Cultivating "Balls"

[Zoro]

Through out my life, there have been instances where being a pussy held me back. Interacting with women, snowboarding, and skateboarding are the examples that most easily come to mind.

When I have been a man and taken risks I have seen the fruits. Ex. Playing a huge concert with little time to prepare, quitting a job because I want more freedom, being a man around women and seeing them brighten up.

This is probably pretty obvious stuff, however I think it's a good idea to talk about it and see if there is a methodical way to grow some balls.

My plan is to meditate on it, keep gently pushing myself and be reminded how awesome being outcome independent works.

Last night I was at a grocery store where this cute girl works and I can sense some tension between us and interest from her. I had a thousand lame excuses why I didn't run my process with her, however unrefined it may be at the moment. There are too many times where I analyze instead of experience. When I look back on moments where I took a risk and stepped out of my comfort zone, I feel alive, so good and grow as a man. That sounds like a good habit to cultivate.

As some parting thoughts, I want to share this little bit from Brad P's Forbidden truth.

Having theoretical knowledge of seduction is maybe 5% of the battle. The rest of it is theapplication of fundamentals. Here are the fundamentals, in order of importance:

1. Social Courage ("balls")
2. Identity
3. Determination
4. Frame control
5. Body Language
6. Voice Tone
7. Discipline
8. Positivity
9. Image/Appearance
10. Genuine Sexual Intentions

If you have all of these pieces in place, a little bit of theory will take you a long way

I think if you were to give weight to the important of each of these categories, having balls would out weigh the rest greatly. Most of the categories, I can check off, but since I'm lacking enough number one, I sideline myself. Like a Ferrari without an engine. You could put a ferrari's engine in a shit looking car and smoke the sports car with no means to move.

Looking forward to your thoughts

-JW

 

[Axel Page]

Great post man. I agree, having the balls to leave your comfort zone is by far the most important aspect. At first, you have that nervous, scared feeling. It doesn't even matter how the situation goes the first or second time around.

After a while though - you become more and more confident and start to seek out the uncomfortable situations. Everything else falls into place at this point, and it feels damn good. The biggest shame is when I see people go through life, living in a tiny social bubble, never really seeing what life has to offer.

 

[rocky]

The beauty about cultivating balls is that cultivating even a little bit of balls makes you want to do more fearful things, thereby giving you even bigger balls. So they have like a "self-cultivating" mechanism. Unfortunately it also works the other way, the less risks you are willing to take the smaller your balls get.