haha it's not that you can see my vagina
  
  Marty: You're very silly. It's cute though
  
  Marty: I like #2 as well, with your mouth open

This second effort to elicit a response is ignored for around 24 hours, but the next day she reappears:

• Girl: heyyy
  
  Marty: ?
  
  Girl: You like my mouth open huh
  
  Marty: Among other things, yes
  
  Girl: hahah what other things
  
  Marty: Ah well you can't tell everything from a photo, but it looks like you have long sexy legs and are generally an exceptionally attractive woman. Oh and your texts make me laugh
  
  Girl: well good I am a horny teen what ya expect
  
  Marty: But soon to be a teen no more... When do you turn 20?
  
  Girl: 8 months
  
  Marty: Good. Well it would ordinarily be my pleasure to help you satisfy those urges, but {State} is a little distant... Looks like {State} girls are going to get all the action from my side for the present
  
  Girl: awww
  
  Marty: What about where you are? Is there a healthy supply of confident, attractive men who can see what you need and lead you to it quickly?
  
  Girl: no
  
  Marty: Oh dear. Well then you should consider moving. Are you there for your studies? I hope you're not expecting me to fly out and rescue you. I'm not the "rescuing sort"
  
  Girl: hehe it's ok I wish ya could
  
  Marty: Be careful what you wish for. Wait till you get to know me
  
  Girl: why's that
  
  Marty: I'll leave it to your imagination
  
  Girl: ughhh

At this point I suggested she text me her cell number, but this was ignored and I have not heard any further from her for over 24 hours... I'm assuming the interaction is over.

In general I am interested to hear your constructive criticism!

Thanks
-Marty

 

[PinotNoir]

Marty: Hey {Girl}. Wonderful photos... Love your power-stance in #5!
Girl: oh yeah?
Marty: Yeah. Are the outdoor ones taken in {State}?
Girl: yeah and why u like that 1 honest

Normal, just trying to open her.

Marty: Because I find that show of feminine confidence sexy. I'd rather say that to your face, of course, but we're separated by hundreds of miles.

I love this!

Girl: haha it's not that you can see my vagina
Marty: You're very silly. It's cute though
Marty: I like #2 as well, with your mouth open

Wow, she went very direct, and you kind of responded aloof. It's a strong hint that she's looking for a sexual conversation, and you chose not to participate.

Instead, maybe:

Girl: haha it's not that you can see my vagina
Option #1: oh, so you admit that you DO HAVE pics of your vagina. naughty girl
Option #2: well.... I do have a strong imagination, among other things.
Option #3: are you SURE? I definitely see some camel toe peeking through. (more direct-playful)

EDIT: Option #4: why do you WANT me to see your vagina? I knew your angelic face didn't fool me for a second naughty girl (sexual frame with "angelic face" line stolen from another member)

Some guys would suggest "you're right! where are those pics at?" But, I feel like that's too direct for my style.


The rest of the conversation is a continuation of her trying to steer it sexual, and you say some good things, but aren't really on her wavelength of current conversation, and therefore, sound more platonic-sexual instead of sexual.

Of course, you have to watch out for "fakes" and "trolls" on any online service. She could be a man trying to get you to send her nude pics. For this reason, I don't ever suggest sending nude pics to someone unless you have met them in person.

However, with the right conversation, you could have steered this into sexual and then into phone sex. Of course, phone sex is not the mission here, but I think it definitely could have happened. After enough sexual talk, then you'd just suggest, "Hey, my fingers are getting tired, and I need them rested for what's about to come. How about I call you up?" Then it's all downhill to phone sex from there, no problem. Still, you don't want to get "caught" in a phone sex relationship with a girl and get hooked to her. But, knowing that you constantly approach and are very experienced, I think you could have experienced the phone sex just fine and had an enjoyable encounter (if you would have agreed to it) Here's to next time! Cheers.