Crushes and Expiration Date

[Frost]

Hey there,

After reading the article about "Attraction has an expiration date" it got me thinking. What's going on when a girl has a crush on you? I've recently been reading a lot about female psychology and similar topics, and apparently not taking women seriously and being sarcastic establishes you as an Alpha in her eyes and makes her want you. And I noticed that I've been acting this way to some of the girls I know (The ones I'm not really interested in) and it seems some of them are getting a crush on me.

So from a (let's say) theoretical point of view, how does this situation relate to the idea that attraction has an expiration date? What are your thoughts and insights?

 

[Raqimus]

Move things towards sex and see what happens, that will let you know if she's really still attracted or not.

 

[Bboy100]

Raqimus,

I'm assuming these girls are in your Social Circle. In Social Circle, attraction typically expires MUCH slower. And the amount of time it takes can vary greatly. It can take anywhere between days and years for attraction to expire. Furthermore, it won't be very clear when it has expired. In cold approach, women make it very clear when they're not interested in you. Whereas, in Social Circle, she knows she's gonna see/interact with you again, so she has a lot more incentive to be "nice" to you. Which can often be misinterpreted as attraction.

So like Frost said, the only way to know is to move things forward. Otherwise, you could've been friend-zoned a long time ago and not even know it. Or, they could Chase you for years. You'll never really know.

Generally speaking, attraction expiring is a lot more pressing matter in cold approach (which is what GC mostly advocates). It's still a thing in SC, but its a lot less important.

 

[Frost]

Thanks for your answers guys.

With some I can tell that it's more than just being nice, and if I play it right I'm very confident that I can move things forward, but that's not my intention.

I just wanted to get a better understanding of what's happening. Maybe because they are in my social circle they think that they might have a shot eventually.